Is is OK to get married on a holiday?

P: 9/5/2008 12:02:53 PM

philly317

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So I am in the process of booking our wedding day. There is a particular venue that is absolutely perfect for us but the only day open next year is the 4th of July (we have to get married in the summer).

Since we are really hoping to get married in the summer of 09 that begs the question....

Posted: 9/5/2008 12:02:53 PM

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P: 9/5/2008 12:18:11 PM
Octavia Ideal Rock Total Posts: 1,477 Last Post: 11/24/2009 Member Since: 10/29/2007	I don't think it's rude, but I think you should expect that some invitees might not be able to come. I think that people are more willing and able to attend weddings on social/cultural holidays rather than religious ones, though. If you're having your wedding in Philly, it might actually be a draw for out-of-town guests -- Independence Day, Independence Hall, the Liberty Bell, and your wedding all rolled into one fun weekend! You could always poll a few of your guests-to-be, to see what your particular circle of friends and family think, too.
Posted: 9/5/2008 12:18:11 PM

P: 9/5/2008 12:30:55 PM
geckodani Ideal Rock Total Posts: 7,177 Last Post: 11/22/2009 Member Since: 6/25/2008	My mom got married on the 4th and it was a hit. :) Plus there are fireworks on your anniversary - LOL! Run turkey, RUN! (Little man in the avatar is my nephew.)
Posted: 9/5/2008 12:30:55 PM

P: 9/5/2008 1:03:42 PM
kittybean Ideal Rock Total Posts: 3,071 Last Post: 11/24/2009 Member Since: 5/2/2008	I definitely don't think it's rude, but I do think you have to be prepared for a few more people to decline your invitation than you might on another summer weekend. If that doesn't bother you, then go ahead and have it on the Fourth! In my opinion, that would be a lot of fun.
Posted: 9/5/2008 1:03:42 PM

P: 9/5/2008 1:10:27 PM
OUpeargirl Ideal Rock Total Posts: 1,837 Last Post: 11/22/2009 Member Since: 6/26/2007	I agree with Octavia, since it's not a religious holiday I can't see it being a problem. I went to an amazing wedding on New Years Eve one year and I think it just added to the fun. Fourth of July is great, because you can celebrate with fireworks! A fellow PSer, Haven, just got married on 4th of July this summer so I am sure she'll contribute to this thread! "You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough." Mae West
Posted: 9/5/2008 1:10:27 PM

P: 9/5/2008 1:16:21 PM
Haven Ideal Rock Total Posts: 6,092 Last Post: 11/25/2009 Member Since: 2/16/2007	It is definitely not rude to get married on the 4th of July, I did! It was amazing. We were married in the morning, and the reception was over by the time fireworks started so we went to fireworks with our nearest and dearest, and I got to wear my dress ALL DAY! We had a few more regrets than I imagine we would have had if we were married any other day, because a few of our friends were OOT that weekend. But, overall, it was perfect. And we'll always have fireworks on our anni. AND, hubby has no excuse to forget the date! I say go for it. It was a blast, and I've met a lot of people IRL since then who were also married on the 4th. ********************************************************** "I'm sorry I ruined your lives and crammed eleven cookies into the VCR." - Buddy the Elf "Let your inner Liz Taylor out and rock it." - diamondfan
Posted: 9/5/2008 1:16:21 PM

P: 9/5/2008 1:17:13 PM
dreaming of the day Cut Rock Total Posts: 480 Last Post: 11/9/2009 Member Since: 6/12/2008	I think its a great idea! I have friends who were married on New Years Eve and it was a hit. It is so nice to spend the holidays with friends and family and a great excuse to all get together. I love it! Some people may not attend because of other functions they go to, but if they choose that so be it, obviously they don't put your wedding first. Just give people lots of time to plan!
Posted: 9/5/2008 1:17:13 PM

