rierie26
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Hello,
I need some advice, please. My boyfriend and I are currently in a long-distance relationship due to his work. We were living together before he left, so we had to find me a new apartment to live in before he left as I was starting school and needed to move closer than where we were currently living. When we were looking I was realistic and had a pretty strict budget about how much I could afford on my own. I was looking at studios as that''s all I could afford in my range and was fine with it since it I was just going to be living alone anyway. My boyfriend and I looked for months before we had to move since this was still when rentals were scarce. As we were looking in a big city and had location limitations due to my lack of a car, late-night schedule due to school, safety, etc and my budget was still pretty small at the time we were looking, our options were really limited and depressing. We stumbled across a one bedroom that was $200 more than the top of my budget and my boyfriend fell in love with it. It was 1000x better than anything we had seen (ie. super convenient, safe neighborhood, no dead roaches, cat pee smell and was bigger than a shoe closet), but it was out of my budget. I was hesitant, but my boyfriend really liked it due to his concerns for my safety as I would be living alone and I have no family close by so he offered to help me by contributing $200/month towards rent. Since I was about $600 short towards the deposit he let me borrow the money in lieu of him giving me $200 for 3 months.
Those 3 months are over and I''m finding it hard to ask him to start giving me the money he promised me as I''m sure it''s slipped his mind. I feel really bad asking him because he has other expenses (he lives with his parents and helps them financially) and he has said he would like to start saving for a ring and for our future wedding as we''ll have to pay for it ourselves, but it''s a bit of a stretch for me financially each month. I can make rent and pay all my bills, food, utilities, etc. but I have to keep to strict budget, I can''t save anything and I pray that no emergencies come up. I can''t really move out due to work, school and the fact that I''m pretty much alone here and BF is in another continent and I can''t afford the moving costs, so that''s not really an option. I think he can afford to give me the $200/month and if he can''t afford it then I''ll just have to accept it, but I feel like it would be asking too much of him even though he volunteered.
My question is, should I bring it up to him when I see him next? If I do bring it up to him, how should I phrase it?
Thanks!
I need some advice, please. My boyfriend and I are currently in a long-distance relationship due to his work. We were living together before he left, so we had to find me a new apartment to live in before he left as I was starting school and needed to move closer than where we were currently living. When we were looking I was realistic and had a pretty strict budget about how much I could afford on my own. I was looking at studios as that''s all I could afford in my range and was fine with it since it I was just going to be living alone anyway. My boyfriend and I looked for months before we had to move since this was still when rentals were scarce. As we were looking in a big city and had location limitations due to my lack of a car, late-night schedule due to school, safety, etc and my budget was still pretty small at the time we were looking, our options were really limited and depressing. We stumbled across a one bedroom that was $200 more than the top of my budget and my boyfriend fell in love with it. It was 1000x better than anything we had seen (ie. super convenient, safe neighborhood, no dead roaches, cat pee smell and was bigger than a shoe closet), but it was out of my budget. I was hesitant, but my boyfriend really liked it due to his concerns for my safety as I would be living alone and I have no family close by so he offered to help me by contributing $200/month towards rent. Since I was about $600 short towards the deposit he let me borrow the money in lieu of him giving me $200 for 3 months.
Those 3 months are over and I''m finding it hard to ask him to start giving me the money he promised me as I''m sure it''s slipped his mind. I feel really bad asking him because he has other expenses (he lives with his parents and helps them financially) and he has said he would like to start saving for a ring and for our future wedding as we''ll have to pay for it ourselves, but it''s a bit of a stretch for me financially each month. I can make rent and pay all my bills, food, utilities, etc. but I have to keep to strict budget, I can''t save anything and I pray that no emergencies come up. I can''t really move out due to work, school and the fact that I''m pretty much alone here and BF is in another continent and I can''t afford the moving costs, so that''s not really an option. I think he can afford to give me the $200/month and if he can''t afford it then I''ll just have to accept it, but I feel like it would be asking too much of him even though he volunteered.
Thanks!