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Yeah but...I get the feeling it's not really a matter of self-esteem with the OP... She disliked her ring from day 1. imo she's just a bit hurt that her husband had no problems encouraging his friend to get a large diamond and he is not understanding her desire for a nicer stone. When I put myself in the OP's place, it would bother me too. As others have said though, it's a lot easier to spend other peoples' money!
@Susan Diamonds, I think it's ok that you would like a larger stone/nicer ring, I wanted one too. and so do many here on PS. It took me many years to get a larger diamond and I do enjoy it. I don't think it makes you look ungrateful but I get that you feel that way. And I think your husband's behavior is making you feel that way.
Your dh already knows you don't like your ring. You and he even tried to return it right after the proposal. If you do eventually talk to him about this in a more specific way he's not going to be surprised. His comment "don't be jealous" is very telling imo. Honestly, that comment kind of bugs me. Sounds like it's a pride thing for him - getting you a new ring would be somehow admitting the first one he bought wasn't any good or something. Perhaps he's worried about the financial aspect of this?
I dunno... the bottom line is I feel your dh should just get over his pride and get his wife a ring she is happy with. I think a woman should like her ering. Unfortunately this means you are going to have to have an uncomfortable conversation with him, and I hope eventually you can do it. I get that these situations are not easy.
One last thing (I tried so hard to keep this short ha!) Buying your own ring...I just think it would be nicer to have dh on board with the purchase since it's such a symbolic piece.
@Susan Diamonds, I think it's ok that you would like a larger stone/nicer ring, I wanted one too. and so do many here on PS. It took me many years to get a larger diamond and I do enjoy it. I don't think it makes you look ungrateful but I get that you feel that way. And I think your husband's behavior is making you feel that way.
Your dh already knows you don't like your ring. You and he even tried to return it right after the proposal. If you do eventually talk to him about this in a more specific way he's not going to be surprised. His comment "don't be jealous" is very telling imo. Honestly, that comment kind of bugs me. Sounds like it's a pride thing for him - getting you a new ring would be somehow admitting the first one he bought wasn't any good or something. Perhaps he's worried about the financial aspect of this?
I dunno... the bottom line is I feel your dh should just get over his pride and get his wife a ring she is happy with. I think a woman should like her ering. Unfortunately this means you are going to have to have an uncomfortable conversation with him, and I hope eventually you can do it. I get that these situations are not easy.
One last thing (I tried so hard to keep this short ha!) Buying your own ring...I just think it would be nicer to have dh on board with the purchase since it's such a symbolic piece.