gwendolyn
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Is there some sort of guideline out there for what to give/how much to spend on bridal party gifts? Just curious. I was in a bridal party where the bride splurged on tons of things (and I know because I was her MOH and helped her choose a lot of stuff), except for the gifts for her bridal party, who were scattered across the country and had a hell of a time getting the dresses/fittings orchestrated (dresses didn''t come from a national chain). On the one hand, it seems like poor etiquette to me, that it seemed like she all but forgot to put aside money for a gift for us (we each got a blank journal that I''d seen at stores for like $, when lots of us were bending over backwards to be a part of her wedding. On the other hand, it seems petty and rude for me to have EXPECTED a present at all, since it is a gift, and that''s what everyone says about wedding gifts to the bride and groom--that you shouldn''t expect anything because it is a gift.
I guess I was expecting something with a bit more thought put into it at least (no dedication or anything in the journal either), especially since I''d known her for 15 years. I''d also (apparently incorrectly) thought I''d heard that it was customary for the bridal party to receive gifts of roughly the same monetary value as the dresses they had to buy to be in the wedding, so the $8 journal kind of threw me, especially since after the dress and the travel and other expenses, I probably spent $500 to be in her wedding. Plus she made me give a speech when I didn''t really want to.
Anyway, I feel petty and mean, but it does bug me.
I guess I was expecting something with a bit more thought put into it at least (no dedication or anything in the journal either), especially since I''d known her for 15 years. I''d also (apparently incorrectly) thought I''d heard that it was customary for the bridal party to receive gifts of roughly the same monetary value as the dresses they had to buy to be in the wedding, so the $8 journal kind of threw me, especially since after the dress and the travel and other expenses, I probably spent $500 to be in her wedding. Plus she made me give a speech when I didn''t really want to.
Anyway, I feel petty and mean, but it does bug me.