And men think women are confusing

[LeggoMyEggo]

A couple of weeks ago, my boyfriend and I were having the timelines conversation. He told me that he needed to "take care of some things" first. He wouldn''t tell me what they were, aside from talking to my dad. He didn''t even get the slightest bit annoyed by the conversation-- he actually seemed very excited to talk about it, but he also was a bit sketchy on the details of what these things he has to do are. He did say they weren''t financial.

I don''t know what to think. It''s not like him to hold anything back from me at all. He didn''t flat out say, "I can''t tell you that"... he just sort of avoided saying any more than that he needed to talk to my dad. I asked him if these things would be taken care of within a year, and he said he hoped much sooner than that... but who knows, maybe it''s boy soon.

Anyway, I''m not really upset because I''m happy to have him in my life and I do trust him and trust our relationship. I''m just not used to him ever not telling me anything, and I don''t know what that could be about. I guess it does have me kind of bummed, and leaves me scratching my head.

What''s up with this?

 

[SailorsSweet<3]

Dont over think it! If you trust him, put faith in that trust. Youre getting engaged soon!!

 

[BlueSki231]

It sounds like he just wants you to be surprised!

I know it''s hard not knowing, my bf''s the same way.. very vague sometimes.
I guess we just gotta have trust.

It sounds like it''s on his mind and he''s planning something, so I wouldn''t worry too much about it!

 

[princess_natalie]

Ditto what Namaste said..

In my experiences, the ''vague''-ness results in a nice surprise. I normally pry.. and ruin the surprise.

You say you trust him, and that is fabulous - so just try to stick with that.

Different strategies work for different people. Maybe you could bring it up again, and just mention your apprehension... Say, you want to know if its a good thing or a bad thing, or just say you''re uncomfortable with the vagueness - but if its a good surprise you don''t wanna know!

Or, maybe just try pushing it out of your mind?

Or, spend lots of time reading the LIW forum

 

[gwendolyn]

Yeah, he''s not being confusing, just trying to surprise you! So let him.