BF''s "proposal"

[~*Alexis*~]

So BF and I just had dinner. We got a sticky on the door saying that they tried to deliver my ring!!

However, BF came up with a question and I thought I would run it by you all...deep down I know the answer but ITS SO HARD!!!!!!!!!

Would you rather have an earlier proposal with a so-so romantic vibe within the next 2-3 weeks???

OR

Would you rather have a later proposal (1-2 Months) and have it be uber romantic??


I told him I needed time to "ponder"...ponder meaning ask y''all....

Thoughts??

 

[blackpolkadot]

Just my .02

You have already waited a long time (measuring in LIW time, of course) for the proposal. What's another month to have a fab story to tell people?

 

[Deelight]

Date: 12/3/2008 6:45:14 PM
Author: blackpolkadot
Just my .02


You have already waited a long time (measuring in LIW time, of course) for the proposal. What''s another month to have a fab story to tell people?

Ditto, I could have had a proposal a lot sooner then what he did propose but then it wouldn''t have been in Paris - I opted a wait.

 

[Dreamgirl]

UUG. Tough one. I said later. Crazy I know. But it would be so awesome to have an uber-romantic proposal and to always have the story vs. "well, we have the ring now so gimmie gimmie!"

 

[FrekeChild]

Yay I was the first voter! I said sooner, but I think I should clarify that. FF isn't the romantic type, and it's not something I expect from him. Basically any effort on his part to make something special is all I want or need. He's never going to go do the "typical" romantic thing with a room full of roses and candlelight or whatever. I would rather have him so excited to propose to me that wanting to do it "right" and make a big deal out of it becomes a moot point. I don't want him to hold out for the perfect moment. What if that moment never comes?

Besides I think that big overblown productions are a little bit too much. Like that scene in Serendipity with Kate Beckinsale...it's beautiful and romantic, but if it wasn't a movie it would feel forced and like the guy was trying to impress the woman and not trying to stay true to them as a couple. And to me, the proposal is all about the couple. Not the ring or the gigantor presidential suite that's covered in rose petals and roses with a bath waiting, and champagne cooling in the corner.

I want the parking lot proposal. Or a buffalo wing proposal (yeah I don't know how he'd accomplish that either). But something that's us before it's the fairytale.

Having said all of that, we're pretty down to earth people, so that's what would fit us best, but I love to hear the beautiful stories of the most romantic proposals that were planned out to the last detail. It's adorable to hear that a guy has put that much effort into something to make his girl happy.

 

[Miscka]

How exciting!!!!!

I would say, wait. Even if to you romantic doesnt mean over-the-top, or if it does, it should be the way you have hoped it would be. Just don''t settle to have it earlier. You have waited this long, and will wear it forever, so whats a few weeks!

yay!

 

[Rhea]

Define romantic, please.

Of all the stories that I read on here I think that the most romantic are the ones where she was least expecting it, he got excited and proposed to her whilst she was brushing her teeth. Those are my favorite. To me they are funny, sweet, say what the relationship is really about (the day in, day out stuff), and I find it very romantic that he couldn''t wait to give her the ring so he just asked then and there.

I''d chose getting engaged in my PJs whilst brushing my teeth over getting engaged over a candle light dinner on Hawaii (or similar) anyday. All the planning seems, well, planned, which is not romantic to me.

BrillantNikki''s recent proposal is probably the most romantic thing I''ve read about recently. https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/im-engaged.100868/

 

[Rhea]

Date: 12/3/2008 6:55:00 PM
Author: FrekeChild
Yay I was the first voter! I said sooner, but I think I should clarify that. FF isn''t the romantic type, and it''s not something I expect from him. Basically any effort on his part to make something special is all I want or need. He''s never going to go do the ''typical'' romantic thing with a room full of roses and candlelight or whatever. I would rather have him so excited to propose to me that wanting to do it ''right'' and make a big deal out of it becomes a moot point. I don''t want him to hold out for the perfect moment. What if that moment never comes?


