What have you learned from your SO?

[YadaYadaYada]

Most of us can say we have learned at least one thing from our significant other or that they introduced us to something new. It sounds rather silly but despite chewing gum for years I could never blow a bubble but DH taught me how, he also taught me how to fry eggs without completely destroying them! My math skills are significantly better because of him as well.

On the flip side I introduced him to Jim Croce and he really enjoys his music now, he even commented recently he wishes he was still alive because he would like to hear more of his music. Also since I am not totally trusting of doctors he now thinks much more critically when they recommend things and decides after researching for himself

Enough about us, let's talk about you, what have you learned from your SO and vice versa?

 

[lyra]

Haha, too much to list or remember. I am his sounding board. He tells me everything about his job. As a result, I have now a high level of understanding of the mechanical side of things. I don't want to say what he does though. He has also done a lot of building, so I understand that too. His level of cooking and presentation is an art form. I have learned nothing about cooking from him. I absolutely can't compete with his artistry there.

 

[redwood66]

To have patience.

He has an abundance.

 

[telephone89]

The biggest thing he taught me is to roll with the punches. He is very easy going and helps me realize that whatever event happens isnt the OMG END OF THE WORLD that I think it is lol.
I taught him to whistle

 

[YadaYadaYada]

Lyra, it's so great that just by being supportive you also learned something new, it's a great thing to have an understanding of what your spouse does. As for the cooking, I consider getting food on a plate enough, THAT is the artistry lol!

Redwood, it's wonderful that you learned to be more patient, patience really is a virtue and some of us never learn it. A great attribute to have.

Telephone, guys (most) are so laid back compared to us, maybe it's the hormones but I hear you! Have to admit I think it's pretty adorable you taught him to whistle

 

[elle_71125]

Despite years of attempts, my husband has not been able to teach me to whistle. But the list of things I have learned from him is endless.
I am an uber control freak and I hate when things aren't going as planned. He's helped me to realize that life goes on regardless of plans (and sometimes turns out even better). I've also learned a million things from listening to him talk about work.

The number one thing he's learned from me is about makeup and skin care. I know, it's a weird thing. He's the kind of guy that does nothing more than take a shower and still looks awesome. I wish I were so lucky. He actually rocks at the "battle of the sexes" game, while my brother and father look at him like "what?"


So here's a question. What's something you wish your SO would learn from you?

I wish my DH would learn to slow dance better. He would stand there (feet rooted to the floor) and sway all night, if I let him.

 

[YadaYadaYada]

Elle, that's awesome that your husband has some idea about skin care, if I asked mine for facial moisturizer no idea what I would get, probably baby butt balm lol! Sounds like you are a good dancer, I know they have dancing lessons so maybe they have slow dance lessons. That would be a fun sexy date night idea.

As for my DH I wish he would learn my decision making skills. He gets all hung up at the grocery store since there are so many choices, picking out a birthday card can take an hour and he spends more time browsing Netflix to find something to watch than actually watching something! Just pick something and go with it already!!!

 

[kenny]

Hmm, tough one.
Still thinking.

 

[elle_71125]

Elle, that's awesome that your husband has some idea about skin care, if I asked mine for facial moisturizer no idea what I would get, probably baby butt balm lol! Sounds like you are a good dancer, I know they have dancing lessons so maybe they have slow dance lessons. That would be a fun sexy date night idea.

As for my DH I wish he would learn my decision making skills. He gets all hung up at the grocery store since there are so many choices, picking out a birthday card can take an hour and he spends more time browsing Netflix to find something to watch than actually watching something! Just pick something and go with it already!!!

Dying laughing over here. That is my husband all the way! Sometimes we have 30 minutes before bed and I still watch him scrolling for almost the entire time. Why?!!!

 

[december-fire]

@StephanieLynn ,

Great thread! And funny!

I have a wonderful man in my life who displays great personality traits.
Not only that, he taught me the difference between doe tracks and buck tracks!

 

[YadaYadaYada]

December Fire, important to cover your tracks!

Lame I know but couldn't help myself.

 

[Tekate]

I learned being very good in math and logic pays a lot more than a business degree. I also learned that men can be loving, caring and respectful.

 

[missy]

SO much. I am not sure even where to begin.

One of the most important things I have learned from my dh is to not expect people to behave the way I would behave. I used to experience deep disappointment due to what I perceived to be other's misjudgments and rude behavior. However as my dh points out just because I would behave in a given way in a specific situation doesn't mean others will or even should behave that way. In other words (Kenny!) we are all different. I am still working on that one 2 decades later but I am making progress.

