a gift Q...do most people expect...

[Dancing Fire]

the same amount spent in return?

let say i received a $100 B-day gift from you,then on your next B-day do you expect for me to spent the same amount on your gift? more/less??

 

[lovegem]

Date: 12/26/2009 3:23:53 PM
Author:Dancing Fire
the same amount spent in return?


let say i received a $100 B-day gift from you,then on your next B-day do you expect for me to spent the same amount on your gift? more/less??

I don''t know if people would expect me to return a gift of similar value, but I would try to find something that is close to what I''ve received as a gift. I usually do not initiate giving gift so I don''t have any expectations. Gifting is a stressful thing for me.

 

[vc10um]

I give gifts because I like to, and because I find things that people will enjoy and appreciate. I don''t expect to receive anything in return, so I guess the answer to your question would be ''no''.

 

[Italiahaircolor]

Very similar question to what I posed a few days ago...

dollar for dollar...no...

But definitely in thought...

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 12/26/2009 5:14:30 PM
Author: vc10um
I give gifts because I like to, and because I find things that people will enjoy and appreciate. I don''t expect to receive anything in return, so I guess the answer to your question would be ''no''.

do you have my address?

 

[icekid]

Date: 12/26/2009 5:40:33 PM
Author: Italiahaircolor


But definitely in thought...

In thought would be nice, I agree. But dollar-wise, no.

 

[Kaleigh]

Nope, that has never crossed my mind. I give gifts, because I want to and to don''t get tabs on what someone gives me in return...

I guess if you exchange gifts with a certain person, and you give more than they give you it could get on your nerves.

BUT, I think the whole gift giving thing, shouldn''t be about that.

So DF who stiffed you on a gift?? You always start these threads, ask a question but never tell us the story behind it.....

So dish it, I want to hear...

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 12/26/2009 6:07:29 PM
Author: Kaleigh
Nope, that has never crossed my mind. I give gifts, because I want to and to don''t get tabs on what someone gives me in return...

I guess if you exchange gifts with a certain person, and you give more than they give you it could get on your nerves.

BUT, I think the whole gift giving thing, shouldn''t be about that.

So DF who stiffed you on a gift?? You always start these threads, ask a question but never tell us the story behind it.....

So dish it, I want to hear...

no,nothing like that,just wondering how others felt. we never did any gift exchanges with our friends.

 

[yssie]

Date: 12/26/2009 5:40:33 PM
Author: Italiahaircolor
Very similar question to what I posed a few days ago...

dollar for dollar...no...

But definitely in thought...

+1.



My circle is all over the place, finances-wise, right now - some people are really doing well in the recession and some are obviously finding it a lot more difficult.


I don't expect their gifting practices to reflect mine monetarily, and neither do they.

 

[vc10um]

Date: 12/26/2009 5:54:48 PM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 12/26/2009 5:14:30 PM

Author: vc10um

I give gifts because I like to, and because I find things that people will enjoy and appreciate. I don''t expect to receive anything in return, so I guess the answer to your question would be ''no''.

do you have my address?

Haha. No, but I''m sure I can get it from any of the PS vendors.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

I rarely exchange gifts with my friends. One though, I've always sent packages to every birthday and throughout the year and haven't expected anything in return b/c I know finances are difficult for her. One thing that compelled me not to send a gift this year is because she doesn't take the thought to ever call me on my birthday. I never expected even in cost, but at least a bit of thought (and after about five years, I decided not to take the time/thought/money on principal). (and there is NO way she could forget when my birthday is because her son was born on the same day.

)

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 12/27/2009 1:45:32 PM
Author: MC
I rarely exchange gifts with my friends. One though, I''ve always sent packages to every birthday and throughout the year and haven''t expected anything in return b/c I know finances are difficult for her. One thing that compelled me not to send a gift this year is because she doesn''t take the thought to ever call me on my birthday. I never expected even in cost, but at least a bit of thought (and after about five years, I decided not to take the time/thought/money on principal). (and there is NO way she could forget when my birthday is because her son was born on the same day.

)

MC
i will always remember yours.

 

[kenny]

Not me.
I'll give a $10,000 gift and expect nothing in return.
To expect it to be reciprocated makes it not a gift.
That's called a trade.

I've gotten gifts and felt no obligation to reciprocate.

To me that tit-for-tat mentality means you both may as well just keep your $100.

 

[MakingTheGrade]

Well, seeing how I only give gifts to my friends and only when I find something I really think they''ll love, then no.

There are some cultures or social relationships where it is obligatory to send a gift though, in which case I might read more into it.

 

[Hera]

I don''t expect it, but I probably do use it as a guide on what to spend on their gift.

 

[steph72276]

No, I don''t expect it but I am weird like that with my husband...if he spends a certain amount on me, I try to do about the same for him to try to be "even".

 

[elrohwen]

Nope, not at all. Then again, I don't get super expensive gifts for people (not more than $75 I would say). Maybe if I spent $500 and they got me a $30 gift I would feel a little weird, but that's part of why I don't buy $500 gifts

I don't want them to feel obligated to get me something equally expensive either.

 

[qtiekiki]

Date: 12/26/2009 5:40:33 PM
Author: Italiahaircolor
Very similar question to what I posed a few days ago...


dollar for dollar...no...


But definitely in thought...

Ditto. It''s not the dollar value, but the thought that counts.

 

[tlh]

If you got me $100 last year, and only $50 this year... I''d still love the gift, no matter the amount.

However if you got me $100 last year, and $10 this year, I''d probably be more concerned about your financial situation, and things you weren''t saying... and probably add you and your family to my prayers...