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 Should wedding rings match?

P:  4/24/2008 10:00:37 PM  
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Should the wedding rings of the bride and groom match? Should they be same color metal (such as white gold both) and same or similar style?
I myself like the men's wedding ring in combination of white and yellow gold, such as this one. She wants her engagement ring in white gold (we just chose the stone, did not choose a setting yet), so she is thinking that her wedding ring should be in white gold as well, and is telling me that my wedding ring should be white as well to match hers. Please give some advice what is better to do.


Posted:  4/24/2008 10:00:37 PM

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P: 4/24/2008 10:06:09 PM
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More and more of the people I see getting married have different rings.  Many guys are going with titanium, braded metals and celtic styles. 

I like it better when the rings match personallites, matching works for some people but it is not for me.  A diamond ring would be no good on me and a titanium would be no good on her. 

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Posted:  4/24/2008 10:06:09 PM
P: 4/24/2008 10:13:16 PM
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I like the bands to match too. DH and I had somewhat matching bands initially, same yellow gold. Then I had a new set made in white gold. He still has a yellow gold band. Ultimately it comes down to whatever "you" like and what works for you both. You are gonna wear it for years and years, so wear what makes you happy.

Posted:  4/24/2008 10:13:16 PM
P: 4/24/2008 10:16:02 PM
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BTW ~ I like that band. I like the combination of white and yellow gold! That could be versatile in going with what she would want. Don't ya think?

Posted:  4/24/2008 10:16:02 PM
P: 4/24/2008 10:18:58 PM
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I don't think they need to match at all, but ultimately it is a personal preference issue.

Posted:  4/24/2008 10:18:58 PM
P: 4/24/2008 10:33:05 PM
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I don't think they need to match, but again am not a matchy matchy person.  Buy what you want to wear.

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Posted:  4/24/2008 10:33:05 PM
P: 4/24/2008 10:37:59 PM
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only if you want them to.

dh's and mine don't match and hasn't bothered us any they are both white gold/platinum though. it would bug me if dh's band was yellow gold, but that's because I have a strong preference for white metals

Posted:  4/24/2008 10:37:59 PM
P: 4/24/2008 10:52:50 PM
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While I don't think they should be identical, I think they should be the same color.  For example white metal wedding ring for her and white metal for him.  The design should be a personal choice.  If you were to choose a ring like the one you posted, though, it could be any/or combination of the metals.  For example, my husband has a platinum and yellow gold band and I wear a white gold band.  I could wear a yellow gold band though and I think that would be okay for me too.  In my most honest opinion, I would think it was odd if I saw a married couple with one wearing a yellow gold band and the other wore a white metal band.  But, it's their own personal choice so they can do whatever they want, it's just not for me.  Sorry I'm rambling...

Posted:  4/24/2008 10:52:50 PM
P: 4/25/2008 6:13:32 AM
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I don't think it matters if they don't match, if you both want totally different things, I think it is best that wearer likes the ring they will be wearing the rest of their life. I wanted a diamond band, my husband got the cartier trinity (wide rolling ring version, not the one you posted, but I really like the one you posted too!). However, as my wedding gift, I also got a cartier trinity, which worked very nicely I have a ring that matches my husband's which I love wearing, but I also was able to get the type of band that I wanted, that suits my engagement ring.

Posted:  4/25/2008 6:13:32 AM
P: 4/25/2008 6:57:52 AM
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i don't think they have to match. white metal looks awful on my DH and yellow gold looks awful on me. so he wears a YG band that suits him well and i wear platinum which suits me well. it still serves the same purpose!



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Posted:  4/25/2008 6:57:52 AM
P: 4/25/2008 7:30:18 AM
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I do think it looks nice when the bands match, but I don't think it's essential. You don't wear the same clothes do you? So I don't see why your bands can't be as individual as you are. My girlfriend and I both tend to prefer platinum, so our bands (if she says yes...) will match, but I didn't plan it that way.

Posted:  4/25/2008 7:30:18 AM
P: 4/25/2008 7:31:40 AM
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Date: 4/25/2008 6:57:52 AM
Author: rainydaze
i don't think they have to match. white metal looks awful on my DH and yellow gold looks awful on me. so he wears a YG band that suits him well and i wear platinum which suits me well. it still serves the same purpose!

Ditto!  I think each person should wear the color that they like and that compliments them the most!  I am really not all that familiar with this idea that the rings should match! I just changed my rings to platinum and my husband's ring is yellow gold.  It never crossed my mind that our rings were supposed to match! 




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Posted:  4/25/2008 7:31:40 AM
P: 4/25/2008 7:33:10 AM
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I just had an idea. Get her a diamond wedding band and then it really won't matter which metal your ring is! That is a beautiful Cartier band, by the way!




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Posted:  4/25/2008 7:33:10 AM
P: 4/25/2008 7:55:37 AM
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Berboris,
That's exactly that band that my fiance will be getting. Mine will be different though.

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Posted:  4/25/2008 7:55:37 AM
P: 4/25/2008 8:26:03 AM
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My husband and I do have matching bands, but I don't think they need to be matching.  This is going to be a ring that you wear everyday for the rest of your life so it should be what you want it to be, not just a ring that you got because it matched.