P: 9/5/2008 1:32:52 PM
Sabine Ideal Rock Total Posts: 2,883 Last Post: 11/21/2009 Member Since: 8/16/2007	I totally agree with everyone who said it's not rude, it will probably be tons of fun for those who go, but you'd also have to be prepared for a few more "no's" than if it wasn't a holiday. Maybe check with those who are REALLY important to you to make sure they'd be okay with it first?
Posted: 9/5/2008 1:32:52 PM

P: 9/5/2008 1:53:37 PM
fiery Ideal Rock Total Posts: 4,139 Last Post: 11/25/2009 Member Since: 5/18/2008	I voted no because there are certain holidays when its ok to have a wedding such as 4th of July or Labor Day (as examples). Those weekends usually means time off for a lot (time off from school and most jobs) but they aren't holidays with huge tradition/religious events that you have to be courteous about. I usually take those two holidays to hang out or take a trip so I would definitely love to attend a wedding. Now, had you said Christmas or Thanksgiving or Valentine's Day then that's different.
Posted: 9/5/2008 1:53:37 PM

P: 9/5/2008 2:13:17 PM
bee* Ideal Rock Total Posts: 11,105 Last Post: 11/23/2009 Member Since: 5/14/2006	I don't think that it's rude but like others said, just expect that there might be more people that can't make it.
Posted: 9/5/2008 2:13:17 PM

P: 9/5/2008 2:21:00 PM
CDNinNYC Ideal Rock Total Posts: 1,856 Last Post: 11/23/2009 Member Since: 10/21/2007	Date: 9/5/2008 1:17:13 PM Author: dreaming of the day I think its a great idea! I have friends who were married on New Years Eve and it was a hit. It is so nice to spend the holidays with friends and family and a great excuse to all get together. I love it! Some people may not attend because of other functions they go to, but if they choose that so be it, obviously they don't put your wedding first. Just give people lots of time to plan! I love the idea of people getting married on a non-religious holiday too. The 4th of July is a great option. We were planning our wedding around the long-weekend in May. New Year's Eve weddings sound like a lot of fun; however, we have a friend who's getting married Jan 1st, which makes it a little inconvenient to make plans for the night before. Who wants to be have a wedding full of hung-over people from the night before? I'm not much of a drinker but always feel 'fuzzy' after a night out...
Posted: 9/5/2008 2:21:00 PM

P: 9/5/2008 2:31:29 PM
philly317 Rough Rock Total Posts: 35 Last Post: 9/10/2009 Member Since: 6/4/2008	Thanks everyone - it seems that my dream of getting married next summer and at my dream location is not dead
Posted: 9/5/2008 2:31:29 PM

P: 9/5/2008 2:32:11 PM
sap483 Ideal Rock Total Posts: 988 Last Post: 11/4/2009 Member Since: 1/14/2007	I got married on the 4th this year too. Everyone that was really important to us made it to our wedding, and enjoyed having a long weekend to spend in the area. It was pretty nice having fireworks to watch at our reception too! The only things I would suggest would be to send save the dates at least 6-8 months in advance. I would begin booking vendors early as many may book a vacation durng that time as it gets closer if they are not already booked for a wedding.
Posted: 9/5/2008 2:32:11 PM

P: 9/5/2008 3:01:15 PM
musey Ideal Rock Total Posts: 11,179 Last Post: 11/24/2009 Member Since: 9/30/2006	Date: 9/5/2008 12:18:11 PM Author: Octavia I don't think it's rude, but I think you should expect that some invitees might not be able to come. Ditto. I didn't vote, for that reason. The only aspect of a holiday wedding that could be seen as "rude," in my opinion, is that airfares/hotels will likely be higher than usual--so people will be forced to pay more to go to that wedding than they otherwise would.
Posted: 9/5/2008 3:01:15 PM

