Divorce Bling

[lioness]

It's been nasty. It's been long and evil. Our daughters are traumatized by his manipulative and misogynistic behavior. He's also a white supremacist, and has stated as much in his court filings. Of course, I'm a woman of color. Guess what? So are our daughters.

There is a break in the clouds. This will be over with soon.

What kind of bling would you want in order to commemorate the closing of a frustrating and painful chapter of your life? I'm thinking a five stone right-hand ring, a smashing AVR or a marquise, but all suggestions are appreciated. Surprise me. Thrill me. Make me crack a huge smile. Please make sure I can't resist the urge to click on the "buy now" button.

 

[OreoRosies86]

First off, so sorry for all you and your children have been through. Congratulations on your hard won liberation

If it were me, I would choose something with a pop of color. Like a big fabulous sapphire, or a pink diamond band.

 

[Indylady]

It's been nasty. It's been long and evil. Our daughters are traumatized by his manipulative and misogynistic behavior. He's also a white supremacist, and has stated as much in his court filings. Of course, I'm a woman of color. Guess what? So are our daughters.

There is a break in the clouds. This will be over with soon.

What kind of bling would you want in order to commemorate the closing of a frustrating and painful chapter of your life? I'm thinking a five stone right-hand ring, a smashing AVR or a marquise, but all suggestions are appreciated. Surprise me. Thrill me. Make me crack a huge smile. Please make sure I can't resist the urge to click on the "buy now" button.

Congratulations to you. It takes a lot of strength to get out of an negative relationship, and especially so from someone that is manipulative.

What kind of bling would I get to commemorate this occasion?

A yellow diamond ring. Or another fancy colored diamond--I love pinks, blues, greens--actually, I love them all and find them mesmerizing. I like yellow because its sunny and beautiful, and because you may actually get something sizable for a reasonable amount of $$.

A carre cut band; I love the sharp lines.

A ruby, an emerald, or a sapphire--a CS classic that will be timeless.

Or a huge, spready marquise in a halo. I love the finger coverage; I find marquise diamonds to be so tasteful and elegant.

What do you think? What are you leaning towards?

 

[arkieb1]

Something Antique? Perhaps an Art Deco piece that is elegant, rich and beautiful, with a either a diamond in the middle or a glorious electric blue sapphire, or a ripe red ruby. It will look like a RHR rather than engagement like. Something that celebrates what a strong incredible woman you are. I am sorry for the difficult time you are having and especially sorry for your children, but kids are much more resilient than we give them credit for - you will all get through this!!!!

 

[Gypsy]

I am a fan of pendants. Worn right over your heart.

If you don't have a solitaire pendant that's what I'd get. A single GORGEOUS stone (AVR?) that is a symbol of how strong and beautiful a SINGLE shining star can be.

And whenever you get down, you can look at it, and remember that being single is beautiful. And that you made the right choice.


Also... WTF your EX is a white supremacist with daughters who are women of color. Don't worry. Karma will bite him in the arse.

Alternately a three stone. Representing you and your daughters. And I personally would do three colored gemstones to represent three women of color standing on their own. I'll see if I can find pictures of what I have in mind for that.

 

[Gypsy]

Ok so, you don't have to do colored diamonds. You can pick a color: pink sapphires, blue sapphires, green tsavorites. Whatever. And do a three stone with a halo like the first pic. The point is that color is beautiful. And that the white diamonds are there only as supporting cast... the star is color.

Or you can do a single colored stone for a ring, and then get matching earrings-- one earring for each girl. That way you get a set!

Or can forget halos and do something like the last ring here.

 

[SB621]

What is your budget? I have a bunch of stuff I could post.


And hugs! I love your screen name as you sound fearless to get through all of this. Stay strong!

 

[chrono]

I would get anything that is coloured to show that I am proud of who I am and what I am.

 

[movie zombie]

I like your style: divorce bling!!!!
and you deserve the best you can afford!

