An Interesting Meeting w/ the ex!

[joflier]

Just had to share, because this was just so random and strange. I ran into my soon to be ex husband at Walmart late last night. I decided to be friendly and polite and say hello - wish him well (as his grandpa just had emergency surgery). So we talked for a few minutes, and then he said ''come on with me, I want you to come meet my friend J.'' Well, I know that he has been dating someone named J. So he took me 1/2 way across the store to meet his new g/f!!!! That poor girl - I think she must have felt so awkward. And he would only introduce her as his ''friend''! I didn''t feel uncomfortable at all, I was actually dying to meet her just out of curiosity. But I can''t believe he would do that! If it was the other way around, i would have just gotten rid of him before my bf came back, just to prevent any awkwardness or uncomfortability. (I should add that we''re still not officially divorced yet, either)

 

[MonkeyPie]

On one hand, that is sort of rude to his new GF. On the other hand, it''s good - it means he is content with the way things turned out and holds no ill will.

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 7/22/2009 1:48:45 PM
Author:joflier
Just had to share, because this was just so random and strange. I ran into my soon to be ex husband at Walmart late last night. I decided to be friendly and polite and say hello - wish him well (as his grandpa just had emergency surgery). So we talked for a few minutes, and then he said ''come on with me, I want you to come meet my friend J.'' Well, I know that he has been dating someone named J. So he took me 1/2 way across the store to meet his new g/f!!!! That poor girl - I think she must have felt so awkward. And he would only introduce her as his ''friend''! I didn''t feel uncomfortable at all, I was actually dying to meet her just out of curiosity. But I can''t believe he would do that! If it was the other way around, i would have just gotten rid of him before my bf came back, just to prevent any awkwardness or uncomfortability. (I should add that we''re still not officially divorced yet, either)

is she a RH?

 

[joflier]

Date: 7/22/2009 1:59:36 PM
Author: Dancing Fire
is she a RH?

Nope!

 

[joflier]

Date: 7/22/2009 1:56:12 PM
Author: MonkeyPie
On one hand, that is sort of rude to his new GF. On the other hand, it''s good - it means he is content with the way things turned out and holds no ill will.

That''s what I thought. Unless she really wanted to meet me? Otherwise, I kind of figured he was trying to make me jealous. But I don''t really know. He''s a hard one to read sometimes.

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 7/22/2009 2:02:10 PM
Author: joflier

Date: 7/22/2009 1:56:12 PM
Author: MonkeyPie
On one hand, that is sort of rude to his new GF. On the other hand, it''s good - it means he is content with the way things turned out and holds no ill will.

That''s what I thought. Unless she really wanted to meet me? Otherwise, I kind of figured he was trying to make me jealous. But I don''t really know. He''s a hard one to read sometimes.

were you?

is she good looking?

 

[Italiahaircolor]

Frankly, none of that surprises me.

He wanted to "show her off"...and I hope you smiled in her face, and didn''t let it get to you one for one minute. He was searching for a reaction from you. He wanted it to "bother you"...and if were just polite and friendly, then it''s he who looks like a major d-bag because there was absolutely no point in the charade.

In the end, that''s who he is. He''s the guy that wants to rub it in you face, flaunt his "new" life when you really sought him out to offer kindness. And that is exactly why you don''t need to give him another thought for the rest of your life...because you''re better than that, you deserve someone who wouldn''t ever do such a tasteless thing.

 

[joflier]

Date: 7/22/2009 2:05:44 PM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 7/22/2009 2:02:10 PM
Author: joflier

Date: 7/22/2009 1:56:12 PM
Author: MonkeyPie
On one hand, that is sort of rude to his new GF. On the other hand, it''s good - it means he is content with the way things turned out and holds no ill will.

That''s what I thought. Unless she really wanted to meet me? Otherwise, I kind of figured he was trying to make me jealous. But I don''t really know. He''s a hard one to read sometimes.

were you?

is she good looking?

No I was not! And not to be super egotistical, cuz she looked ok, but certainly wasn''t drop dead gorgeous or anything. Fairly plain.

 

[monarch64]

So, he brings his new girlfriend to Wal-Mart on dates? ROFL. That''s my idea of a fun date, for sure.

