Sparkly Blonde|1317394852|3029682 said:We had eloped and for our one year anniversary we went all out. Dress, tux, flowers, photographer, nice dinner. The only catch was that it was still only the two of us. It was perfect.
I agree. My 29 year old vows are still good. I can't imagine why I would need to renewed them because they never got old. Now my ring, on the other hand, got bent/broken and needed replacing. I don't personally know anyone who has renewed their vows but the famous ones that stick in my mind are Jon and Kate's in Hawaii. (John and Kate plusdecodelighted|1317397441|3029724 said:I think of "vow renewals" as "prelude to the divorce". Or at least that's been my observation. Seems like the folks who are just going along, making it work -- don't even think of "renewing". The people who do (IMHO) are ones who've had some kind of huge stumbling block and want to *regroup*. And where there's weakness -- well ... do the math.
Autumnovember|1317392820|3029663 said:I don't get the point of them, personally. I'm sure its really meaningful to the people that do them and I fully accept and respect that.
decodelighted|1317397441|3029724 said:I think of "vow renewals" as "prelude to the divorce". Or at least that's been my observation. Seems like the folks who are just going along, making it work -- don't even think of "renewing". The people who do (IMHO) are ones who've had some kind of huge stumbling block and want to *regroup*. And where there's weakness -- well ... do the math.
Love this.packrat|1317426958|3030160 said:I'd love to renew our vows and have a party. No, vows don't expire, but I think after being together as a couple for many years, sometimes you kind of slip into..we're married, got a house, couple vehicles, maybe some kids, we work, whatever..and everyone goes about their lives. I think it's a nice way to put the focus back on you as a couple..you're not just Mr and Mrs Jones, you're Mike and Amy Jones. If there are kids, I think it's a nice time to include them-they are a part of it too. To me it's like a celebration of who you are as a family and where you are in your lives. Maybe if people celebrated their marriages a little more and paid more attention to being married and the joy it's supposed to bring to our lives instead of waiting until the last minute to appreciate what we have, we wouldn't be so jaded about it. I think it's a bigger deal to be married 10/20/30 etc years than it is to get married in the first place-that's the easy peasy lemon squeezy part about it. I've spent 10 years picking up dirty socks and "finding" things that aren't lost b/c *some*body doesn't know how to look for things, by golly if I want a new dress and a cool song and a cake, I'm having it.
FrekeChild|1317443585|3030362 said:Love this.packrat|1317426958|3030160 said:I'd love to renew our vows and have a party. No, vows don't expire, but I think after being together as a couple for many years, sometimes you kind of slip into..we're married, got a house, couple vehicles, maybe some kids, we work, whatever..and everyone goes about their lives. I think it's a nice way to put the focus back on you as a couple..you're not just Mr and Mrs Jones, you're Mike and Amy Jones. If there are kids, I think it's a nice time to include them-they are a part of it too. To me it's like a celebration of who you are as a family and where you are in your lives. Maybe if people celebrated their marriages a little more and paid more attention to being married and the joy it's supposed to bring to our lives instead of waiting until the last minute to appreciate what we have, we wouldn't be so jaded about it. I think it's a bigger deal to be married 10/20/30 etc years than it is to get married in the first place-that's the easy peasy lemon squeezy part about it. I've spent 10 years picking up dirty socks and "finding" things that aren't lost b/c *some*body doesn't know how to look for things, by golly if I want a new dress and a cool song and a cake, I'm having it.
packrat|1317426958|3030160 said:I'd love to renew our vows and have a party. No, vows don't expire, but I think after being together as a couple for many years, sometimes you kind of slip into..we're married, got a house, couple vehicles, maybe some kids, we work, whatever..and everyone goes about their lives. I think it's a nice way to put the focus back on you as a couple..you're not just Mr and Mrs Jones, you're Mike and Amy Jones. If there are kids, I think it's a nice time to include them-they are a part of it too. To me it's like a celebration of who you are as a family and where you are in your lives. Maybe if people celebrated their marriages a little more and paid more attention to being married and the joy it's supposed to bring to our lives instead of waiting until the last minute to appreciate what we have, we wouldn't be so jaded about it. I think it's a bigger deal to be married 10/20/30 etc years than it is to get married in the first place-that's the easy peasy lemon squeezy part about it. I've spent 10 years picking up dirty socks and "finding" things that aren't lost b/c *some*body doesn't know how to look for things, by golly if I want a new dress and a cool song and a cake, I'm having it.