I offer this website for your viewing pleasure: http://www.langantiques.com/

 

[Lady_Disdain]

How about a pendant for yourself and similar pendants (age appropriate) for your daughters, as symbols of your freedom and commitment to each other? Unless they are already in their late teens, rings wouldn't be such a good idea, as their finger size will probably change.

If each of you have a different favourite colour (or just identify more with a particular colour or shade), I would have that stone as a center stone with side stones representing the other family members supporting them. Take a look at triadic or split complementary color schemes for inspirations: http://www.malanenewman.com/color_theory_color_wheel.html or https://www.markboulton.co.uk/journal/five-simple-steps-to-designing-with-colour-part-2-a-few-basics

If you have two daughters, for example, you could do double halo pendants in a triadic scheme: a purplish-red rhodolite for your center stone, with the inner halo being tealish sapphires or tourmalines and the second halo of spessertites in a warm orange-yellow. One girl would have a teal centerstone with rhodolite and spess halos, the other, a spess surrounded by teal stones and rhodolites.

If that is too bright, you can use a simper colour scheme, with adjacent colours: yellow, orange, red or blue, purple, red.

 

[purplesparklies]

How about a pendant for yourself and similar pendants (age appropriate) for your daughters, as symbols of your freedom and commitment to each other? Unless they are already in their late teens, rings wouldn't be such a good idea, as their finger size will probably change.

If each of you have a different favourite colour (or just identify more with a particular colour or shade), I would have that stone as a center stone with side stones representing the other family members supporting them. Take a look at triadic or split complementary color schemes for inspirations: http://www.malanenewman.com/color_theory_color_wheel.html or https://www.markboulton.co.uk/journal/five-simple-steps-to-designing-with-colour-part-2-a-few-basics

If you have two daughters, for example, you could do double halo pendants in a triadic scheme: a purplish-red rhodolite for your center stone, with the inner halo being tealish sapphires or tourmalines and the second halo of spessertites in a warm orange-yellow. One girl would have a teal centerstone with rhodolite and spess halos, the other, a spess surrounded by teal stones and rhodolites.

If that is too bright, you can use a simper colour scheme, with adjacent colours: yellow, orange, red or blue, purple, red.

Love it. What a fantastic, symbolic idea!

 

[Harpertoo]

maybe something edgy a la Jennifer Fisher.....

 

[Dreamer_D]

I would get anything that is coloured to show that I am proud of who I am and what I am.

Yes! I was thinking the same thing And make it a three stone -- larger colored gem in the center and smaller diamonds sides -- so the triptych could also reflect you and your daughters (if there are two and not more!).

 

[luv2sparkle]

I don't know but what ever it is I hope you go for AWESOME!!! You deserve it. Big hugs to you and your daughters!

 

[SMC]

How many daughters do you have? If you have 2, what about a 3 stone to celebrate your new life with just the 3 of you?

 

[dk168]

Any jewellery with rainbow sapphires?

I would love one of Judy Mayfield's rings, and this one in her current collection caught my eyes:

http://www.mayfieldsinc.com/products.php?cPath=21_23&products_id=36

A ring is what I would choose, a piece that I can see all the time, and a rainbow always makes me smile, as to see one in nature means the sun is shining (i.e. positive).

Good luck!

DK

 

[LtypeI]

Alternately a three stone. Representing you and your daughters. And I personally would do three colored gemstones to represent three women of color standing on their own. I'll see if I can find pictures of what I have in mind for that.

Completely and utterly love this idea! Yes yes yes!

I also love Lady Disdain's idea of getting jewelry for your daughters. Pendants are sweet! I'm currently designing a unicorn pendant for my daughter that can be worn on a bracelet or necklace, maybe something like that?

 

[Gypsy]

I just had another thought. I love Alex Sepkus' pieces. He does GORGEOUS things with color.

