Find your diamond
Find your jewelry
shape
carat
color
clarity

Age difference between you and SO?

Status
Not open for further replies. Please create a new topic or request for this thread to be opened.
Porridge

Porridge

Ideal_Rock
Joined
Oct 27, 2008
Messages
3,267
I''m 24 and FI is 33. It took us a while to get together at first (when we were 22, 31) because we both thought 9 years was a lot, but now we realise it''s not important. Are there any big age differences out there? Did it ever pose any issues?

I ask because it came up recently during a drink-fuelled conversation about children. I''m thinking of applying to med school next year after finishing my physical therapy degree. FI is always totally supportive of whatever I want, but after a few drinks the other night it came out that he was a little worried about it meaning he''d be a dad at an "older" age. He quickly covered it and said it didn''t matter, it''s what I want etc etc. We both hope for at least 3 children
1.gif


It did get me thinking though. Most of me, most of the time, says you have to do whatever you want to do. But now a little voice is reminding me of the impacts it will have on FI, just because of the age difference.

It''s all hypothetical at the moment, because I haven''t decided 100% if med school is what I want, and then of course there''s getting in to contend with!!

So...sorry to go off track, but back to the main question. Age differences? Issues?
 
11 months.
1.gif
 
5 years for us. Me 26 - Him 31. No issues for us although I think it''s funny to tease and remind him that when he graduated HS I was in 8th grade! Lol...
3.gif
 
Hmmm...we have 6 months, but I''m actually older. I almost didn''t go out with him at first partly because of that - I had never dated anyone younger, and even though I knew that 6 months really didn''t matter (especially as we are same year in school, etc...), for some reason it was kind of hangup. I''m glad I got over it though!
 
My husband is ten and a half years older than me, I''m 28 and he''s 38. We started dating when we were 23/34, and we just married in July.

The age difference has never posed any serious problems except for his awful taste in music.
9.gif


As far as children are concerned, in a perfect world he would be younger, but he''s healthy and fit and we''re not planning on having children before we are both ready to be parents, regardless of our ages.

You''ll just have to figure out what is most important to you, and live your life accordingly. I wouldn''t make any decisions based on his age alone.
 
4 years, with him being younger.
 
We''re almost 6 years, my DH is older.
 
We're 9 years apart. (He's older.) We have the same sense of humor and core values and age doesn't seem to really come up as an issue. Every now and then I think about the possibility of eventually being a lonely old lady for a long time (how morose is that?) but then I snap out of it. Love happens when it happens.

We joke about things that were popular in our respective high school years. We meet in the middle on many things.

I went to grad school after several years of marriage (I married at 24) and managed to have two children right after. My husband was extremely supportive and I couldn't have done it without him.

My husband was close to 40 when our last was born. It was fine and he's still "young" enough to play a mean game of frisbee with the now teenagers.

1.gif
 
My SO and I are exactly 2 months apart.
I am the older women .... for 2 months
5.gif
 
I''m older by 3 weeks and a day. My parents were born only a few hours apart, but with different birthdays!
 
He''s 3 years younger than me.

My father is 10 years older than my mother. She says it has made her feel older - for example when my father hit 65 they were preparing for his retirement whereas if she had been married to someone her own age they would have had another 10 years before thinking about it.

She did tell us not to marry anyone too much older and if possible find one younger!
28.gif
 
6 mos, and I give him a lot of grief about it
11.gif
Old man!
9.gif
 
Two days
face23.gif


I''m older for only two days, and he was born in Russia so we (or me, I''m a weirdo I know) that I really am only 36 hours older than him with the time difference! MY BIRTHDAY IS TOMORROW too, so my bf''s is on monday!
 
There was a whole long thread on this very recently if you want to see lots of answers.
 
There is 10 1/2 yrs between us. The age never comes up except with the whole "I don''t want to be a grandpa dad"
I''m younger (almost 21) and he is older (31). We met when I was 18, but he thought I was 23 and I thought he was 25 because we both were drinking in a bar. Age never came up again after we had already assumed eachothers ages. We got along so well (and I don''t act anywhere near my age...been though a lot more than more 50yr olds have in their lifetime)

We never talk about age, or think about it. My DH doenst tell people how old I am though (because I don''t act it, they don''t assume I''m that young) because he doesn''t want people to get the wrong impression.

I love him so much though! He''s amazing! Ek to guys my age!
9.gif


No offense if your my age and actually a mature guy! I personally havnet met that many!
 
DH and I are 8 months apart. As far as having kids goes, definitely wait til you''re both ready, but new research is showing that the man''s age, not just the woman''s as previously thought, plays into fertility issues, so that''s something to think about too.
 
