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men not wearing wedding rings?

P: 8/19/2008 12:22:05 AM
Blair138 Ideal Rock Total Posts: 1,106 Last Post: 11/24/2009 Member Since: 4/8/2008	OK-I am probably going to stir up a whole big pot of stuff here-but I went back to work today, and one of my male co-workers, who JUST got married (about 16 days ago) was not wearing his wedding ring and I called him out on it. I know that some people (males mostly I find) don't really wear jewelry and therefore don't wear their ring, but 16 DAYS AFTER YOU JUST GOT MARRIED?!! I would personally be offended. I am engaged, and if I didn't wear my ring on a regular basis, my FI might wonder what the heck was up! Another male co-worker of ours was with us, he coincidentally never wears his ring, but basically told me it didn't matter that he didn't wear it...So I guess what I want to know is, do your husbands wear their rings, or men do you wear your ring? And if (you)they don't, do(does) you(your wife) mind??
Posted: 8/19/2008 12:22:05 AM

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P: 8/19/2008 12:27:59 AM
Miranda Ideal Rock Total Posts: 4,042 Last Post: 9/24/2009 Member Since: 2/18/2006	It took my hubby months to get used wearing his. He hates wearing jewelry. For lots of people marriage is not symbolized by rings. DH loses his ring frequently. His fingers constrict a lot when he is in cold water. He surfs several times a week so him coming home hanging his head telling me he lost his ring is nothing new. I just go buy another $100 titanium one. I'm not bothered a bit. Though I cannot understand why he won't take it off before he goes.....scratches head
Posted: 8/19/2008 12:27:59 AM

P: 8/19/2008 12:29:36 AM
radiantquest Ideal Rock Total Posts: 1,313 Last Post: 11/24/2009 Member Since: 7/20/2008	i am not currently married, but we have talked about wearing the ring. he doesnt want to wear it to work. he is an electrician and i can understand his not wanting to wear it. i dont expect him to wear it to work. i did tell him that he will wear it when we go out and when he mows the grass ( so that it is obvious that a ring goes there even when he isnt wearing it) this is our agreement and it works for us
Posted: 8/19/2008 12:29:36 AM

P: 8/19/2008 12:29:47 AM
fiery Ideal Rock Total Posts: 4,137 Last Post: 11/24/2009 Member Since: 5/18/2008	Not married yet My FI's family is from South America (Chile). His father doesn't wear a wedding ring and neither does his mom. It's not that common there. Every once in a while she'll wear a wedding band but that's it. I don't even know if she has an e-ring
Posted: 8/19/2008 12:29:47 AM

P: 8/19/2008 12:34:35 AM
SarahLovesJS Ideal Rock Total Posts: 4,973 Last Post: 11/21/2009 Member Since: 2/3/2008	FI has to wear his ring, has to! I don't see any excuse for him not to. He's fine with that though, which is good. I am as well (in my case). Mrs. S<3JS
Posted: 8/19/2008 12:34:35 AM

P: 8/19/2008 12:38:00 AM
Galateia Ideal Rock Total Posts: 1,218 Last Post: 8/17/2009 Member Since: 5/9/2006	My guy does not wear jewelery and hates to even wear a watch, however he will wear a ring because what it symbolizes is more important to him than the irritation of wearing it. I just ask if he'd take it off when at work (he's a clinical psych grad) to avoid displaying his martial status to clients, and he looked at me like I have two heads. Apparently he won't take it off even then. If I wear a sign of being taken and being his 'other half', that gander had better be lounging in the same sauce as his goose! Legally cohabitated Time elapsed: 24 months of separation hell Cost of process: 3k Finally being together: Priceless
Posted: 8/19/2008 12:38:00 AM

P: 8/19/2008 12:43:16 AM
luvmyhalo Ideal Rock Total Posts: 1,037 Last Post: 8/11/2009 Member Since: 12/4/2007	Mine wears his all the time. I have a friend whose husband doesn't wear his because he doesn't like how it feels on his hand...bugs the heck out of me! It may be fine for them, but for me personally, it would drive me nuts. Maybe that means I'm insecure and would think suspicious things....I don't know!
Posted: 8/19/2008 12:43:16 AM