TG my ex lives 5 hours away. If I ran into him I don''t think I''d feel anything but pity at this point, but if he went out of his way to introduce me to some chick I''d think it was weird.

 

[somethingshiny]

It is kinda being mean to her. Ya know, the first time (if ever) she was meeting you, I''m sure SHE''D have liked the opportunity to not be wearing her "I''m just going to Walmart clothes."

On a similar note, My sis and her soon to be ex went to file papers today. He brought along his gf and sis got to meet her for the first time. I thought THAT was a bit unusual.

 

[joflier]

Date: 7/22/2009 2:23:45 PM
Author: Italiahaircolor
Frankly, none of that surprises me.

He wanted to ''show her off''...and I hope you smiled in her face, and didn''t let it get to you one for one minute. He was searching for a reaction from you. He wanted it to ''bother you''...and if were just polite and friendly, then it''s he who looks like a major d-bag because there was absolutely no point in the charade.

In the end, that''s who he is. He''s the guy that wants to rub it in you face, flaunt his ''new'' life when you really sought him out to offer kindness. And that is exactly why you don''t need to give him another thought for the rest of your life...because you''re better than that, you deserve someone who wouldn''t ever do such a tasteless thing.

I agree, I think he was trying to rub it in my face a bit, although his intent failed miserably. I was actually interested in meeting her, and perhaps she was interested in me. I don''t really know. In any case, my curiosity has been appeased. I just honestly thought he knew me better than that. I''ve never been a jealous person, and never will be.

 

[geckodani]

Date: 7/22/2009 3:42:18 PM
Author: joflier

Date: 7/22/2009 2:23:45 PM
Author: Italiahaircolor
Frankly, none of that surprises me.

He wanted to ''show her off''...and I hope you smiled in her face, and didn''t let it get to you one for one minute. He was searching for a reaction from you. He wanted it to ''bother you''...and if were just polite and friendly, then it''s he who looks like a major d-bag because there was absolutely no point in the charade.

In the end, that''s who he is. He''s the guy that wants to rub it in you face, flaunt his ''new'' life when you really sought him out to offer kindness. And that is exactly why you don''t need to give him another thought for the rest of your life...because you''re better than that, you deserve someone who wouldn''t ever do such a tasteless thing.

I agree, I think he was trying to rub it in my face a bit, although his intent failed miserably. I was actually interested in meeting her, and perhaps she was interested in me. I don''t really know. In any case, my curiosity has been appeased. I just honestly thought he knew me better than that. I''ve never been a jealous person, and never will be.

Just goes to show how little he knows you. What an odd situation.

 

[tlh]

Yeah, I did that. Introduce my suitors to my exes or just really people in general as my "friend so and so" ... who knows. I had some guy call me out on it once. He thought I did it to keep my options open. Maybe he was right!

it is weird because I just did it out of habbit... even if I was gettin'' frisky with ''em

So maybe he''s holding out hope.

 

[joflier]

Date: 7/22/2009 4:24:46 PM
Author: SanDiegoLady

This was kind of my thoughts as well.. not cool. I think if I were the new ''friend'' that I''d have probably dumped him. How mortifying for her.

I wonder if he got an earful on the way home about that one? Probably not, she struck me as being a well trained little girlfriend. Get this - he actually whistled at her, to get her attention to come over by us!

 

[allycat0303]

Well. Well. I''m glad that you are taking it all in stride. I think it shows where you are in your life, and that you are content and happy with the way things stand. I would probably be really, really upset, but I am a JEALOUS person so that''s to be expected. I''m really happy that it didn''t throw you off. It would be terrible if he still had the power to hurt you and he obvious doesn''t.

 

[jewelerman]

See what kind of trouble comes when you shop at Walmart!

 

[tlh]

Date: 7/22/2009 4:33:01 PM
Author: joflier
I wonder if he got an earful on the way home about that one? Probably not, she struck me as being a well trained little girlfriend. Get this - he actually whistled at her, to get her attention to come over by us!

I''D BE MORTIFIED... and DUMP HIM IMMEDIATELY!

