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Spin-off of SappySailor''s Divorce Diamond thread...

Out of sheer curiosity, how would you feel about a stone that either came into your possession or you were thinking of purchasing if it came from some other "disaster" aside from divorce? Examples: death of the spouse by domestic abuse, failed engagement, any other scenario involving bad karma/joojoo/mojo, etc.? Creepy? Or still just a diamond?
 
I don''t care as long as it wasn''t from a close family member''s divorce. And I don''t even care then if it isn''t for an engagement ring.
 
Doesnt bother me one bit...I would give it a good home and change its karma!
 
Depends on what I am going to do with it. I am realistic enough to think that many diamonds on the market could be second-hand (traded in for upgrades, etc) and my stone is 100 years old so who knows what it has seen. However, if I *knew* the story it would be tough. Especially if I knew the people involved.
 
I really think a majority of us don''t know the true origins of our diamonds anyway...so in general terms, a diamonds "past" doesn''t scare me. However, there is a huge cavet with that...the spouse death/domestic abuse thing...well, thats a deal breaker. Not because I think it would be a predictor...but because it was hurt my heart to wear it. Better to trade that diamond in and move on.
 
Date: 7/10/2009 10:04:11 AM
Author:monarch64
Spin-off of SappySailor''s Divorce Diamond thread...

Out of sheer curiosity, how would you feel about a stone that either came into your possession or you were thinking of purchasing if it came from some other ''disaster'' aside from divorce? Examples: death of the spouse by domestic abuse, failed engagement, any other scenario involving bad karma/joojoo/mojo, etc.? Creepy? Or still just a diamond?
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Ive rescued many a diamond from pawnshops,estate shows and divorce.Gave them new homes and settings.But I dont talk much about it because many of these diamonds dont know they have been adopted into the collec tion!It better that way for all concerned.
 
I have a couple pieces of jewelry that was from close relatives divorce. The diamonds came from the erings - and turned into lovely pendants. But these are close family members of mine and it is a wonderful gift. One piece in particular is from my gma''s ering, the sight of her old wedding jewelry made her sick. So she hacked it into pieces, and made jewelry for all her girls, so that when we wear this new item, the pendants she had designed for everyone, we think of her. If she had given me her old rings in tact, that I knew she just hated and couldn''t bear the sight of, I wouldn''t like to wear that in its original form, with the hate and resentment attached to that piece. ESP as my own wedding jewelry, BAD KARMA!

If it was from my DH''s side of the family, I wouldn''t like it in any form... fortunately he doesn''t have any sisters or anything, but it would feel strange to have an heirloom jewelry from his side of the family, ESP if it was tainted with bad karma, like a divorce. if something were to happen...with 51% of all marriages ending in divorce, I wouldn''t want something that I''d feel "is mine" but have the hostility of having a piece of their family history in my ring, pendant, etc, that I''d feel obligated to return in the event things turn sour. I just personally feel it is wrong to keep heirloom pieces in the mist of a divorce, even when it is rightfully yours to keep... and I just wouldn''t want to ever have to deal with that. But if DH and I are blessed with daughters, I would be happy for his side of the family to give the pieces to THEM.... I''m just a realist, and I think everyone goes into a marriage thinking it will last forever. But, in reality, they don''t. That is why I wouldn''t like it... because of the possibility, that sometime in the future there''d be a fight over everything, including the heirloom jewelry.
 
This is just silly. Who would give out such information? I absolutely don''t believe in inanimate objects having any kind of mojo. What, it''s the diamond''s fault?
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Ditto. People who believe in that sort of thing are a couple of crayons short of the whole box.
 
Date: 7/10/2009 10:16:28 AM
Author: tyty333
Doesnt bother me one bit...I would give it a good home and change its karma!
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love that!
and Ditto!
 
I would not matter ay all for me, unless the person that is giving the diamond used it in the past to propose to someone else
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Date: 7/10/2009 11:16:40 AM
Author: lyra
This is just silly. Who would give out such information? I absolutely don''t believe in inanimate objects having any kind of mojo. What, it''s the diamond''s fault?
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Come on, Lyra...haven''t you ever seen the movie Christine?
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It does seem silly, but some people are superstitious about this sort of thing. Would you buy a used vehicle if you knew it had been used as an agent of suicide?

Topic is just for fun...it''s Friday!
 
Date: 7/10/2009 11:16:40 AM
Author: lyra
This is just silly. Who would give out such information? I absolutely don''t believe in inanimate objects having any kind of mojo. What, it''s the diamond''s fault?
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I agree with this.

I happen to be extremely superstitious about some things (thanks, Mom!) but not about objects holding meaning. I''d be surprised if my own diamond hadn''t lived a life of its own before we met.
 
As long as it wasn''t a close family member, I''d be happy to give it a home, especially if we''re talking about loose collection/right hand ring/pendant/earrings pieces.