Something like this: http://www.alexsepkus.com/index.php/rings/10#!product=210&referer=10 All different colors living in harmony, for me has great symbolism. And this one (especially since you have girls!): http://www.bengarelick.com/collections/alex-sepkus/products/alex-sepkus-domed-18k-yellow-gold-candy-ring-set-with-1-00-carat-purple-and-pink-sapphires-and-0-12-carat-diamonds

http://www.vonbargensjewelry.com/product.php?mfrid=4&pid=3035&catid=1141#sthash.nGdYJetg.dpbs pink!

Pink and purple: http://www.vonbargensjewelry.com/product.php?mfrid=4&pid=2480&catid=1141#sthash.4N4j8tF6.dpbs

http://www.alexsepkus.com/index.php/rings/10#!product=211&referer=10

http://www.alexsepkus.com/index.php/rings/10#!product=205&referer=10

http://www.alexsepkus.com/index.php/rings/10#!product=423&referer=10

My personal favorite (I like the colors): http://www.alexsepkus.com/index.php/rings/10#!product=208&referer=10 and: http://www.vonbargensjewelry.com/product.php?mfrid=4&pid=108&catid=1141#sthash.VNf8c0MJ.dpbs

There are some on ebay:
http://www.ebay.com/itm/18k-Yellow-Gold-Alex-Sepkus-Little-Windows-Diamond-Dome-Ring-Size-9-750-/360926445057?pt=LH_DefaultDomain_0&hash=item5408e47e01

and

http://www.ebay.com/itm/Estate-Alex-Sepkus-Diamond-Sapphire-Ruby-18k-Eternity-Band-Ring-/231237816675?pt=LH_DefaultDomain_0&hash=item35d6d91163

 

[Gypsy]

I wanted to post this...http://www.diamondsbylauren.com/index.php/jewelry/old-mine-brilliant-189ct-branded-dbl-modern-antique-diamond-gia-r5163-

 

[m-2-b]

Something about this marquise cut ring appeals to me in your situation:
http://www.jewelsbygrace.com/rings/vintage-and-antique/1-59ct-antique-marquise-cut-diamond-ring.html#.U4VUei9n9T4

 

[lioness]

Thank you, you amazing PScopers, for your responses!

And, while I love blue sapphires, guess what my ering from this schmuck is? I won't be choosing one for my D-Bling....

 

[lioness]

First off, so sorry for all you and your children have been through. Congratulations on your hard won liberation

If it were me, I would choose something with a pop of color. Like a big fabulous sapphire, or a pink diamond band.

Thank you!!!

 

[lioness]

It's been nasty. It's been long and evil. Our daughters are traumatized by his manipulative and misogynistic behavior. He's also a white supremacist, and has stated as much in his court filings. Of course, I'm a woman of color. Guess what? So are our daughters.

There is a break in the clouds. This will be over with soon.

What kind of bling would you want in order to commemorate the closing of a frustrating and painful chapter of your life? I'm thinking a five stone right-hand ring, a smashing AVR or a marquise, but all suggestions are appreciated. Surprise me. Thrill me. Make me crack a huge smile. Please make sure I can't resist the urge to click on the "buy now" button.

Congratulations to you. It takes a lot of strength to get out of an negative relationship, and especially so from someone that is manipulative.

What kind of bling would I get to commemorate this occasion?

A yellow diamond ring. Or another fancy colored diamond--I love pinks, blues, greens--actually, I love them all and find them mesmerizing. I like yellow because its sunny and beautiful, and because you may actually get something sizable for a reasonable amount of $$.

A carre cut band; I love the sharp lines.

A ruby, an emerald, or a sapphire--a CS classic that will be timeless.

Or a huge, spready marquise in a halo. I love the finger coverage; I find marquise diamonds to be so tasteful and elegant.

What do you think? What are you leaning towards?

I'm really liking the idea of a FCD in a three-stone... Yellow would be fabulous, and it would symbolize the sun breaking through the clouds. Brown? Symbolizing my tan skin, which my ex suddenly deemed inferior after I told him that I would be filing for divorce?

