btrflygrl23
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Ok I''m really torn about what to do in my situation and I am hoping that you lovely ladies and gentleman can help me make a definite decision.
I haven''t discussed this here before b/c honestly it was too upsetting.
Ok here goes pls bear with me...
2 year ago a friend of mine that I met through one of FI''s good friends asked me to be a maid at her wedding. I was suprised b/c we were not that close but she did put me on the spot (took me out to dinner and then popped the ques) I agreed but I did let her know that I work practically full-time and that I also attend school and that she and I don''t live close at all so that it would be tough at times to always be around for all the little things that invariably come with wedding planning. She said she knew this and still wanted me to do it.
There was one other maid her MOH and me that''s it.
Ok so long story short she turned into a total bridezilla...got mad that I could not make every fitting, got mad that I couldn''t go over the border with her one time during the winter to shop for wedding stuff, got mad and yelled at me when I couldn''t make the staggette which was in Vegas b/c I was having surgery to remove 2 ovarian cysts, she even had her other friends call me the morning of my surgery to see if I would sell my tickets to one of them after I told her I would be gone after 9 am to check into the hospital for my surgery and I asked her the week before if she needed me to sell my tickets to anyone else.
Kept having all these berating talks with me to tell me what a bad job I was doing as her maid. Had a huge fight with her MOH and kicked her out of the wedding and at the last sec added another MOH who she worked with.
Got mad that the cheese platter that I took to her shower did not include only gourmet cheeses.
Got mad that I did not fully pull off the Paris theme she picked for her shower, had a huge fight with her sis whose house we had the shower in so when I got there no one was speaking to each other and I felt really awkward...
On the day she berated us every time we didn''t hold her dress properly or fix her veil, she made me take her shoes on and off for these games they played at the reception and she made me get down on my hands and knees and clean the dirt from her dress from taking pics.
Final straw she asked me pick up and pay for the favors given out at the wedding which was this gourmet almond rocha. I did and about 2 weeks after the wedding when I had not heard from her I sent a friendly e-mail asking how married life was treating her and if her pics had come in and that I''m sure they turned out really pretty and oh if you have a chance can you pls send me a cheque for the money from the almond rocha or even just let me know and transfer it into my account. About a week after the e-mail I get an e-mail back: hello I see your e-mail but I am working from home and have not had a chance to check it, I''ll get back to you when I do, signed her name that''s it and I have never heard from her since.
She got married at the end of last June and this e-mail was in early July and that''s it she never contacted me again and I let it go b/c it wasn''t worth it.
Also I forgot to mention that she got mad that I wouldn''t let her hairdresser do my hair I used my own b/c she was much cheaper and my hair looked exactly as she wanted it to look and the new MOH was allowed to do her own hair but I had to use her hairdresser. She made us pay $150 to have air brush make-up and when we inquired about the price she flipped on us. She told me I couldn''t wear the gold shoes I had picked out under her instruction since the new MOH was wearing gold wedges and mine were heels so I had to find gold wedges too at the last minute.
Still I behaved well at the wedding I gave an appropriate speech and treated her like it was her day b/c it was but I was upset.
Ok vent over SO sorry so this is what I need advice about we are attending the wedding of a friend of FI''s and she is also friends with him and she and her hubby will be there and I don''t want to go but FI thinks I should. I''m honestly afraid this girl will be super mean or confront me or something and that I will get upset and more of the women attending are close with her and I''m afraid to feel isolated. I don''t know what to do. FI thinks I am being silly and that we should go and just leave her alone and have a good time and then leave.
What do you guys think?
I haven''t discussed this here before b/c honestly it was too upsetting.
Ok here goes pls bear with me...
2 year ago a friend of mine that I met through one of FI''s good friends asked me to be a maid at her wedding. I was suprised b/c we were not that close but she did put me on the spot (took me out to dinner and then popped the ques) I agreed but I did let her know that I work practically full-time and that I also attend school and that she and I don''t live close at all so that it would be tough at times to always be around for all the little things that invariably come with wedding planning. She said she knew this and still wanted me to do it.
There was one other maid her MOH and me that''s it.
Ok so long story short she turned into a total bridezilla...got mad that I could not make every fitting, got mad that I couldn''t go over the border with her one time during the winter to shop for wedding stuff, got mad and yelled at me when I couldn''t make the staggette which was in Vegas b/c I was having surgery to remove 2 ovarian cysts, she even had her other friends call me the morning of my surgery to see if I would sell my tickets to one of them after I told her I would be gone after 9 am to check into the hospital for my surgery and I asked her the week before if she needed me to sell my tickets to anyone else.
Kept having all these berating talks with me to tell me what a bad job I was doing as her maid. Had a huge fight with her MOH and kicked her out of the wedding and at the last sec added another MOH who she worked with.
Got mad that the cheese platter that I took to her shower did not include only gourmet cheeses.
Got mad that I did not fully pull off the Paris theme she picked for her shower, had a huge fight with her sis whose house we had the shower in so when I got there no one was speaking to each other and I felt really awkward...
On the day she berated us every time we didn''t hold her dress properly or fix her veil, she made me take her shoes on and off for these games they played at the reception and she made me get down on my hands and knees and clean the dirt from her dress from taking pics.
Final straw she asked me pick up and pay for the favors given out at the wedding which was this gourmet almond rocha. I did and about 2 weeks after the wedding when I had not heard from her I sent a friendly e-mail asking how married life was treating her and if her pics had come in and that I''m sure they turned out really pretty and oh if you have a chance can you pls send me a cheque for the money from the almond rocha or even just let me know and transfer it into my account. About a week after the e-mail I get an e-mail back: hello I see your e-mail but I am working from home and have not had a chance to check it, I''ll get back to you when I do, signed her name that''s it and I have never heard from her since.
She got married at the end of last June and this e-mail was in early July and that''s it she never contacted me again and I let it go b/c it wasn''t worth it.
Also I forgot to mention that she got mad that I wouldn''t let her hairdresser do my hair I used my own b/c she was much cheaper and my hair looked exactly as she wanted it to look and the new MOH was allowed to do her own hair but I had to use her hairdresser. She made us pay $150 to have air brush make-up and when we inquired about the price she flipped on us. She told me I couldn''t wear the gold shoes I had picked out under her instruction since the new MOH was wearing gold wedges and mine were heels so I had to find gold wedges too at the last minute.
Still I behaved well at the wedding I gave an appropriate speech and treated her like it was her day b/c it was but I was upset.
Ok vent over SO sorry so this is what I need advice about we are attending the wedding of a friend of FI''s and she is also friends with him and she and her hubby will be there and I don''t want to go but FI thinks I should. I''m honestly afraid this girl will be super mean or confront me or something and that I will get upset and more of the women attending are close with her and I''m afraid to feel isolated. I don''t know what to do. FI thinks I am being silly and that we should go and just leave her alone and have a good time and then leave.
What do you guys think?