P: 8/19/2008 1:07:12 AM
Cleo Ideal Rock Total Posts: 931 Last Post: 9/21/2008 Member Since: 1/26/2008	This is funny :) My FI doesn't wear jewellery, and although our wedding may be another couple of years down the road, I have told him in no uncertain terms that he will wear a wedding ring. I think he understands. :) Oh, and he surfs too... and I won't let him use that as an excuse.. he can leave his ring in the car! ;) Heheheheh. x x x
Posted: 8/19/2008 1:07:12 AM

P: 8/19/2008 1:22:32 AM
Dancing Fire Ideal Rock Total Posts: 10,227 Last Post: 11/24/2009 Member Since: 4/3/2004	i always wore my ring until it was loss in a robbery it is always harder to find a "mind clean" stone than a eye clean stone.
Posted: 8/19/2008 1:22:32 AM

P: 8/19/2008 1:29:52 AM
Cleo Ideal Rock Total Posts: 931 Last Post: 9/21/2008 Member Since: 1/26/2008	Dancing Fire: that sucks hugs Have you replaced it? x x x
Posted: 8/19/2008 1:29:52 AM

P: 8/19/2008 1:30:10 AM
Linda W Ideal Rock Total Posts: 10,443 Last Post: 11/24/2009 Member Since: 2/15/2006	My DH doesn't wear his ring due to his occupation. When we go out he does wear his ring. Either way it doesn't matter to me. We know we are married. A ring is only a symbol. Linda ******************************** "Life is what happens to you, while you are busy making other plans". John Lennon
Posted: 8/19/2008 1:30:10 AM

P: 8/19/2008 1:32:48 AM
trillionaire Ideal Rock Total Posts: 3,133 Last Post: 11/24/2009 Member Since: 4/19/2008	My dad wears his regularly. My mom NEVER wears hers. Ever. She only puts her e-ring on for formals. I don't even know what her wedding band looks like. I am pretty used to the idea of neither of them wearing it, so it doesn't seem like a super big deal, but I think that FF and I are both going to be excited about wearing ours, and doing so regularly. He is not a jewelry person, but he has been harassing me about getting him an e-ring and/or wedding ring. Seriously. So I am guessing that he would plan to wear it, lol. And I tend to lose jewelry, so it should be interesting... Only time will tell. ******************************** Engaged: 7/18/09! Elopement: 9/25/10, our 7th anniversary! * Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means that you've decided to look past the imperfections *
Posted: 8/19/2008 1:32:48 AM

P: 8/19/2008 2:08:05 AM
Dancing Fire Ideal Rock Total Posts: 10,227 Last Post: 11/24/2009 Member Since: 4/3/2004	Date: 8/19/2008 1:29:52 AM Author: Cleo Dancing Fire: that sucks hugs Have you replaced it? x x x will you loan me some ? it is always harder to find a "mind clean" stone than a eye clean stone.
Posted: 8/19/2008 2:08:05 AM

P: 8/19/2008 2:52:54 AM
Cleo Ideal Rock Total Posts: 931 Last Post: 9/21/2008 Member Since: 1/26/2008	If I had any to lend, then I would, gladly. x x x
Posted: 8/19/2008 2:52:54 AM

P: 8/19/2008 3:36:11 AM
LaraOnline Ideal Rock Total Posts: 2,039 Last Post: 9/1/2009 Member Since: 2/25/2008	My man doesn't wear a wedding ring. What can I say.... he lost it within days of getting married, and that was that. When I suggest that I replace it, he refuses. And then a plank in reason broke... Emily Dickinson
Posted: 8/19/2008 3:36:11 AM

P: 8/19/2008 3:38:29 AM
LaraOnline Ideal Rock Total Posts: 2,039 Last Post: 9/1/2009 Member Since: 2/25/2008	Date: 8/19/2008 2:08:05 AM Author: Dancing Fire will you loan me some ? that's funny ETA: my man will never find the money for us to get him another ring either. And I can't get it by myself, as I can't remember his size! And then a plank in reason broke... Emily Dickinson
Posted: 8/19/2008 3:38:29 AM