 

[lioness]

Something Antique? Perhaps an Art Deco piece that is elegant, rich and beautiful, with a either a diamond in the middle or a glorious electric blue sapphire, or a ripe red ruby. It will look like a RHR rather than engagement like. Something that celebrates what a strong incredible woman you are. I am sorry for the difficult time you are having and especially sorry for your children, but kids are much more resilient than we give them credit for - you will all get through this!!!!

Thank you, you're too kind. Kids are resilient, but they shouldn't have to be exposed to this sort of drama.

 

[lioness]

I am a fan of pendants. Worn right over your heart.

If you don't have a solitaire pendant that's what I'd get. A single GORGEOUS stone (AVR?) that is a symbol of how strong and beautiful a SINGLE shining star can be.

And whenever you get down, you can look at it, and remember that being single is beautiful. And that you made the right choice.


Also... WTF your EX is a white supremacist with daughters who are women of color. Don't worry. Karma will bite him in the arse.

Alternately a three stone. Representing you and your daughters. And I personally would do three colored gemstones to represent three women of color standing on their own. I'll see if I can find pictures of what I have in mind for that.

Oh, it's amazing what you learn about the person you're married to once you drop papers on him.... It's not like I suddenly morphed into a tan-skinned woman of Hispanic descent the moment he was served. Now, he's actually saying to people and stating in court motions that I should have been grateful to have been married to him because "she's not even white." He had no issue with my skin color when he was thinking of green, as in green card....

I like the three-stone idea because I have two daughters. I'd love to see the pictures, please.

If I get an AVR, I'm wearing it as a ring so I can stare at it all the time! I love those things!!

 

[lioness]

What is your budget? I have a bunch of stuff I could post.


And hugs! I love your screen name as you sound fearless to get through all of this. Stay strong!

I don't know my budget yet, depends on the settlement. Where we are, the divorce is quick but final custody and the settlement are handled in separate proceedings.

And, thank you! I will roar and claw to take care of my cubs....

 

[lioness]

I would get anything that is coloured to show that I am proud of who I am and what I am.

I like that. Brown diamond? Tan and unbreakable....

 

[lioness]

I like your style: divorce bling!!!!
and you deserve the best you can afford!

I offer this website for your viewing pleasure: http://www.langantiques.com/

OMG, I need to pour myself a glass of wine, sit back and check out that site. Gasp....

 

[lioness]

How about a pendant for yourself and similar pendants (age appropriate) for your daughters, as symbols of your freedom and commitment to each other? Unless they are already in their late teens, rings wouldn't be such a good idea, as their finger size will probably change.

If each of you have a different favourite colour (or just identify more with a particular colour or shade), I would have that stone as a center stone with side stones representing the other family members supporting them. Take a look at triadic or split complementary color schemes for inspirations: http://www.malanenewman.com/color_theory_color_wheel.html or https://www.markboulton.co.uk/journal/five-simple-steps-to-designing-with-colour-part-2-a-few-basics

If you have two daughters, for example, you could do double halo pendants in a triadic scheme: a purplish-red rhodolite for your center stone, with the inner halo being tealish sapphires or tourmalines and the second halo of spessertites in a warm orange-yellow. One girl would have a teal centerstone with rhodolite and spess halos, the other, a spess surrounded by teal stones and rhodolites.

If that is too bright, you can use a simper colour scheme, with adjacent colours: yellow, orange, red or blue, purple, red.

ouble halo

Hmmm, I have two daughters, a double halo pendant?

 

[lioness]

I would get anything that is coloured to show that I am proud of who I am and what I am.

Yes! I was thinking the same thing And make it a three stone -- larger colored gem in the center and smaller diamonds sides -- so the triptych could also reflect you and your daughters (if there are two and not more!).

I thank you and and everyone who suggested a three-stone. I am in love with the idea. A plus - my ering from my ex is a three-stone. Rather nice way to represent the end of an era.