P: 9/5/2008 4:14:46 PM
clop Cut Rock Total Posts: 221 Last Post: 11/24/2009 Member Since: 2/28/2008	Hi! I think it's fine getting married on a holiday (we were just married this labor day weekend). The long weekend actually worked in our favor. All of our out of town guests mentioned that they were more able to attend because of the long weekend, and were happy they didn't need to take extra days off work, or that they had an extra day to rest etc. Our circle of friends & family is fairly tight - they usually celebrate holidays together, so they didn't have other plans. When we were thinking of New Year's, everyone also thought it was a great idea, fireworks etc. The only request anyone had was to give them plenty of notice in case they made plans. Congrats on your engagement! July 4th is such a nice date, fireworks and all.
Posted: 9/5/2008 4:14:46 PM

P: 9/5/2008 4:18:25 PM
tessari Cut Rock Total Posts: 166 Last Post: 10/18/2009 Member Since: 6/27/2008	Jan 1? eesh. Although with a majority of the weddings I have been to, people were hungover from crazy post-rehearsal dinner partying. I seriously think that 70% of people get married with bad hangovers! I guess it takes the jitters away.
Posted: 9/5/2008 4:18:25 PM

P: 9/5/2008 4:25:52 PM
MoonWater Ideal Rock Total Posts: 3,158 Last Post: 2/27/2009 Member Since: 7/1/2007	A friend of mine got married on the 4th of July. It was great because their families were all there for a barbeque already. ............... "Those who would give up Essential Liberty to purchase a little Temporary Safety, deserve neither Liberty nor Safety."
Posted: 9/5/2008 4:25:52 PM

P: 9/5/2008 4:29:12 PM
fiery Ideal Rock Total Posts: 4,139 Last Post: 11/25/2009 Member Since: 5/18/2008	I think New Year's is one of those holidays too where its a hit or miss with people. If a friend or even family member had a wedding on New Years I would turn them down. That's my time with my immediate family (tradition). But any holiday where a barbecue is expected, I'd be there LOL
Posted: 9/5/2008 4:29:12 PM

P: 9/5/2008 4:33:47 PM
jcarlylew Ideal Rock Total Posts: 2,858 Last Post: 11/24/2009 Member Since: 6/27/2008	If it is a day time wedding, i don't think its that rude. you will get the comments opposing it, and you will get some declines, but if that day works best for you, go for it! this summer (08) i had a friend who was at a 4th july wedding. He still made it home in time to throw his own party that same night. _____________________________ i look at white bread like a young lover
Posted: 9/5/2008 4:33:47 PM

P: 9/5/2008 5:24:59 PM
Gwyn Ideal Rock Total Posts: 745 Last Post: 2/8/2009 Member Since: 1/5/2007	I voted no but things to consider, sorry if others have posted this, is that prices for travel are increased on holidays so it may be harder for out of town guests to get to your wedding. Also, people with children may not be able to make it. I suppose that is a bonus if you dont want them coming =) I personally would have no problem with it. FI and I never do anythign for the 4th unless it falls on a weekend then we may go to a cookout or something like that at his sisters. I wouldnt mind going to a friend or family's wedding instead. Fireworks are bad for the environment anyway. Better that people go celebrate our nation's freedom at your wedding. Also, the real "patriots" and history buffs know that independence was really declared on the 2nd of July. So I doubt those people would take issue with your wedding anyway =)
Posted: 9/5/2008 5:24:59 PM

P: 9/5/2008 5:47:25 PM
crystalheart1 Cut Rock Total Posts: 482 Last Post: 11/12/2009 Member Since: 4/12/2007	If your wedding is in Downtown Philly... It would be an issue. There is a large 4th of July Show with Fireworks at the end and Most of the CITY is a traffic nightmare. Parking is also very costly and rates would go up even more. The suburbs would be better, but again ... the roads around her get really crazy ( backed up ) especially on a holiday What location were you thinking ? You might want to ask the people at the Venue if this would be a factor.
Posted: 9/5/2008 5:47:25 PM

P: 9/5/2008 5:53:39 PM
crystalheart1 Cut Rock Total Posts: 482 Last Post: 11/12/2009 Member Since: 4/12/2007	Also, that might be why the 4th of July was the only day available...
Posted: 9/5/2008 5:53:39 PM