P: 8/19/2008 5:31:44 AM
bee* Ideal Rock Total Posts: 11,105 Last Post: 11/23/2009 Member Since: 5/14/2006	I don't think that D is too fond of wearing jewellery but he said that he'll wear his wedding ring and try and get used to it.
Posted: 8/19/2008 5:31:44 AM

P: 8/19/2008 5:57:16 AM
D2B Ideal Rock Total Posts: 785 Last Post: 11/23/2009 Member Since: 2/10/2007	My DH wears his all day. It would bug me as well if he didnt wear it. Luckily he loves it and has no reason not too wear it. d2b
Posted: 8/19/2008 5:57:16 AM

P: 8/19/2008 6:26:44 AM
Maisie Ideal Rock Total Posts: 7,769 Last Post: 11/24/2009 Member Since: 12/30/2006	My husband wears his 24/7. He loves wearing it. I don't know how I would feel if he didn't like wearing it.
Posted: 8/19/2008 6:26:44 AM

P: 8/19/2008 6:31:36 AM
Pandora II Ideal Rock Total Posts: 6,272 Last Post: 11/24/2009 Member Since: 8/3/2006	In the UK a lot of men don't wear wedding bands at all - my father doesn't have one. It's quite a modern concept. DH didn't want one and I was fine with that, but then I showed him a photograph of a mokume gane band and that was that, he wanted one. He doesn't wear jewellery at all - unless you count cufflinks and a tie pin which he wears everyday - but they're not touching your skin. He doesn't even wear/own a watch as he hates the feel of them. So far he has forgotten his twice in the morning (we've been married just over 3 weeks). Does it bother me? Not at all! I don't wear my e-ring or w-band around the house, doesn't mean I'm less married. I left the house quite often without my e-ring before we were married - by mistake not deliberately. I guess I'm just super secure.
Posted: 8/19/2008 6:31:36 AM

P: 8/19/2008 7:01:46 AM
Lorelei Ideal Rock Total Posts: 34,254 Last Post: 11/24/2009 Member Since: 4/30/2005	Date: 8/19/2008 6:31:36 AM Author: Pandora II In the UK a lot of men don't wear wedding bands at all - my father doesn't have one. It's quite a modern concept. DH didn't want one and I was fine with that, but then I showed him a photograph of a mokume gane band and that was that, he wanted one. He doesn't wear jewellery at all - unless you count cufflinks and a tie pin which he wears everyday - but they're not touching your skin. He doesn't even wear/own a watch as he hates the feel of them. So far he has forgotten his twice in the morning (we've been married just over 3 weeks). Does it bother me? Not at all! I don't wear my e-ring or w-band around the house, doesn't mean I'm less married. I left the house quite often without my e-ring before we were married - by mistake not deliberately. I guess I'm just super secure. My Father didn't wear one either, Pan is right that it seems to be a modern concept. Nothing is more sacred as the bond between horse and rider...no other creature can ever become so emotionally close to a human as a horse. When a horse dies, the memory lives on because an enormous part of his owner's heart, soul, very existence dies also...but that can never be laid to rest, it is not meant to be... - Stephanie M Thorn
Posted: 8/19/2008 7:01:46 AM

P: 8/19/2008 7:24:22 AM
Cleo Ideal Rock Total Posts: 931 Last Post: 9/21/2008 Member Since: 1/26/2008	Pandora - I had no idea you were married so recently - congratulations! My father has an engagement ring and a wedding ring - and wears neither, to the huge annoyance of my mother! Mostly this is because they're a bit tight (middle aged spread)... but I thinkthey just annoy him. The onyx e-ring is very dated looking now, but he wears the plain gold wedding ring on rare occasions... x x x
Posted: 8/19/2008 7:24:22 AM

