Are you blunt or sugar coaty?

[D&T]

With my DH I'm blunt, with others, I have to get a feel but I'm a terrible sugar coaty person, but ulitmately try not to offend others, so what are all of you?

 

[Lilac]

I''m very blunt with DH (although I try not to be mean

) but with others I''m usually "sugar coaty." Mostly because I don''t like confrontation and fighting so I try my hardest not to offend anyone or make anyone feel bad. Unfortunately, sometimes that means I end up letting people walk all over me in the process (DH tells me all the time I need to be more assertive and stand up for myself more). I''m trying...

 

[Kaleigh]

Blunt with those close to me, when I need be. I am more blunt than people here would imagine. But yeah, If the truth needs to be told, I try to do it in a nice way. So will add some sugar in the process. I am not mean, not into hurting anyone. That''s not my style.

 

[princesss]

A little from column A, a little from column B.

Blunt sometimes, sugar coaty sometimes. More blunt lately, though.

 

[D&T]

my sugar coating is really blah blah blah, and then i''m all over the place and lose what I want to say, otherwise, I''ll have DH say what I really meant instead most time when it comes to his family.

 

[doodle]

As far as I''m concerned, sugar is a food group, not a language.

I do think there''s a difference, however, between being blunt and being just plain rude or cruel, and it bothers me when I hear people use "I''m just blunt" as a cop-out for "I wanted to hurt your feelings, but I didn''t have the guts to just own it." Then again, I also hate it when people use sugar-coating as their way of saying one thing to your face and another behind your back. I''m overanalyzing. Must get sugar. BWAHAHAHA!

 

[CharmyPoo]

I am very blunt and have no filter.

 

[Italiahaircolor]

Depends on who I am talking to and what the message is....

 

[monarch64]

I tend to be more blunt than sugar-coaty. If I sense that someone actually needs a sugar-coated response, I''ll usually provide it, but I find that with most people, honesty/bluntness is the best option and typically welcomed.

 

[Gypsy]

blunt.

 

[Dancing Fire]

why don''t you tell me? am i blunt or the sugar coaty type ?

 

[Linda W]

Date: 5/17/2009 1:12:18 AM
Author: Dancing Fire
why don''t you tell me? am i blunt or the sugar coaty type ?

You are neither, you just ask silly questions. HA!!!!!

 

[lyra]

Date: 5/17/2009 12:19:10 AM
Author: Gypsy
blunt.

same.

 

[mrscushion]

I think that I think I sugarcoat things more than I actually do. So, pretty blunt, usually.

 

[Imdanny]

Blunt.

 

[marcy]

I am blunt most of the time. I often say if you don''t want a truthful answer don''t ask me a question.

Of course, in I have learned to sugar coat things when necessary.

 

[pennquaker09]

I''m blunt, but one thing that I tend to do is tell people to not get offended or upset by things I say because 99% of the time, it''s not coming from a bad place. If I''m being mean, you''d know it.

And I would rather someone be straightforward with me also, I just can''t stand one that tries to pussyfoot around the issue. If you have something to say, say it. It''ll probably make you feel better in the process.

 

[rainwood]

It depends on the situation and the person, and what I think would be the most effective. And I''d like to think I''m more straightforward than blunt. To me, there''s a difference.

 

[musey]

I'm definitely a sugar-coater, at least to some degree. I'll be blunt with my family, but not overly so.

I've found it's hardly ever productive to be excessively blunt, at least not in my own social and work situations. Some peoples' lifestyles call for it, but mine doesn't.

 

[Sabine]

I''m blunt. I definitely try to reign it in if it will offend people or if I don''t think people don''t want to hear what I''m going to say, but rather than sugar coat things I''d choose to just not say anything.

 

[Ellen]

Date: 5/16/2009 11:00:50 PM
Author: doodle
As far as I''m concerned, sugar is a food group, not a language.

I do think there''s a difference, however, between being blunt and being just plain rude or cruel, and it bothers me when I hear people use ''I''m just blunt'' as a cop-out for ''I wanted to hurt your feelings, but I didn''t have the guts to just own it.'' Then again, I also hate it when people use sugar-coating as their way of saying one thing to your face and another behind your back. I''m overanalyzing. Must get sugar. BWAHAHAHA!

I agree.

Almost anything can be said truthfully without making a person feel like they''ve been slapped in the face. It just takes more thought, and patience.

I try to be truthful, and nice (which I guess is the sugar, can we make it brown?) for the most part. On here, the only times I feel I''ve been what I would call blunt, are on "head banging" threads, or when I feel insulted, or I feel someone else has insulted someone. And about the same in real life, minus the head banging threads of course.

 

[April20]

Completely depends on the situation. I don''t particularly like to be sugar coaty, but I do like to try to be careful how I tell things to people. I''ve been told too many times in my career that I need to watch my "tone", which translates into "You''re being too blunt". I''ve really, really worked to be careful how I say things. That being said, if someone''s being an idiot and not listening or not getting it, I''ll cut the chase and be very blunt.

 

[Haven]

I''m generally diplomatic, which doesn''t really fall under either category.

Well, I''m pretty blunt with my students, but they''re teenagers, so that''s a necessary measure.

 

[AGBF]

I enjoyed reading the thread so far. I hope more people respond. It makes me think!

AGBF

 

[KimberlyH]

I use to be very blunt, to the point of being harsh and hurtful, my message got lost in the delivery. Now I''ve learned to balance being straightforward with being diplomatic and kind. People tend to be more receptive that way.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

blunt or should I say *honest*

 

[Tuckins1]

Most of the time i am very blunt. But, depending on the person, i might sugar coat things a little bit.

 

[tigian]

I tend to be blunt with my DH and close family, but sugar coat with everyone else. I wish I could be blunt with everyone, but I care too much about what others think.

 

[tyty333]

style="WIDTH: 85.07%; HEIGHT: 76px">Date: 5/17/2009 10:09:54 AM
Author: Haven
I''m generally diplomatic, which doesn''t really fall under either category.

Well, I''m pretty blunt with my students, but they''re teenagers, so that''s a necessary measure.

Ditto...sometimes I do throw in some powered sugar though!

 

[bee*]

Date: 5/16/2009 10:32:55 PM
Author: Kaleigh
Blunt with those close to me, when I need be. I am more blunt than people here would imagine. But yeah, If the truth needs to be told, I try to do it in a nice way. So will add some sugar in the process. I am not mean, not into hurting anyone. That''s not my style.

I''m the exact same. My friends say that they come to me for advice because I "tell it like it is".