Besides I think that big overblown productions are a little bit too much. Like that scene in Serendipity with Kate Beckinsale...it''s beautiful and romantic, but if it wasn''t a movie it would feel forced and like the guy was trying to impress the woman and not trying to stay true to them as a couple. And to me, the proposal is all about the couple. Not the ring or the gigantor presidential suite that''s covered in rose petals and roses with a bath waiting, and champagne cooling in the corner.


I want the parking lot proposal. Or a buffalo wing proposal (yeah I don''t know how he''d accomplish that either). But something that''s us before it''s the fairytale.


Having said all of that, we''re pretty down to earth people, so that''s what would fit us best, but I love to hear the beautiful stories of the most romantic proposals that were planned out to the last detail. It''s adorable to hear that a guy has put that much effort into something to make his girl happy.

Parking lot proposals!! I love those. Oh, Freke, I hope you get one. Those are great stories!

 

[princesss]

Sooner. But, like Freke, my BF isn''t exactly Mr. Romantic in the traditional flowers and chocolates and big, thought out proposal. When he eventually proposes, it''ll be much more along the, "Hey, so, you do want to marry me, right? Because I''ve got this pretty ring that needs a home," route than it will be hot air balloons and heartfelt letters.

In all truthfulness, the proposal I dream about is the one where he just can''t wait to do it. (Plus, the boy can''t hold on to Christmas gifts for more than a day or two before he gets so super excited he just has to give it to me.) So, parking lot, on the couch, over breakfast, with the torn shards of the FedEx box still at his feet, you know, whatever.

 

[musey]

I think most any proposal is inherently romantic... but that''s coming from the girl who was proposed to while half-asleep in bed, hair mussed and face makeup-free, by a man who "couldn''t wait until the day he planned"

No bells and whistles for me. Just the man I love telling me all the things I''ve ever wanted to hear him say, no more, no less.

 

[princesss]

Date: 12/3/2008 7:25:34 PM
Author: musey
I think most any proposal is inherently romantic... but that''s coming from the girl who was proposed to while half-asleep in bed, hair mussed and face makeup-free, by a man who ''couldn''t wait until the day he planned''

No bells and whistles for me. Just the man I love telling me all the things I''ve ever wanted to hear him say, no more, no less.

Absolutely perfect.

 

[~*Alexis*~]

well BF told me we would be "going on a trip" someplace. So it would not involve his family and it would just be us. It could possibly be as last as april or may he said....I know I should wait...but I am #2 on the list and I have been the list keeper then off as list keeper..now I JUST WANT IT NOW!!!!....If I make it to number 1 on the list I SWEAR I will flip out....

Ok ...I am off to pout...I still have to wait.....

 

[allycat0303]

Well I had a nice proposal (for me and my fiance anyways) but probably not something every girl would fin romantic. It was cute *us* things that he worked really hard on (48 sleepless hours) because he really couldn't wait to give me the ring. I do have to admit that it's something that I cherish (such a corny word coming from me) but that's how I feel about it. I think he knew that people would ask *how did he ask* and he wanted it to be something I thought was sweet. To be very honest though, I don't talk (face to face) about the proposal to people. Because they probably wouldn't think it was romantic or think *no Paris?* Even when I get asked the question specifically I say "At a picnic" and stop there.

So it's whatever you think it sweet. I do remember there was a girl that was here. Vuittongirl?? Perhaps that wanted her ring, and didn't want the fancy proposal. In any case, later she started a thread saying she was a little bit disappointed that it wasn't anything special.

So I think if your boyfriend wants to make a big production, then let him. If he wants to ask you quietly (when you're in bed, let him). I think it's very special to have someone ask you to spend the rest of your life with them, and it's an equally big moment for him as it is for you. I would let him take the lead on this.

Good luck! And you have waited a long time; a little while more won't kill you. (Oh and I am SO excited for you and I can not wait to see the ring.)

