To never say ‘never’
I have said “I’ll never ...” so many times in life, only to be later faced with a similar yet different set of circumstances, or a change in priorities, different viewpoint or perspective, and that previous ‘never’ went right out the window. For example, I said (regarding my WF ES) I’d never upgrade and lookie there at my avatar ...
I can’t make it again because I’m still living with it...but letting my mom live with me. She decided to live with me way before she needed to. I flew from Missouri to New York with my Autistic son to move her out. She never appreciated anything I did for her after she moved in..and basically used me as her servant....She wasn’t that old..still driving..in great health...She just wanted to retire from doing anything. I found out many years later that she complained about me constantly to my oldest son. It caused a rift with my son because she’s cute and a good liar...and my son believed what she said. She did the same with my other son but he didn’t believe her. I had to have a talk with her and tell her I will never tolerate what she did again..It will never be the same with my oldest son..because I couldn’t believe he actually believed her. She even told him that she lied about everything...He has issues with alcohol so he wasn’t really thinking clearly and wouldn’t believe she lied about me. If I had known about this a long time ago I would have moved her to a really nice nursing home...but I didn’t have a crystal ball...She has never been a nurturing mom...and I wasn’t her favorite...but I still have her with me. I tell my one son who tells me I can live with them when I’m old...that I would definitely not do that...but I love them for saying they would. No way...
@missy...It is funny! If I didn’t have a sense of humor about it I would lose my mind. When my husband calls on the phone..I sometimes answer with..”Hello..Joanne’s Care Facility!” We laugh about it because I have my mom, David with Autism..and a dog with vomiting issues and just recently D. It’s like a sitcom..truly..Aww Joanne, is it bad that I laughed reading your first sentence, "I can’t make it again because I’m still living with it". At least you did it from a place of unconditional love and caring. No one could or should fault you for that. You can only be the wonderful nurturing person you are and sadly your mother isn't as kind and generous as you are. But you are doing it from the goodness of your heart. You are a better person than I am because no way could I ever live with either parent. Ever. It was hard enough when I was an adolescent. Hang in there Joanne. I wish I had a solution for you. Except to ask your sibling to help out.
And I want to add how sorry I am about your son and the rift your mom caused between you and your son. Devastating.
@missy...It is funny! If I didn’t have a sense of humor about it I would lose my mind. When my husband calls on the phone..I sometimes answer with..”Hello..Joanne’s Care Facility!” We laugh about it because I have my mom, David with Autism..and a dog with vomiting issues and just recently D. It’s like a sitcom..truly..
Unfortunately my two brothers are passed so it’s just me...but my husband is my rock...
That’s true...I recently said I would never trade in my diamond ...and I didn’t..I had the money at the time but decided to reset it instead. Now the money isn’t there...haha...but if I had another chance I would rethink it...LOL I think many of us are in the same boat re upgrades. As in "this is my forever stone" I swear and then...
But seriously yes for me Bubbalah *is* my forever stone.
Though when we got Bea I said to my DH I will never ask for another ER diamond again. Bwahaha
But in my defense I meant it at the time.
We don't know what we don't know yanno?
@missy Do you have one?
I knew that was what you would pick. You didn’t say you wouldn’t take Oliver..You just would quarantine him until you knew he was RW free. I’m so sorry about Fred..He's such a sweetheart..Haha mine is so simple and you probably could guess it. When we adopted Oliver if only I knew about ringworm. It goes to the statement-you don’t know what you don’t know. If we had known anything about RW we would have kept Oliver quarantined for a full month. Instead the vet ophthalmologist told us (after a 3 week isolation and treatment for an eye ulcer) ok he’s good to integrate with his kitty siblings. If only one of us had noticed his bare spot on the hind leg. Or if only we had known anything about RW we would have kept the outbreak to Oliver only. He was only out with the other cats for hours and bam everyone got it. And you know the rest. Fred is doing very poorly. They whoever they are said RW never killed a cat. Ok well “they” never saw Fred.
Before RW gate however I would have not really had an answer to this question. Because out of most mistakes good has come. I never would have met greg let alone marry him if I hadn’t made “mistakes “ the whole way.
But sadly this one mistake has cost our kitties much and just might cost our Fred his life.
Thank you for asking Joanne.
And if there is a next time you can bet any cat we rescue we will quarantine for a full month and do a toothbrush test also!
I knew that was what you would pick. You didn’t say you wouldn’t take Oliver..You just would quarantine him until you knew he was RW free. I’m so sorry about Fred..He's such a sweetheart..
Love the question, Missy. I would have to say that I would never again buy a llama!
I don’t have many regrets in life, so I thought of the silliest one I could.
Not joining the Peace Corps back in 1971. My new boyfriend literally begged me to not do it, but I wanted to, I wanted to really do something I felt would make a difference for others less fortunate than I was in this world. But boyz rule and girlfriends drool and I didn't do it.. I regret it to this day. aside from my life with hubster, my kids, granddaughter, the best thing I ever did was buy Daisy from the horrible puppy mill people and adopt Salley dog, both those 2 animals have made me a better person, Daisy I made amends to a great being (god, yahweh, the flying spaghetti monster, take a pick!) for the animals my parents did not treat well or poorly, they were not good animal owners/parents, I hated it when I was a kid and did what I could but my mom was mean to our animals and my Dad was never around and liked cats not dogs. Daisy was so sick her whole 13 years but I did all and everything money, me, time our family could do to make her life livable and Salley? she's just wonderful and makes me happy every day.. xo
added after: I married that boyfriend and he cheated, lied and was an over all *******, divorce can be beautiful.
I agree!True dat! And you are the best human and fur baby momma, grandmother, wife, daughter, sister and aunt anyone could ever be. Truly the best Kate the Great. XOXO.
Love the question, Missy. I would have to say that I would never again buy a llama!
I don’t have many regrets in life, so I thought of the silliest one I could.
This is so funny! My 2.5 year old grandson loves all animals. He was telling me all about them when he ran to get his book Llama Llama Red Pajama. He asked me to read it to him..He stopped me at one point and very seriously looked me in the eye and said, “Nonna..He spits but he’s a good animal.” His delivery was so funny I burst out laughing!LOL I hear you. Llamas sure can spit a distance and one doesn't want to be within their spitting range.