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Ideal_Rock
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A bit of background... my mom''s sister (my aunt) has 2 daughters and a son (my cousins). Me and my brother aren''t that close with the cousins, but we hang out at family events, etc. but not outside that. Maybe a few random messages on FB or something, but that''s it. We''re totally different people with opposite lifestyles/goals. My mom has always insisted that we should all hang out more b/c we''re "family," but brother and I have tried to tell her we don''t want to b/c we just don''t enjoy being around them. Their family is very attention-oriented most of the time, whereas we just like to be ourselves.
I got engaged back in September, but no one knew except Mom, Dad, and brother b/c we were still ring shopping, and too many stupid questions would arise. We had a family event in early November (cousins would be there), and on the way, Mom told me that my cousin''s boyfriend was in town and was going to ask her dad that weekend for his blessing (i.e. cousin, aunt, and uncle already knew the plan). So Mom told me I''d better tell the rest of the family first unless I want to be "shown up" since I''d already been engaged for months. I''m not one to do things b/c I''m pressured, but I started thinking about how she''s probably already got her date picked out... so first thing I did when I arrived was tell my grandparents before anyone else arrived. However, first thing cousin did when she arrived was make her pre-engagement announcement before I could make mine to her. So, I made mine too.
My aunt later makes a remark about how fun this will be, that we''ll get be in each other''s weddings.
So at Christmas, cousin shows up with her FI and a big album her sister''s making for her to commemorate all the things that happen during her engagement (starting with the public-announcement-over-a-microphone proposal pictures). She discusses dates with me and already has 2 picked out. My dates had changed and were closer to hers, but she definitely marked her territory (her sister said as long as they''re "a month apart" it should be ok, we''d just have to "coordinate" showers...). She also plans to have a guest list of 400 because that''s what the church will fit. I later told my FI to mark my words, her planning will happen at lightening speed and will be the "perfect" wedding, and I guaranteed that everything she did would be before I did it.
That''s the last I heard from her. Just this week on FB, her "status" has changed from "it''s official - we''re getting married on Oct 10" to "shopping for wedding dresses" to "I got my dress!!"... then last night, I got an email from her addressed to her "lovely bridesmaids" - her sister, me, and all her friends I don''t know. It contained a list of 4 dresses to check out, and how we should all "get together" to check them out.
I''ve been a BM before, and we shopped together for dresses, but I was also called and asked if I would be in the girl''s wedding. So am I crazy - did I miss something, or shouldn''t it at least have been mentioned to me if I would be in this wedding?
I got engaged back in September, but no one knew except Mom, Dad, and brother b/c we were still ring shopping, and too many stupid questions would arise. We had a family event in early November (cousins would be there), and on the way, Mom told me that my cousin''s boyfriend was in town and was going to ask her dad that weekend for his blessing (i.e. cousin, aunt, and uncle already knew the plan). So Mom told me I''d better tell the rest of the family first unless I want to be "shown up" since I''d already been engaged for months. I''m not one to do things b/c I''m pressured, but I started thinking about how she''s probably already got her date picked out... so first thing I did when I arrived was tell my grandparents before anyone else arrived. However, first thing cousin did when she arrived was make her pre-engagement announcement before I could make mine to her. So, I made mine too.
So at Christmas, cousin shows up with her FI and a big album her sister''s making for her to commemorate all the things that happen during her engagement (starting with the public-announcement-over-a-microphone proposal pictures). She discusses dates with me and already has 2 picked out. My dates had changed and were closer to hers, but she definitely marked her territory (her sister said as long as they''re "a month apart" it should be ok, we''d just have to "coordinate" showers...). She also plans to have a guest list of 400 because that''s what the church will fit. I later told my FI to mark my words, her planning will happen at lightening speed and will be the "perfect" wedding, and I guaranteed that everything she did would be before I did it.
That''s the last I heard from her. Just this week on FB, her "status" has changed from "it''s official - we''re getting married on Oct 10" to "shopping for wedding dresses" to "I got my dress!!"... then last night, I got an email from her addressed to her "lovely bridesmaids" - her sister, me, and all her friends I don''t know. It contained a list of 4 dresses to check out, and how we should all "get together" to check them out.
I''ve been a BM before, and we shopped together for dresses, but I was also called and asked if I would be in the girl''s wedding. So am I crazy - did I miss something, or shouldn''t it at least have been mentioned to me if I would be in this wedding?
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