 

[omieluv]

Well, he is your 'ex' for a reason, right?! it seems that he took advantage of your concern for his grandfather to show off his new GF, making it seem like he is more concerned with his ego than showing compassion for his grandfather. Furthermore, I am sure his GF was curious about you, however, I am sure she was not prepared to meet you at that moment in time. Geesh - he whistled at her!! I hope that was a red flag to her!!

 

[joelly]

I think he just want to show off. From what I heard, guys probably has the most broken heart than the girl when it comes to a divorce. In other words, he is sooooo broken hearted over the divorce that he got to show you his friend/gf to show something he knows he doesn''t have anymore. Know what I mean? A denial in short.

 

[joflier]

Date: 7/22/2009 4:30:02 PM
Author: tlh
Yeah, I did that. Introduce my suitors to my exes or just really people in general as my ''friend so and so'' ... who knows. I had some guy call me out on it once. He thought I did it to keep my options open. Maybe he was right!

it is weird because I just did it out of habbit... even if I was gettin'' frisky with ''em

So maybe he''s holding out hope.

Hmm...that''s interesting to hear your take on that. BTW, hi Tristan!

Been awhile, friend!

 

[MonkeyPie]

Date: 7/22/2009 4:56:12 PM
Author: jewelerman
See what kind of trouble comes when you shop at Walmart!

LOL! Didn''t you know, going in Wal-Mart gets you pregnant?

 

[Dancing Fire]

my RH gf

your ex was trying to make you jealous and win you back.

 

[HollyS]

Wow. . . I thought he was a bit odd from your previous posts, but . . .hmmmm.

I''m not sure I can even guess at what he was thinking. Or not thinking. He wanted to gauge your reaction? See if you were jealous? See if you cared? (Thank goodness, you don''t.)

 

[ficklefaye]

he whistled at her to get her attention? did he think she was his pet or something? that''s just plain weird

 

[swingirl]

Maybe they were at WalMart looking for jewelry!!!

He sounds awkward and inappropriate.

 

[LaurenThePartier]

Joflier, good for you for handling yourself with grace during what is, for most, an incredibly uncomfortable situation.

That seems like the strangest thing, that he''d go out of his way to introduce you to her.

 

[ckrickett]

Date: 7/22/2009 5:03:38 PM
Author: tlh

Date: 7/22/2009 4:33:01 PM

Author: joflier

I wonder if he got an earful on the way home about that one? Probably not, she struck me as being a well trained little girlfriend. Get this - he actually whistled at her, to get her attention to come over by us!

I''D BE MORTIFIED... and DUMP HIM IMMEDIATELY!

I would be mortified, and I would immediately scold him and/or end the relationship on the spot. No one does that to me. Especially if it''s a new relationship.

I''m glad he is your ex!

 

[DiamanteBlu]

Very strange. BTW, what does RH stand for? I''m a tad slow this evening.

 

[joflier]

Date: 7/22/2009 7:32:51 PM
Author: ficklefaye
he whistled at her to get her attention? did he think she was his pet or something? that''s just plain weird

That''s exactly what i thought!!! Poor thing! I just felt that whole thing was very classless on his part. I was game, just because I was very curious as to what my replacement was like, and also because it takes a LOT to get me bent out of shape. And this certainly didn''t do it. I imagine he was probably disappointed in my lack of reaction, or even my cordialness to her. But I would guess that she''s probably very curious about me, too. He got rid of all pictures of me, so I doubt he had any to show her what I even looked like.

Swingirl - your very right - he does have an awkwardness to him at times, especially in certain social situations. Yet, when we''d go out, he was always the one telling ME how to act around other people!!! (he had a whole pep talk speech to give me about making eye contact, smiling, saying hello, etc)

Diamante - RH is for red-headed

 

[Moh 10]

No biggie.
People break up and move on all the time.

That new person is just another person.
Why get all freaked out?

It doesn't matter if she was beautiful or ugly, young old, rich poor; it has nothing to do with you.
She has nothing to do with you.

You, and nobody here, really knows what was going on in his mind when he introduced you.
Why invent or project some big drama that it means this or that.

The sun will come up tomorrow.

You are divorcing him.
That means it's over.
Move on.