ETA: Vuittongal https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/uneventful-proposal.33900/

And I realize I've been on pricescope for a LOOOOOOONG time.

 

[bubbly1126]

It''s really up to you and what is going to make you happy, Alexis.

Would you be happy if he proposed now and have it not be as romantic? Or would you rather wait and have it be a little more special.

I mean, but really, I think whenever he does it, you''re going to be over-the-top happy and think it''s perfect anyway. So... I don''t know. It''s up to you, lady!

 

[~*Alexis*~]

Date: 12/3/2008 8:48:26 PM
Author: allycat0303
Well I had a nice proposal (for me and my fiance anyways) but probably not something every girl would fin romantic. It was cute *us* things that he worked really hard on (48 sleepless hours) because he really couldn''t wait to give me the ring. I do have to admit that it''s something that I cherish (such a corny word coming from me) but that''s how I feel about it. I think he knew that people would ask *how did he ask* and he wanted it to be something I thought was sweet. To be very honest though, I don''t talk (face to face) about the proposal to people. Because they probably wouldn''t think it was romantic or think *no Paris?* Even when I get asked the question specifically I say ''At a picnic'' and stop there.


So it''s whatever you think it sweet. I do remember there was a girl that was here. Vuittongirl?? Perhaps that wanted her ring, and didn''t want the fancy proposal. In any case, later she started a thread saying she was a little bit disappointed that it wasn''t anything special.


So I think if your boyfriend wants to make a big production, then let him. If he wants to ask you quietly (when you''re in bed, let him). I think it''s very special to have someone ask you to spend the rest of your life with them, and it''s an equally big moment for him as it is for you. I would let him take the lead on this.


Good luck! And you have waited a long time; a little while more won''t kill you. (Oh and I am SO excited for you and I can not wait to see the ring.)


ETA: Vuittongal https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/uneventful-proposal.33900/


And I realize I''ve been on pricescope for a LOOOOOOONG time.

Party Pooper!

 

[~*Alexis*~]

In all seriousness though...even though it will be out of town he said he will tell me ahead of time because I would need to schedule off of work so I will still know when it will be just not HOW it will be....

 

[radiantquest]

wow, it came out pretty even. im surprised. anyway, i said sooner because waiting is UNBEARABLE and you have the rest of your lives for romance.

 

[sammyj]

I voted for "whatever he wants" but only because my BF has made it clear that the proposal is his thing! He''s a planner and he puts a lot of time, energy and thought into things and I wouldn''t want to interfere with that.

Alexis, when I read your post I though "she''s #2 on the list!"...super excited for you!!!

musey, your proposal sounds like my dream proposal...raw and unexpected...sigh.

 

[kittybean]

Hmmm . . . this is tough. I voted for SOONER, because no matter what he does, it will be romantic. I feel like you don''t have to go somewhere or do anything fancy for a perfect engagement. You can always take the trip as a celebration of your newly-engaged status!

I am so excited for you, Alexis! You are going to be off the list so soon!

 

[trillionaire]

As much as I hate to say it, I think all of us ladyfolk just need to let the men be men. Seriously. And I have HUGE problems with anxiety/suspense, but yeah... let the guys do their thing. If HE can''t wait, fantastic, if HE can, so can YOU!

FWIW, SO has had the friggin ring since JULY! And after I got over being utterly disgusted, I realized that it was not just about me...

 

[bee*]

Date: 12/3/2008 11:58:00 PM
Author: trillionaire
As much as I hate to say it, I think all of us ladyfolk just need to let the men be men. Seriously. And I have HUGE problems with anxiety/suspense, but yeah... let the guys do their thing. If HE can''t wait, fantastic, if HE can, so can YOU!

FWIW, SO has had the friggin ring since JULY! And after I got over being utterly disgusted, I realized that it was not just about me...