I would feel some sort of obligation to return an heirloom diamond from my husband''s family used as my engagement ring, or pass the heirloom along sooner than I may have wanted to, so that is also part of my reasoning for not being hugely in favour of having a "divorce diamond" as my e-ring.

Otherwise, I don''t know where my e-ring diamond had spent the previous millions of years before I received it, and I don''t think I''ll be able to ever figure it out.
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Nah, I wouldn''t care.
 
I don''t think I would really mind.
 
I don''t think for me it has anything to do with bad "karma" or anything like that. The only reason I wouldn''t use the diamond from my parents marriage for my engagement ring is because looking at it makes me think sometimes about their divorce (which hurt me very much) and I don''t want to have any of those thoughts when looking at my ring - I only want to think of happy memories with my husband.

I have the diamond from my parents set in a pendant and love it very much and don''t think it will bring me any bad luck at all
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i think the sadder the event with which it was associated, the less likely i''d be to want it as an engagement ring; not because i believe in mojo, but because it would remind me of the event which had occurred. in australia, i once lived in a town where a horrific murder (husband->wife) occurred. if you offered me her engagement ring for free, i wouldn''t have wanted it; the murder was so brutal and so well publicized, i don''t think i could have worn that ring without thinking of her suffering.

nuthin'' to do with the diamond - just the way my head works.
 
Date: 7/10/2009 3:45:45 PM
Author: whitby_2773
i think the sadder the event with which it was associated, the less likely i''d be to want it as an engagement ring; not because i believe in mojo, but because it would remind me of the event which had occurred. in australia, i once lived in a town where a horrific murder (husband->wife) occurred. if you offered me her engagement ring for free, i wouldn''t have wanted it; the murder was so brutal and so well publicized, i don''t think i could have worn that ring without thinking of her suffering.

nuthin'' to do with the diamond - just the way my head works.
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Whitby, that''s kind of what I was thinking when I posted originally. Hey, if I had no clue where my diamond came from, that would be one thing. But if I knew there was some very negative situation which involved that particular stone, I don''t think I''d want to buy it.
 
I would think that it is sad for them, but for me I would be ok with it as long as a life wasn''t lost because of the diamond.
 
I don''t think that it would bother me at all...
 
I like the idea of "rescue a diamond and give it a new home." Would feel like I was doing it a favor and imparting good luck!
 
I don''t think it would bother me. If purchasing the diamond helped someone who''d been marked by tragedy, it''s taking a negative and making it positive and I''d feel good about that. And I don''t think divorce juju travels with the diamond. There''s only a curse if you think there''s a curse and even then it seems kind of silly.

If I''m going to feel guilty when looking at a diamond, it would be about the hard life that African diamond miners (the actual laborers, not the DeBeers crowd) endure and how little money they get for the beautiful sparkly on my hand.
 
I like not knowing the history behind my diamonds. When I went for a job interview shortly after I received my OEC, I aced it and got the job so I''ve always thought of it as ''lucky'' but I would never think the opposite of any diamond. I don''t really believe in karma, but sometimes I like to imagine what sort of people used to wear my old cut diamonds and what sort of lives they led.

I agree with whitby, the only time I would mind about a diamond''s history is if I knew that something horrific happened to the wearer.
 
Nope, wouldn''t bother me at all. Is there a place I can buy unlucky diamonds at a discount?
 
Date: 7/10/2009 9:20:16 PM
Author: lulu
Nope, wouldn''t bother me at all. Is there a place I can buy unlucky diamonds at a discount?
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lol lulu!
 
Date: 7/10/2009 9:20:16 PM
Author: lulu
Nope, wouldn''t bother me at all. Is there a place I can buy unlucky diamonds at a discount?
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DITTO!!!!

I have my late Mom''s engagement diamond, that SHE paid for, from her marriage to my natural father. They split up when I was two years old. It isn''t the diamond''s fault that the marriage was crappy and I don''t look at it that way. The best things that came out of that marriage were ME and that amazing diamond!
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Lori
 
It wouldn''t bother me. I''d be happy to give it a happy home.
 
There is no guarantee that "new" diamond you bought didn't have a previous owner.
Diamonds aren't thrown away after death/divorce etc.
Some find their way back into the market after re-polishing if necessary.
Lips are sealed.

With that in mind I would not care if I knew my diamond had a history.

Everything in the universe just gets recycled over and over.
There is nothing special about my 78 years on this planet.

I don't think of this as depressing; I think of this as peaceful.
 
Date: 7/25/2009 12:55:28 AM
Author: Moh 10
There is no guarantee that ''new'' diamond you bought didn''t have a previous owner.

Diamonds aren''t thrown away after death/divorce etc.

Some find their way back into the market after re-polishing if necessary.

Lips are sealed.


With that in mind I would not care if I knew my diamond had a history.


Everything in the universe just gets recycled over and over.

There is nothing special about my 78 years on this planet.


I don''t think of this as depressing; I think of this as peaceful.
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thats a great way to look at things
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