P: 8/19/2008 8:49:55 AM
Irishgrrrl Ideal Rock Total Posts: 3,338 Last Post: 11/24/2009 Member Since: 6/3/2008	Date: 8/19/2008 12:29:36 AM Author: radiantquest i am not currently married, but we have talked about wearing the ring. he doesnt want to wear it to work. he is an electrician and i can understand his not wanting to wear it. i dont expect him to wear it to work. i did tell him that he will wear it when we go out and when he mows the grass ( so that it is obvious that a ring goes there even when he isnt wearing it) this is our agreement and it works for us RQ~ My DH is an electrician, too! His company's policy is that the guys are not supposed to wear any jewelry at all. The reason for this is because most metals used in jewelry are very conductive, and not something you want to be wearing when you're working around electricity. But, his company doesn't really enforce the policy, especially when it comes to wedding rings, and most of the guys (DH included) wear their rings to work every day. DH is very attached to his ring. It's pretty beat up after three years of him banging it around, and I keep offering to replace it, but he completely refuses to even consider this. In fact, it's hard for me to get him to take it off long enough for me to clean it! LOL! I don't really think he would feel comfortable not wearing it to work. But, he does have some scary stories about other electricians and what happened to their wedding rings, so I do worry about that sometimes! A funny story about the whole guys-not-wearing-rings issue: When my Mom married her second husband, he said he wasn't planning to wear his ring, because most of the guys he worked with didn't wear theirs. (Keep in mind, there really wasn't much of a reason for this ~ they simply chose not to wear them.) So, my Mom said, "Fine, then I won't wear one either!" Needless to say, that convinced him to wear it! LOL! ~Emm "Goodness had nothing to do with it, dearie." ~ Mae West
Posted: 8/19/2008 8:49:55 AM

P: 8/19/2008 8:57:26 AM
Catmom Ideal Rock Total Posts: 5,756 Last Post: 11/21/2009 Member Since: 4/6/2005	Date: 8/19/2008 6:26:44 AM Author: Maisie My husband wears his 24/7. He loves wearing it. I don't know how I would feel if he didn't like wearing it. Ditto! Michelle *****************************So many sparklies.....So little time!
Posted: 8/19/2008 8:57:26 AM

P: 8/19/2008 9:02:29 AM
NewEnglandLady Ideal Rock Total Posts: 3,157 Last Post: 11/24/2009 Member Since: 7/27/2007	Neither I nor my DH wear our wedding bands for a good chunk of the time. A naked hand just feels better sometimes :) Also, we rock climb all the time, so rings are dangerous. We know you don't have to have a ring to be married.
Posted: 8/19/2008 9:02:29 AM

P: 8/19/2008 9:09:51 AM
Cleopatra Ideal Rock Total Posts: 1,000 Last Post: 11/24/2009 Member Since: 8/8/2007	My father lost his wedding band 3 weeks after he and my mother got married. This was 35 years ago - and still, to this day, doesn't have another one. He's a farmer who uses his hands a LOT - and a ring could be the difference between losing or keeping a finger if it were caught in machinery. I think everyone is different - I've been married for two weeks - and i don't wear my rings sometimes already - I think it's all a matter of personal preference. Without my rings, I'm still married, so it doesn't bother me if DH doesn't wear his...
Posted: 8/19/2008 9:09:51 AM

P: 8/19/2008 9:20:57 AM
vslover Cut Rock Total Posts: 474 Last Post: 4/28/2009 Member Since: 11/9/2007	My DH loves his and never takes it off.
Posted: 8/19/2008 9:20:57 AM

P: 8/19/2008 9:21:52 AM
niccia Cut Rock Total Posts: 293 Last Post: 11/24/2009 Member Since: 2/18/2008	My dad never wore a ring and my mum only had a simple band (I think my dad had one from his dad originally but I don't know what happened to it). My mum always wanted an engagement ring with a tanzanite stone (my dad's birthplace) but they could never afford to buy one plus my dad was never very good at giving her gifts (if he did it was usually lingerie ) . Now that I'm older I would like to find her a nice ring with my dad's help and get it for her, but let my dad give it to her. I don't know if she would like that though or of it would mean the same to her. As for my fiance, we were planning on buying him a ring but then he decided he would rather have a new snowmobile. He isn't really a jewellry type of guy and works with his hands a lot . So we got him that instead as an engagement gift which was fine with me. I was very involved in the purchase of my ring because I knew what I wanted, so I figured I might as well let him have what he wanted to. I trust him a 100% and we aren't really doing anything very traditionally so it doesn't bother me at all that he isn't going to wear one.
Posted: 8/19/2008 9:21:52 AM