P: 9/5/2008 6:18:33 PM
roseg Rough Rock Total Posts: 64 Last Post: 7/9/2009 Member Since: 6/25/2007	Good point crystal. I'm from Philly too and can assure you that, as much fun as it sounds, I stay away from Center City on the 4th. Traffic is an absolute nightmare and often streets are just closed off without a real alternative route. So, unless you're from the area, you would have no idea how to get around it. Although, traffic in Philly on the 4th probably isn't any worse than a normal Saturday in NY, LA or San Fran ;) Your guests could always take the subway
Posted: 9/5/2008 6:18:33 PM

P: 9/5/2008 6:20:15 PM
Blair138 Ideal Rock Total Posts: 1,106 Last Post: 11/24/2009 Member Since: 4/8/2008	I went back and forth between choosing the 4th and our (now) date the 11th. I ended up NOT choosing the 4th because of the fact that a good deal of my close friends and some family would probably not be able to make it. I don't think it's rude, but I personally got some RUDE comments from some friends of mine along the lines of "if you have your wedding on the 4th, I might not be able to make it". My comment to her was "why? because you want to drink and party? you can do the same thing at my wedding for free". But, we decided against it because July 11th was open. So, No I don't think it matters and I think it would be a blast, but like everyone else said, be prepared for lots of 'no's' on the RSVP cards...
Posted: 9/5/2008 6:20:15 PM

P: 9/5/2008 6:38:39 PM
marchswallowbird Ideal Rock Total Posts: 849 Last Post: 9/28/2009 Member Since: 4/22/2008	While it's not rude, the celebration of Independence Day carries more meaning for some people than others. They like to celebrate our nation's freedom, and feel patiriotic, not to mention honoring loved ones who have served in the military or who are currently serving in Iraq or Afghanistan. Personally, I don't think it's the right day for a wedding.
Posted: 9/5/2008 6:38:39 PM

P: 9/5/2008 8:07:27 PM
Octavia Ideal Rock Total Posts: 1,477 Last Post: 11/24/2009 Member Since: 10/29/2007	Eh, Philly traffic is give-and-take on the 4th and really depends where in town one is. If she's planning to hold the wedding at the Four Seasons or somewhere else on the Parkway, I'd say it's a bad plan. But if it's away from the Parkway, I don't think it would be a huge problem, especially if the venue allows the couple to reserve parking in advance for their guests. I've never had serious trouble finding a street spot on the 4th, though I don't think that relying on street spots would be a good idea for wedding guests on any day! Marchswallowbird, your points are why I suggested she ask her particular group of friends and family. Although I have to say that even the most "patriotic" people I know use the 4th as an excuse to drink beer and pig out, rather than a day of honor and reflection -- not saying that there aren't people who do view the day more respectfully, I just don't know any. And I don't see how a celebration of marriage runs so contrary to a celebration of our nation's history and future? I guess there are just many different views on the subject and it could certainly be seen either way.
Posted: 9/5/2008 8:07:27 PM

P: 9/5/2008 8:41:20 PM
icekid Ideal Rock Total Posts: 6,555 Last Post: 11/22/2009 Member Since: 11/17/2004	Date: 9/5/2008 6:18:33 PM Author: roseg Good point crystal. I'm from Philly too and can assure you that, as much fun as it sounds, I stay away from Center City on the 4th. Traffic is an absolute nightmare and often streets are just closed off without a real alternative route. So, unless you're from the area, you would have no idea how to get around it. Although, traffic in Philly on the 4th probably isn't any worse than a normal Saturday in NY, LA or San Fran ;) Your guests could always take the subway I think a 4th of July wedding sounds like a ton of fun! And I loooove Center City on the 4th, but that's probably only because I live (well, lived ) there and could walk to all of the fun!
Posted: 9/5/2008 8:41:20 PM

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