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Brilliant_Rock
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After a 3 year separation, contained in which were an engagement and a wedding, my husband is finally moving here in just a little over one week! I''m so excited, and since I''ve lived on my own for seven years, I''ve done all that I wanted to do by myself and I''m so happy to finally have a companion to share things with.
However, I can''t deny a little apprehensiveness over a few things...his housekeeping ability, his video game playing, and his dislike of chickpeas and mushrooms - to name just a few. My place is the first place I ever owned, and I''ve lived here three years, and I don''t know how I''ll deal with all the extra "stuff" that''ll come next week. But we''ve got our ducks in a row otherwise - puppy planning and baby planning and retirement planning are all lining up.
My husband is a wonderful person...he''s kind, sweet, funny and adorable. He treats me like a queen and he''s my best friend in the world, plus he''s super smart and super motivated. But I''m worried about my own stubborness and inflexibility with dealing with the small stuff though. I am from a family where there was only ever one right way to do things (i.e. my grandmother''s way) and every other way was just wrong. And as I said, I''ve been on my own seven years, so habits are pretty well ingrained at this point.
I know I have to let go of "right" and "wrong" and relax about things. What''s a few broken wineglasses or carpet stains as compared to our relationship? But I know myself and I feel like I could end up lashing out over things, especially if there are outside stressors (like work).
So I''m looking for advice. Tell me about your experience moving in with your significant other...the good and the bad. Let me know how you adjusted and how you were able to accomodate your partner, especially if he/she moved into "your" space. Tips or tricks? Or will time sort it out?
However, I can''t deny a little apprehensiveness over a few things...his housekeeping ability, his video game playing, and his dislike of chickpeas and mushrooms - to name just a few. My place is the first place I ever owned, and I''ve lived here three years, and I don''t know how I''ll deal with all the extra "stuff" that''ll come next week. But we''ve got our ducks in a row otherwise - puppy planning and baby planning and retirement planning are all lining up.
My husband is a wonderful person...he''s kind, sweet, funny and adorable. He treats me like a queen and he''s my best friend in the world, plus he''s super smart and super motivated. But I''m worried about my own stubborness and inflexibility with dealing with the small stuff though. I am from a family where there was only ever one right way to do things (i.e. my grandmother''s way) and every other way was just wrong. And as I said, I''ve been on my own seven years, so habits are pretty well ingrained at this point.
I know I have to let go of "right" and "wrong" and relax about things. What''s a few broken wineglasses or carpet stains as compared to our relationship? But I know myself and I feel like I could end up lashing out over things, especially if there are outside stressors (like work).
So I''m looking for advice. Tell me about your experience moving in with your significant other...the good and the bad. Let me know how you adjusted and how you were able to accomodate your partner, especially if he/she moved into "your" space. Tips or tricks? Or will time sort it out?