P: 8/19/2008 9:24:33 AM
applequeen Cut Rock Total Posts: 215 Last Post: 8/24/2009 Member Since: 2/27/2008	Date: 8/19/2008 8:49:55 AM Author: Irishgrrrl Date: 8/19/2008 12:29:36 AM Author: radiantquest i am not currently married, but we have talked about wearing the ring. he doesnt want to wear it to work. he is an electrician and i can understand his not wanting to wear it. i dont expect him to wear it to work. i did tell him that he will wear it when we go out and when he mows the grass ( so that it is obvious that a ring goes there even when he isnt wearing it) this is our agreement and it works for us RQ~ My DH is an electrician, too! His company's policy is that the guys are not supposed to wear any jewelry at all. The reason for this is because most metals used in jewelry are very conductive, and not something you want to be wearing when you're working around electricity. But, his company doesn't really enforce the policy, especially when it comes to wedding rings, and most of the guys (DH included) wear their rings to work every day. DH is very attached to his ring. It's pretty beat up after three years of him banging it around, and I keep offering to replace it, but he completely refuses to even consider this. In fact, it's hard for me to get him to take it off long enough for me to clean it! LOL! I don't really think he would feel comfortable not wearing it to work. But, he does have some scary stories about other electricians and what happened to their wedding rings, so I do worry about that sometimes! A funny story about the whole guys-not-wearing-rings issue: When my Mom married her second husband, he said he wasn't planning to wear his ring, because most of the guys he worked with didn't wear theirs. (Keep in mind, there really wasn't much of a reason for this ~ they simply chose not to wear them.) So, my Mom said, 'Fine, then I won't wear one either!' Needless to say, that convinced him to wear it! LOL! Yet another wife of an electrician here. My husband doesn't wear his (for the reasons already mentioned) and at first it bothered me but now I understand his reasons for it. He also doesn't wear it when he's working out. He pretty much keeps it on his key ring so he can slip it on and off when he needs to wear it. I know that even though he doesn't wear it all the time he treasures it... and more importantly... he loves me. He doesn't need a ring to tell anyone he's married because I know how proud he is to be my husband. Anyone who is around him more than 5 minutes will probably hear about me. The first thing I do when I get home is take off my jewelry so I can sort of understand why there are times he isn't comfortable wearing his ring. Over the weekend we were doing more work to our house (in the middle of a renovation) and I saw he was wearing his ring (had put it on for church that morning). I asked him why he didn't take it off and he said "I want to wear it... I don't get to wear it that much". When we were first married it bothered me a lot and I was always reminding him to put it on. Now it just doesn't seem that big of deal. A ring is a symbol of our marriage but our marriage is built on more than whether or not either of us are wearing our rings. When I was a single girl I met a guy in a bar and spent the evening talking to him (just talking... I promise). At the end of the night the bill came and he reached into his pocket to get his wallet and I noticed that something fell on the floor... I went to pick it up and guess what?!?!??! it was his wedding ring!. I handed it back to him and told him that I thought his wife might appreciate it if he'd put his ring back on. What a jerk... I felt so sorry for his wife.
Posted: 8/19/2008 9:24:33 AM

P: 8/19/2008 9:32:25 AM
neatfreak Ideal Rock Total Posts: 13,475 Last Post: 11/24/2009 Member Since: 2/17/2007	Neither of my parents ever wore rings (they didn't even exchange them!) so it doesn't make me thing anything of men in general who don't wear rings. Mine are still married, so it works for them! But I do admit that I LOVE that my hubby loves to wear his!
Posted: 8/19/2008 9:32:25 AM

P: 8/19/2008 9:47:13 AM
allycat0303 Ideal Rock Total Posts: 2,928 Last Post: 11/15/2009 Member Since: 11/19/2004	Well I REALLY don't like jewelery on men. Not even watches. I bought my fiance a wedding band, but I'm hoping he won't wear it too often, except when we go out. He has a really jock-relax style, I don't really see the wedding band as being really him. He loves it though, and wants to wear it though, and is really excited to wear it. We'll see after the wedding.
Posted: 8/19/2008 9:47:13 AM

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