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Shiny_Rock
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I got engaged in 2006, we suspected I had some metal allergies but didn't really have the money for platinum rings. The online vendor I bought my engagement ring through said it was a palladium alloy and I wouldn't be allergic to it. I didn't have any reactions to it but it was a narrow band so it had little skin contact. When shopping for wedding bands, my ring isn't straight so we went the custom route, found a local jeweler who makes all their rings in their shop, and he had a contoured band that would work. My husband wanted the ring flanked for symmetry and the jeweler said to solder them so they'd hold up better. We brought up the allergy and he said keep them dipped often, they didn't do a palladium mix so it wasn't an option.
When I got my rings, I wanted to wear them all the time, I ended up having awful reactions. I'd end up with a blister all the way around where the band touched my skin so I started wearing it less and less. I had it resized once and it was still uncomfortably tight ("you don't want to lose it!") so I eventually stopped wearing it all together.
8+ years later, for my 10 year anniversary, I decided to get the rings resized so I could wear them again, knowing I'd have to wear them for only short periods of time. After communicating with our jeweler, I was able to convince him to make it a tiny bit looser than he wanted to and he did some special coating in between rhodium dips to help minimize reactions. I've had zero reactions in the few months I have had it - yay!
Last night as I was looking at the inside, because there was a dark spot and I wanted to know if it was dirt or the coating wearing off, and I noticed it looks like one of the wedding bands says "PLAT" but the other says "14k." (I hope the pics show it clearly.) So now I'm confused! I think I remember him showing us that band when discussing the contoured band options but he said he's create 2 in white gold for us because platinum was out of our budget and we already had my white gold engagement ring. Both my wedding bands are a bit different, one sits a tiny bit higher and has some very slight milgrain texture, I assumed it was because they're handmade, and it didn't bug me because it's character and my ring is unique. It's just so odd that I never even thought to look closely at the markings inside.
Now I can't tell my husband any of this because he's a nut who doesn't trust easily and we had a very bad experience with a different local jeweler (resized a platinum band, used the wrong solder, band broke, this jeweler identified the reason it broke and fixed it). Having a jeweler we can trust is very important even though my rings don't even get close to the value of rings I've seen here.
I know a lot of people in here might be bothered by having different rings, should I be? Or just chalk it up to being a bit lucky to have some platinum in there? What are your thoughts? There's no way it would be stamped "PLAT" and be white gold, right?
(Note: my diamonds are pretty white but the top pics were taken in the car, in a wooded area the other day while I was bored)
When I got my rings, I wanted to wear them all the time, I ended up having awful reactions. I'd end up with a blister all the way around where the band touched my skin so I started wearing it less and less. I had it resized once and it was still uncomfortably tight ("you don't want to lose it!") so I eventually stopped wearing it all together.
8+ years later, for my 10 year anniversary, I decided to get the rings resized so I could wear them again, knowing I'd have to wear them for only short periods of time. After communicating with our jeweler, I was able to convince him to make it a tiny bit looser than he wanted to and he did some special coating in between rhodium dips to help minimize reactions. I've had zero reactions in the few months I have had it - yay!
Last night as I was looking at the inside, because there was a dark spot and I wanted to know if it was dirt or the coating wearing off, and I noticed it looks like one of the wedding bands says "PLAT" but the other says "14k." (I hope the pics show it clearly.) So now I'm confused! I think I remember him showing us that band when discussing the contoured band options but he said he's create 2 in white gold for us because platinum was out of our budget and we already had my white gold engagement ring. Both my wedding bands are a bit different, one sits a tiny bit higher and has some very slight milgrain texture, I assumed it was because they're handmade, and it didn't bug me because it's character and my ring is unique. It's just so odd that I never even thought to look closely at the markings inside.
Now I can't tell my husband any of this because he's a nut who doesn't trust easily and we had a very bad experience with a different local jeweler (resized a platinum band, used the wrong solder, band broke, this jeweler identified the reason it broke and fixed it). Having a jeweler we can trust is very important even though my rings don't even get close to the value of rings I've seen here.
I know a lot of people in here might be bothered by having different rings, should I be? Or just chalk it up to being a bit lucky to have some platinum in there? What are your thoughts? There's no way it would be stamped "PLAT" and be white gold, right?
(Note: my diamonds are pretty white but the top pics were taken in the car, in a wooded area the other day while I was bored)