DH is 4 years older than me. It''s always funny because he''ll say something like "remember when..." and I''ll say "no... I was in kindergarten/wasn''t born yet/etc". I think marrying an older man
31.gif
makes me feel a little bit older than other people my age but I like it. I would like to have kids before he gets toooo much older though hehe.
 
I''m younger by 7 months and 1 day.

My parents are about 6 months apart, and his are 1.5 years apart. All pretty close in age. Hmm...

I wonder if you''re more likely to be close in age if you meet your partner while in school?
 
I''m about 3 1/2 years older than J. I don''t think it''s affected anything, except that my friends would tease me for being a cradle snatcher.
3.gif
 
DH is five months, three days, 16 hours and 39 minutes younger than I am!
16.gif


But who''s counting???
2.gif
 
5 1/2 months, he''s older.
 
There''s 6 years between us. I''m 32 and hubby is 38.

I think it''s funny that hubby had graduated from college not knowing that his future wife was still in high school. LOL!
 
DH is 9 years older than I.
 
M is 2 years older than i am (im 21 -turning 22 next week and he''s 23-turning 24 on the 26th)

i think its cool how our birthdays are exactly 8 days apart

but honestly age isnt much of an issue i have a couple of friends whose husbands are 5+ years older and even my parents are 11 years apart...
 
DH is 11 years older than me (I''m 23, he''s 34). I don''t know if this helps, but I''m currently in my first year of graduate school. I won''t be done for two more years and than I will need to devote a good 2-3 years for finding another job (in a sucky economy, no less) and getting established in my career before I''m willing to discuss having children. DH knew this going in. I wouldn''t say it was part of the deal, but we definitely had an understanding that, due to my age and educational background, we would have certain priorities for our first years of marriage that did not involve children. A LOT of his friends are having kids and I''ve heard some of them mention how they can''t imagine having young kids at 40 (they''re in their early 30''s now) because it''s so much work. And it might be. But, DH and I also think that there is little difference of him being a dad at 37 or 39. Either way, he will be an older father and at that point, a few years isn''t going to make much difference.

Hope that helps! As the way I see it, I''m not willing to change my life now for children who don''t yet exist. If anything, I want to make my life as stable and happy as possible now to provide for them later on down the road.
 
just julia - I think the same thing sometimes! Then I remember that if I ran off with a 20-year-old that he could have any number of accidents/fatal illnesses and there''s no point worrying about what may or may not happen.
1.gif


Pandora that advice is priceless!! Haha. But your parents are still together right? So I guess age wasn''t too big of an issue?!

Tacori, I found a thread about age differences but I guess I was more looking for issues that they caused...is there one of those floating around that I missed??
33.gif


Robbie I read an article about that recently...basically saying that men "slow down" after age 40?? Agree with you, will wait but def food for thought.

Musey, I actually did meet him in school! He was finishing his PhD and I was doing physical therapy, so not in the same course, but pretty much at the same stage of life.

Julabean that''s good advice, thank you. FI knew I was thinking of continuing with study when we got together too. He doesn''t talk about wanting children right now, but I''m wondering how soon that will start. I definitely won''t be ready for another few years. Baby fever hasn''t hit me yet, but I''m not going to underestimate how strong it may be!

Any doctors out there who can chip in with advice on how med school affected your family choices? My mother is a doctor herself. She and my dad accidentally got pregnant on their honeymoon! She was just finished her rotations at 26 and starting her GP training. She managed very well in my opinion.

Thanks y''all!
 
DH and I are 9 years and a month or so apart, he''s older. I returned to school to earn a master''s degree at his urging and we are now toying with the idea of kids. Age has never been an issue for us. It could be because I''ve almost always dated men who were older than me.
 
D is 20 months older than me. Do you guys have the same saying as we have in Ireland -

You''re only as old as the woman/man you feel.

Actually looking at that saying now, it''s kind of weird
3.gif
 
My DH is one year older than me! He's 37 and I'll be 36 on Thursday
39.gif
I feel so old. I've started lying to my eliptical when it asks me my age. (I don't mind being in my 30s, but I'd like to stay 35 forever)

ETA - Musey, DH and I met in high school, possibly why we're so close in age. One gal I know was in HS when she met her DH, but he was already in college and they're about five years apart.
 
We are 1 year and 8 months apart, him being older. I am 21 he is 22 (23 in February)
 
Status
Not open for further replies. Please create a new topic or request for this thread to be opened.
GET 3 FREE HCA RESULTS JOIN THE FORUM. ASK FOR HELP
Jewelry Blog
PriceScope-Concierge-Ad
Find prime cuts.
Top