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Could You Sell Your Eggs? Or If You're A Guy . . .

iLander

iLander

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Could/would you sell your eggs to someone that needed them?

Or if you're a guy, would you be a sperm donor?

Why or why not?

Or maybe someone has done these things, what was it like? Did you need the money? What did you spend it on?

What about surrogacy, could you do that?

How much $$ would it take to make you consider it?

Just curious . . .
 
I wouldn't sell my eggs for money because I work very hard to minimize as many medical-type interventions as possible, so I would never choose to have any sort of elective medical stuff done on my body. No amount of money would make me reconsider. Keeping my body healthy and avoiding risky behavior is worth more than money for me.

HOWEVER, if one of my sisters couldn't conceive and she wanted a child and asked me to donate an egg, I would do that in a heartbeat. But seeing as how I'm turning out to be an unpleasant pregnant woman, I wouldn't carry the child for her or anything. She'd have to find a surrogate. :cheeky:

I would probably have a surgery to help a loved one as well, if that's what you're asking--kidney donation, bone marrow transplant, etc. But I'd need to know the details and the risks, if other options existed, etc.

Scary story--Some egg donation "company" used MY picture to accompany a potential donor's profile. A friend of mine found it on Craigslist. I went ballistic, it was a photo that my college included in a department newsletter years ago, and it must have been archived online or something. A lawyer friend sent them a scary letter and they removed the picture, but I always wonder if it's still out there somewhere.
 
Nope! Mainly because I'm afraid of the drugs they have to pump into you to ramp up egg production. I used to think there was no way I could be a surrogate...but now I sort of think I could, mentally. Physically, though, I'm not sure. Pregnancy is pretty hard and after I'm done having my own (3-4) kids I doubt I'd be up for another.
 
No, it would always bother me that someone had my child.
 
I wouldn't give my eggs away, even if they were worth having (which they aren't). I would hate to think my baby was out there somewhere and I wasn't bringing it up. But I wouldn't hesitate to give my bone marrow or a kidney to my kids/husband/parents/sister if they needed them.
 
I actually HAVE considered this, though with my medical conditions and family histories, it's not exactly a favorable egg to use...
 
Nah, I'm too old. I think the cutoff age is 29? Even if I weren't too old, I still wouldn't do it. Too much jacking around with your body. I won't even take hormonal birth control.
 
I don't think I could sell my eggs, but for a close friend or close relative with fertility issues, I would donate an egg, or be a surrogate in a heartbeat if they asked. I probably wouldn't accept payment (other than the medical procedures) for the egg, or for being a surrogate for a loved one, because I feel very strongly for people going through infertility...Besides, I loved being pregnant!
 
I don't think I'd have a problem with it. Though, I don't think the amount of money is sufficient to make me jump at the chance. I looked into it once, just for fun, and it seemed like there were much easier ways to earn that amount of money, need be.
 
monarch64|1339548232|3215005 said:
Nah, I'm too old. I think the cutoff age is 29?
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Seriously, is that true?
 
I would not sell/give one of my eggs even if the procedure were simple and non-invasive, even for a close family member or friend. I couldn't even give away one of my cats, I wouldn't be able to deal with my brother or best friend bringing up a child that was "half mine."

Bone marrow, kidney... yeah, OK.

Haven, I didn't know you were pregnant -- congratulations!
 
I would not sell my eggs. If I had them to give, they would be given to family only.

I get an "Uh-oh" feeling about sperm donors and how often they can donate. And how many people might some day be closely related. And what kinds of biological problems that may create.
 
No.
 
I couldn't sell my eggs. I often wonder if men who've donated sperm think about the potential number of kids they have without even knowing it. If a family member really needed it, I'm not sure what I would do.

I would be willing to be a gestational carrier for a family member, though.
 
Maisie|1339544133|3214966 said:
I I would hate to think my baby was out there somewhere and I wasn't bringing it up. But I wouldn't hesitate to give my bone marrow or a kidney to my kids/husband/parents/sister if they needed them.
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This.
 
Mikla|1339550728|3215025 said:
monarch64|1339548232|3215005 said:
Nah, I'm too old. I think the cutoff age is 29?
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Seriously, is that true?
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Depends on the donor company. "Commonly" the age range is 21-35. When I looked into it for kicks several years ago, the place I found online had a cutoff age of 29.
 
Does anybody know what they pay for eggs?

My eggs are too old (and probably cracked :D ) but I'm curious about all this.

I could never do it, I'd feel horribly guilty, but I'm wondering.

I wouldn't surrogate for anyone except my DD, but that would be too weird, giving birth to your own grandchild. :shock:
 
http://www.cumc.columbia.edu/dept/obgyn/services/infertility/newsletters/egg_donor.pdf

That link is pretty informative and addresses several of the questions/concerns voiced in this thread.

Compensation is based on a bunch of factors and you would really have to determine whether it was worth the time and effort involved. You can't drink or smoke, take prescription drugs, etc. Your job or school might be interrupted. It's a pretty rigorous process from what I understand.