I agree. D had the ring for three months before he proposed. He''s normally about as romantic as an old sponge so I was expecting a proposal at home but he said it was the one time he wanted to do a huge romantic thing to show how much he loved me, which he did in the end. I''d say let him do his thing. If I had gotten involved I probably would have got my ring on a lovely walk with Amber which one have been great, but it was no Barcelona, where we got engaged.

 

[allycat0303]

Alexis,

I know, I know. But I do mean it. Chances are he won`t be able to wait that long anyways. Guys like to make their girlfriends happy too ya know? Can you imagine having something in your pocket that YOU KNOW will make your girlfriend ecstatically happy? It`s like if I had season tickets to the hockey games for my fiancé. I would want to give them to him right away!

 

[cbs102]

ok.. so i knew that he had the ring in the house in a safe.. and i tell- every move he made i thought that he was proposing. it became almost torture.. thank god he was able to suprise me and i only had to wait like a week bit it was tough. don''t give him any answer..let him suprise you in his own way.

 

[iheartscience]

I voted sooner! I'm like Freke in that I'm not a fan of big romantic productions. There's nothing wrong with liking them and wanting a big proposal, but I'm just not into it!

My proposal was perfect for me. My fiance tied my ring to a collar, put the collar on my kitty and lured her into the living room (somewhat unsuccessfully, I should add!

) to bring the ring to me with a little note on it. Then he took the ring off and asked me to marry him. I only made one request about my proposal, which was that no one else could be around!

But if you would rather have a big romantic proposal, then hold out! Who knows, maybe he'll break down before then and do a big romantic proposal even sooner!

 

[MrsHToBe]

I voted ''later'', but I should have picked ''whatever he wants''. After waiting so long for my/our proposal, another month wouldn''t be that bad (and, it looks like that''s what it''s going to be), but if he wanted to do it earlier, than by all means..

 

[jcarlylew82]

i said sooner, but i know deep down it should be more how he would like it.

 

[~*Alexis*~]

You all have to be so logical don''t you?!!??

In all reality though, I know I should wait...its just a royal pain in my arse. I know that the ring is sitting at the post office right now. In a box. Lonely. Waiting for a finger to wrap around. Even worse, is knowing he has it and it could really be at any time. He told me I could wear it around the house at least!! i will make sure to post some pics later though....

The mess up part about it is that we did it backwards. We bought the wedding band and he is going to propose with that. Then we will have the Engagement ring probably custom made. He knows he wants to get me an emerald cut, in white gold, with some side stones. But I love the details on rings and I love the intracacy of antique settings and Tacori settings. That is not in our budget however.

 

[Winks_Elf]

I hear ya on that one...I love the flavor of the Van Creynest and Coast settings (delicate engraving, adore the Vatche settings, really don''t like 4 prong settings (neurotic about making sure girdles are well protected), and I work for Wink. I''m going to get no say in my engagement ring, which is pretty funny when you think about it!

My bf is so not into diamonds, refuses to wear one, and doesn''t even wear a watch because he doesn''t like jewelry.

 

[~*Alexis*~]

Date: 12/4/2008 1:41:54 PM
Author: Winks_Elf
I hear ya on that one...I love the flavor of the Van Creynest and Coast settings (delicate engraving, adore the Vatche settings, really don''t like 4 prong settings (neurotic about making sure girdles are well protected), and I work for Wink. I''m going to get no say in my engagement ring, which is pretty funny when you think about it!

My bf is so not into diamonds, refuses to wear one, and doesn''t even wear a watch because he doesn''t like jewelry.

Thats just messed up!

You never know Wink could really be in on it....he''s sneeky like that!!

 

[musey]

Alexis, think of it this way: you haven''t been with your boyfriend all THAT long in the first place, so you haven''t had to wait the way some (most) women do for the engagement to come around. You''ve gotten to that point quite quickly, so what''s the harm in "having" to wait just a teeny, little bit for him to propose the way he wants?