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Posted:  4/25/2008 8:26:03 AM
P: 4/25/2008 9:57:11 PM
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There are no more exacting rules to wearing jewelry.People are wearing their wedding jewelry on their fingers, on their  toes, in their noses,no more rules.

Posted:  4/25/2008 9:57:11 PM
P: 4/25/2008 11:00:43 PM
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Wedding rings used to often match, but it was never a requirement.  If you want matching rings, then you two should find rings that you both like.  Only the first of many, many compromises to come in your lives together.

Otherwise, you can each pick what you like best.

Congratulations to you both, and happy shopping! 

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Posted:  4/25/2008 11:00:43 PM
P: 4/25/2008 11:06:27 PM
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I think if you're going to wear it, you should pick it!

I asked my boyfriend J a while back (maybe a year ago) if he'd ever thought about what style ring he wanted for his wedding band, and he stared at me blankly for a second or two and then said, "Uh, whatever you get but bigger." I told him he could choose any kind of band that he wanted, that it didn't *have* to match mine since he would be the one wearing it, but them matching is important to him, so he wants the same ring as me. I'd be fine with it either way, since I just want a plain platinum band (assuming plat price isn't into the stratosphere by then ).

So, yeah. If you want that ring, I think you should get to wear it. It's not like anyone's going to have to match you up to your wife by your bands alone; I'm pretty sure there will be other clues to go by for them to figure out which one is your wife, like that she's the one you kiss and stuff.

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Posted:  4/25/2008 11:06:27 PM
P: 4/25/2008 11:08:26 PM
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I know many women who have bought two rings--a diamond wedding band to wear with their e-ring and a second plain band that matches their DH's to wear when they aren't wearing their set. I actually did this myself, then exchanged my plain band for a rolling ring.

Posted:  4/25/2008 11:08:26 PM
P: 4/29/2008 11:32:56 PM
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I don't think they have to match at all. Mine is diamonds/platinum, his is yellow gold. And to make matters worse, he wears his father's white gold ring on his right hand. So it's just a whole jumble of rings and colors.

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Posted:  4/29/2008 11:32:56 PM
P: 4/30/2008 12:04:52 AM
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I think it only matters to the couple.  I really like the band you posted.



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Posted:  4/30/2008 12:04:52 AM
P: 4/30/2008 1:26:01 AM
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i think it's personal preference. FI and i won't have matching bands but they'll be the same color metal. i like the band you posted. i think it'd go with your future wife's white gold band since the one you like has white gold in it.

Posted:  4/30/2008 1:26:01 AM
P: 4/30/2008 1:32:42 AM
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While it's a personal preference, I dont think it's necessary. I think the most important thing is that both partners love their rings and love wearing them and remembering what the signify when they look at their rings. But then, I'm not a matchy matchy person at all so...The Cartier is a lovely choice for a man's wband.

Posted:  4/30/2008 1:32:42 AM
P: 4/30/2008 8:38:21 AM
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I also think it's a personal preference thing.  My rings are platinum and my wedding band has diamonds; my husband's is Gibeon meteorite with yellow rails.  They look absolutely nothing alike, but they suit us both.

I really like the ring you posted...cool. 

Posted:  4/30/2008 8:38:21 AM
P: 4/30/2008 10:05:57 AM
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That's a gorgeous mens band !  And it looks like the middle is white gold, so I think it would somewhat match...

Posted:  4/30/2008 10:05:57 AM
P: 4/30/2008 10:17:10 AM
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I am a sorta "matchy" person, and prefer rings that are the same metal...we will have platinum bands, but diff styles (his is the lucida, mine is the knife-edge).

Posted:  4/30/2008 10:17:10 AM
P: 4/30/2008 12:33:15 PM
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The wedding bands should match the wearer's personality. I definitely don't think they need to match each other, ESPECIALLY if the woman's band matches her ering.  For example, if the woman's wedding band is a diamond etenity band, it wouldn't make sense to have the same for the man.  Either way, each person should have a ring they like and are proud to wear.

Posted:  4/30/2008 12:33:15 PM
P: 4/30/2008 12:48:30 PM
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We both decided to get what we like so matching our bands wasn't an issue but in the end we both got platinum rings from the same designer so at least the color and certain styling elements matched.

I used to see a lot more matching bands but lately guys want something more individual to their taste. Titanium, Tungsten and Palladium rings are pretty popular, specially platinum is so high nowadays.

Heather

Posted:  4/30/2008 12:48:30 PM
P: 4/30/2008 2:17:32 PM
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I'm with Rainydaze. I was going to buy my husband a platinum band, and the white metals looked terrible on his skin. Yellow gold looked great on him, but terrible on me. So I have a platinum band, and he wore a yellow gold band for about a week and completely scratched it up! He now wears an awesome grey and black titanium band that completely suits him. I think you should go with personal preference, I had never heard that they were "supposed" to match before either, but who cares about "supposed to!" You're the ones who will wear the rings forever so go with what you like best!

Posted:  4/30/2008 2:17:32 PM

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