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  1. kenny
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    by kenny » Nov 29, 2009
    If you caught your husband cheating on you would him offering you a large diamond help you get over it, forgive him and move on? - or would a diamond offer just add insult to injury?
     
    


    


  2. zoebartlett
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    by zoebartlett » Nov 29, 2009
    Seriously? No. I''m not sure what I''d do if I were in that situation but asking for a larger diamond would be furthest from my mind.
     
  3. that_someone_special
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    by that_someone_special » Nov 29, 2009
    Well it couldn''t HURT... ;-) jk

    Ahm no. If he cheated, well.. I might be put into jail because of my actions..

    A diamond wouldn''t make that sick feeling in my stomach go away. Or my heart hurt less. Or... anything like that.
     
  4. wsu12
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    Diamonds cannot repair broken trust.
     
    


    


  5. oddoneout
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    by oddoneout » Nov 29, 2009
    I''d kick the loser to the curb and buy my own diamond.
     
  6. Callisto
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    by Callisto » Nov 29, 2009
    I think I''d be insulted that he could think a material item could even begin to mend that wound.

    And honestly even if I did accept it I would always look at it as the diamond he bought me after he cheated on me... I''d prolly sell it anyways.
     
  7. Haven
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    by Haven » Nov 29, 2009
    This.

    Kenny--Are you asking because you need some personal advice?[​IMG]
     
  8. kenny
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    by kenny » Nov 29, 2009
    Nope.

    I've just been reading about the speculation about Tiger Woods cheating on his wife.
    Then someone said he needs one of those Kobe Specials, aka a large I'm-Sorry Diamond.

    I was wondering if all it takes is a honker to appease a cheated-on wife.
     
  9. MakingTheGrade
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    by MakingTheGrade » Nov 29, 2009
    It would just add insult to injury since he should know that I'd much prefer a large precision cut sapphire [​IMG]

    So not only would he have cheated, but he would have also proved how little he pays attention!
     
  10. Tacori E-ring
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    ditto.
     
    


    


  11. Tuckins1
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    by Tuckins1 » Nov 29, 2009
    He would be buying the diamond with our JOINT bank account, so he could actually just shove it where the sun don''t shine...
     
  12. CNOS128
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    by CNOS128 » Nov 29, 2009
    If I were married to him for his money, it would help!
     
  13. zoebartlett
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    by zoebartlett » Nov 29, 2009
    Okay, I misread the question. It doesn''t change my answer though.
     
  14. Rachel9
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    by Rachel9 » Nov 29, 2009
    No.
     
  15. MissGotRocks
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    by MissGotRocks » Nov 29, 2009
    But in this instance, we don''t know that he cheated. So if it was just a big old argument and misunderstanding, a large stone could go a long way, no?

    I''m guessing that some of these women married to big dollar guys don''t want a divorce - cheating or not. Why would they want to give up their lifestyle, money, social lives, etc.? So they are bought off and try to play happily ever after. Most of us don''t live in these circumstances. And we certainly don''t have to sell our souls for a dollar or a diamond - and wouldn''t!
     
    


    


  16. D2B
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    by D2B » Nov 29, 2009
    There was an estate sale I think last year in the UK, where some spectacular diamodns were sold, it made it into the papers because of the beauty of the diamonds and the fact that most were bought by the husband after an infedelity. he was apparently a successful business man who regularly cheated on his wife, and each time he did bought her another diamond. the family did not want to keep the diamonds, they said it was well known, but not talked about - too weird for me..
     
  17. yssie
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    by yssie » Nov 29, 2009
    Heck no.
     
  18. y2kitty
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    There was some speculation that Kobe''s wife took the big diamond because of how California''s divorce laws work. Now, its been 6 years and they are still together, so go figure. I would actually be more offended by someone thinking my forgiveness could be bought then I would be by the cheating.
     
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    by AprilBaby » Nov 29, 2009
    Would have to be one heck of a diamond!
     
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    by Irishgrrrl » Nov 29, 2009
    OK, if he ever cheated and bought me a diamond in the hope that it would get me to forgive him, he''d better hope for his sake that the diamond is pretty small. After all, the larger the diamond, the more it would hurt when I threw it back at him! Oh, and I would be throwing it culet first! [​IMG]
     
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    by exoticisabella » Nov 29, 2009
    Since I live in a community prop. state I''d take the diamond, give to my dad for safekeeping, and RUN! [​IMG][​IMG]
     
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    by diamondfan » Nov 29, 2009
    If I only were interested in his money and did not really care what he did, then maybe it would be fine. Many men decide that that is the way to repair things or assuage their guilt, and I am sure many wives, in the interest of staying together take it, and then always look at it and think of it as the guilt gift...so in the long run it would not likely help much anyway.
     
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    I would find it insulting and it would only make the situation worse.
     
  24. Dancing Fire
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    by Dancing Fire » Nov 29, 2009
    the penalty for cheating is... 1/2 ct for everytime he cheated. [​IMG]
     
  25. radiantquest
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    by radiantquest » Nov 29, 2009
    I would take the "peace offering" and still not forgive. I am not going to turn down a large beautiful diamond, but that does not mean that life would be any easier for him.

    In my mind I think that my goal would be to make him miserable for the rest of his life, but I am not sure if that is really how I would react. So yes, I think I would take the diamond, treat him terribly, and remind him that he is a disgrace every chance I got.
     
  26. Lynn B
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    by Lynn B » Nov 29, 2009
    No thanks!
     
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    I live in a community state so half of that large offering would have been paid by me. Why would I want to spend my money on a forgive-me-for-cheating gift from a cheating husband??
     
  28. miraclesrule
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    by miraclesrule » Nov 29, 2009
    I''d take the diamond and then kick his ass to the curb. [​IMG]
     
  29. perry
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    by perry » Nov 29, 2009
    From a guys perspective (with my own twist) .....; and you know... gals can cheat on guys too...

    A lot would depend on why, to what extent, circumstances, etc.

    In the right situation - with the right attitudeL: its a peace offering.

    Otherwise, it has no emotional value - and may have substaintial negative emotional value.

    Of course, it may have real financial value - which is another consideration.


    Perry
     
  30. exoticisabella
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    by exoticisabella » Nov 29, 2009
    Because you buy it from somebody with a buyback policy. Give it to a friend for safekeeping. Divorce. Then sell it back. If it was $50,000 in the event of a divorce he''d have $25,000 you''d have $25,000. But, if you went with the diamond and gave it away for a short period (so it''s not yours at the time of the divorce), then sold it back at 80% you''d have $40,000 and he''d have ZERO [​IMG]
     
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