Elizabeth35
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I completely agree that I am traditional, in the sense that I am uncomfortable with pretense or lying.
And if you read the thread--I knew they were legally married. That is the whole point.
I am fine with whatever they choose as I love them dearly and was thrilled to celebrate.
My discomfort was in the fact that it was kept secret from some family members.
I am not struggling--I was simply trying to get a barometer of how people felt about attending a ceremony that was neither legally or religiously valid when it was not disclosed as such.
Probably my biggest discomfort was knowing that most family members believed this to be the legal ceremony, when it was not.
It does not make any difference. I love them and am happy for them.
I would have preferred to not know that I was keeping secrets from other friends and family. I don't like that. Either tell everyone, or tell nobody. Don't put people in the position of keeping secrets--that is just wrong.
And if you read the thread--I knew they were legally married. That is the whole point.
I am fine with whatever they choose as I love them dearly and was thrilled to celebrate.
My discomfort was in the fact that it was kept secret from some family members.
I am not struggling--I was simply trying to get a barometer of how people felt about attending a ceremony that was neither legally or religiously valid when it was not disclosed as such.
Probably my biggest discomfort was knowing that most family members believed this to be the legal ceremony, when it was not.
It does not make any difference. I love them and am happy for them.
I would have preferred to not know that I was keeping secrets from other friends and family. I don't like that. Either tell everyone, or tell nobody. Don't put people in the position of keeping secrets--that is just wrong.