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Brilliant_Rock
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hi everyone!
life is pretty topsy turvy right now! FI and I currently live in Ohio and FI has accepted a job in DC. He starts in two weeks, but for many reasons I am remaining here in Ohio until after our wedding in October (put so much money into wedding, i need time to be licensed in that area, etc). We would probably end up living in northern virginia.
I am SO depressed about this! I know (as his colleagues in his field have told me) he could have found a similar paying job in Ohio (which is 20% cheaper cost of living) if he would have just looked harder but he saw the lifestyle his friend who lives there (who btw this friend makes 3x what he will
) , he was all excited, but there is no comparison. I was ok with it at first, because I wanted to support his career as he has mine, but the more i learn, the unhappier I get. People have also been saying how utterly expensive it is there, you wont be able to afford a home there, etc. It seems like we will both be taking a step backward financially from where we are now because of the difference in cost of living. Granted I am sure there will be more to do there than here (im a big city girl at heart), but Im a midwesterner at heart and dont mind it here.
And even more important, we will be even further away from our families. The older I get, the closer I want to be with friends and family. I dreamed for us to get married, buy our first little home and start a family that we could raise in a nice little area,etc. But it looks like my dreams will not come true, at least for the minimum 5 years we will be there. I've been so sad and distressed that today I was at the docs being tested for stomach ulcers. Its terrible, but I am dreading this move (and the 6 months we will be apart) and horrible thoughts of calling off my wedding have been going through my head, because although I love him dearly, I am feeling really resentful right now. and thats selfish, i know.
So if any of you live in this area and could shed some light on what life is like there and help reassure me that things will be ok, I could use some moral support!
thanks!!!
sarah
life is pretty topsy turvy right now! FI and I currently live in Ohio and FI has accepted a job in DC. He starts in two weeks, but for many reasons I am remaining here in Ohio until after our wedding in October (put so much money into wedding, i need time to be licensed in that area, etc). We would probably end up living in northern virginia.
I am SO depressed about this! I know (as his colleagues in his field have told me) he could have found a similar paying job in Ohio (which is 20% cheaper cost of living) if he would have just looked harder but he saw the lifestyle his friend who lives there (who btw this friend makes 3x what he will
And even more important, we will be even further away from our families. The older I get, the closer I want to be with friends and family. I dreamed for us to get married, buy our first little home and start a family that we could raise in a nice little area,etc. But it looks like my dreams will not come true, at least for the minimum 5 years we will be there. I've been so sad and distressed that today I was at the docs being tested for stomach ulcers. Its terrible, but I am dreading this move (and the 6 months we will be apart) and horrible thoughts of calling off my wedding have been going through my head, because although I love him dearly, I am feeling really resentful right now. and thats selfish, i know.
So if any of you live in this area and could shed some light on what life is like there and help reassure me that things will be ok, I could use some moral support!
thanks!!!
sarah