Holly, there does appear to be a limit on donations in place for the sole purpose of the concern you were describing.
 
Yes, but I would want it to be an auction. That always drives the price up.
 
I would not donate my eggs. Too weird to think I had a child out there running around without me ever getting to know him/her.

I love being pregnant though--surrogacy would be something I would consider.
 
I psychologically don't have a problem with donating eggs (that there may be a child out there I don't know about, obviously it would be a wanted child, with opportunities), I have a relatively high pain threshold, and because of physical appearance/educational factors I could have definitely been a donor. I actually considered doing this in grad school. My husband (boyfriend at the time) talked me out of it because it could potentially affect future fertility. That's the only thing I would have regretted, if I did it, but then couldn't have my own child later. As far as price, the ad I was going to answer was offering I believe 10K, I can't remember for how many cycles.


I am OK with surrogacy as well. Like my Mom my pregancies have been relatively easy (I actually feel emotionally much better when I'm pregnant). But too old for all that now.
 
In college, not fully understanding the repercussions, and being perpetually strapped for cash, I almost responded to a private ad offering 30k if you met a particular set of criteria.

I ran it by my dad, who is into writing papers, and he was like absolutely not, so I didn't. BUT from that he was inspired to write a paper (he is into writing papers; technically I am a co-author - woot!) about autonomy and the lack of informed consent among college age students. Basically, he saw a huge problem with people offering seemingly outrageous sums of money to young, uninformed and strapped for cash students - immature but legally allowed to make the decision - without adequate disclosure of the consequences.

Anyway, the article was sort of interesting - **edited by moderator. please do not link to things with your identifying information in it**

And to answer the OP, similarly to other posters, my sister and I have a deal that we can share eggs if either of us has an issue, but I completely draw the line there. There was actually a hilarious Facebook (or maybe text) exchange between me, my sister, and my brother about it, and my brother was like "would you guys do that for me if me and my wife couldn't have kids?" (he is a teenager), and we were like EW NO. And he got truly upset and really offended about being left out, as only a little brother could, before he realized exactly how that would work. I don't know if we've ever laughed harder (but you probably had to be there :) ).
 
I looked at selling my eggs and intended to put he money away for DS for college. But it doesn't pay as much as I thought (about $3500 from the places I found in town). I thought it was more like 10k.

I wouldn't surrogate for money, but there is a chance my half-sisters have inherited a condition that could make carrying a pregnancy full-term impossible. I have offered to surrogate for them. Of course they're younger and not married, and the father also has to be a carrier for the condition to happen, so the chances are slim that they'll need me.
 
I absolutely would sell/give my eggs! I'm not using them!

I have seen many women be heartbroken over not being able to have a baby. I would be honored if my egg fills the hole in a woman's heart from not being able to conceive. I would not be able to be a surrogate though. That would be too emotional for me.

I donate blood as much as I can since I am O+ and they are always telling me they need it. I am also on the Be A Match list that donates bone marrow. I read that it is painful, but I don't care. The pain is worth it to me to help other people.

If I have "parts" that I have two or more of I am more than willing to share with others that don't.
 
Selling your eggs is illegal here, for many of the reasons atp mentioned, so that nixes the selling ;))

I have talked to my younger sister about donating eggs to her if she ever needed them, or acting as a surrogate for her. We're both married but neither of us have children yet, so it was a fairly hypothetical discussion. I think I'd do it for her, but no one else, because I would feel a deep responsibility for "my" child and I think she'd raise him/her in a way that would make me comfortable.
 
I'm sure my eggs passed their expiration date quite a while ago, but I don't think I could donate, unless it was for a family member or very close friend. Even then, I'm not sure. Surrogacy might have been an option, again for family or friend, until my second pregnancy, which was difficult, and baby tried to come very early, so I'd think that would have eliminated me as a candidate. Still, I know of at least one family that used an anonymous donor egg. That donor made a huge difference in their lives.
 
AprilBaby|1339543812|3214961 said:
No, it would always bother me that someone had my child.
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This.
 
The reason I would not donate sperm is my father was a horrible parent.
Today he'd be in jail for what he did.

If there is even an infinitesimal chance any of that bad parenting is genetic I believe my DNA should terminate with my death.
Unfortunately my sister had a daughter who has had kids and I believe much of the same trouble is happening in that family.

I realize what I'm saying smacks of eugenics, but the OP's question is about whether we'd donate our own Egg/Sperm, and why.
I'm just answering that question, and not advocating any social policy regarding whom should be prevented from reproducing.
 
I would donate eggs to my sister and/or be a surrogate if needed, but that's it. It's too invasive to do for not that much $ in the scheme of things.
 
I have some medical issues, so they would never accept my eggs. But, if I could, then I absolutely would.

My partner is pregnant thanks to the sperm of an anonymous donor. I can't even begin to tell you all how much joy this has brought to our lives and how excited we are to be parents. If I could give this feeling to another person that was unable to have a baby, I would do it in a heartbeat.
 
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