He also has taught me (or tried to lol) and continues to teach me patience. I have trouble with this concept too. You would think after having 2 broken bones in my leg and being immobile for the better part of a full year I would be better in this area. Nope not really. Well maybe a little. Another work in progress. What is that saying about an old dog and new tricks. LOL

He has taught me kindness and generosity above and beyond what I learned before him. My parents are super generous and kind but my dh even more so. His actions are the definition of kind and generous IMO.

And just one last thing (of many but I will spare you all the rest as it is an endless list) he has taught me to roll with the punches and adapt and not dread and fear change but rather make the best of what comes our way. We cannot change or control everything but we sure can make the best of what we cannot change. So the credit has to go to my dh because he has made me a better person in all senses of that word. He always makes me want to be the best version of myself. I love him for that and so much more.

Great thread StephanieLynn. Thanks for starting it.

 

[House Cat]

How to be kind. Seriously, I was a total azzhole when I met him!

 

[MaisOuiMadame]

Great thread StephanieLynn!
My DH is an optimist and fearless.
I have learned to worry a lot less and be more proactive.
Also, he can let go of things.
Mind you, it's not that he doesn't care or will let people take advantage of him / us. He will analyse the situation , take the appropriate action or decision or judgment and then let go. This was not the culture in my family. So I'm still learning and trying to implement this more. Makes my life much better.

 

[mom2dolls]

To laugh as often as possible. He cracks me up, and this is hard to do. I am very serious by nature, always focused. He has taught me to relax and let things go. We play and have fun with each other and our girls.

 

[december-fire]

December Fire, important to cover your tracks!

Lame I know but couldn't help myself.

Thanks for the laugh!

 

[Gabbycat]

Not sure if I've picked up on the lesson, but he's definitely set the example for trying to see the good in all people. I am unfortunately (due to the home in which I was raised) pretty judgmental and suspicious of most people.

I have tried to teach him to be more assertive. He is really just too nice, and people abuse his good nature and mild mannered ways.

 

[azstonie]

To not take life so damn seriously!

 

[YadaYadaYada]

Tekate, couldn't agree more about skill sets
sometimes being more useful in the real world than a degree. I'm also so glad to hear that you found a wonderful person to share your life with.

Missy, great response and I think my favorite part is that he makes you want to be the best version of yourself. That is wonderful, just the cherries on the cheesecake if you will

Kipari, optimism and learning to let go bring so much peace of mind and calm, I'm glad you've found that in your life.

Mom2Dolls, isn't it so much better to laugh? Not easy for me either but you are also teaching your girls to find the humor and that is great.

Gabby, it's hard to see the good in people sometimes especially with all the horrible stories you hear in the news lately. Good on you for teaching him to be more assertive, nobody deserves to be a doormat!

AZ, life is so serious isn't it? Laughter is key......and chocolate because everything is better with chocolate

 

[YadaYadaYada]

Housecat, good on you for becoming a nicer person and good on him for being that positive influence.

 

[madelise]

I asked DH and he said “patience. And that compromise doesn’t exist.”

Says the guy who still insists on putting up an ugly Pink Floyd album color painting he commissioned over 5 years ago in college.

I haven’t killed him or the painting yet, so clearly, I’ve learned how to compromise



Haha but seriously though, I think one very apparent influence we’ve had on each other was our style. I made him more fashionable and he made me less (I legitimately bought my first pair of sweat pants lately... and started wearing jeans two years ago )!!

 

[BlingObsession]

That I am, apparently, not always right! Most of the time but not always. Who knew?

 

[YadaYadaYada]

Madelise, that is too funny about the Pink Floyd painting, he is apparently proud of it, the the things we put up with right? Sweatpants are the bomb, nothing better than a comfy pair when it's cold out!

Bling, too funny, I think that's just part of any good working relationship is being able to admit when you're wrong. Not easy though, it's much more fun to be right

 

[missy]

I also learned from my dh the importance of perspective. I don't remember what I was overreacting to many years ago and he said to me are you hurt? Are you bleeding? Are we all OK? And the answer was Yes. Everything else doesn't matter if we are OK and doesn't deserve that kind of angst. And yanno? He's right. If you and your loved ones are well and safe and OK then all the rest of it is noise and you can deal with it because everything else can be managed.

Oh and Stephanie did you say Cherry Cheesecake? Ha this is for you my dear.

 

[Austina]

That I’m obviously more patient than I thought!

 

[YadaYadaYada]

Missy that is so true about perspective but I get it, life is hard and unfair and sometimes you can't help getting upset. At the end of the day though as long as you are still kicking that's what matter.

Austina, I've said so many times patience is a virtue, it's great that he has made you more patient, I would say I learned my husband tests mine on a daily basis

 

[valeria101]

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So much that I wish I never knew ...

 

[missy]

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So much that I wish I never knew ...

Love this response Valeria101.
Sometimes ignorance really *is* bliss!