waiting...and waiting...HELP!

It is so nice to find a place where other people have similar issues as myself. I have a similar story as many people in this forum and any advice would be greatly appreciated.

My bf and I have been dating for 6.5 years (we are both in out late 20’s) and over the past year we have seriously discussed marriage. He constantly asks me to move in with him, and I would, but not until we are engaged and he knows that. He has already asked my family for my hand in marriage and told him it would be a couple weeks until he found the right ring….6 months later and still no ring!! When I expressed my concern to him, he said he has looked at a lot of places but has not found the right ring yet.  He suggested we go ring shopping together and we did a couple months ago, but I found nothing that I fell in love with and overall the whole experience was a bit awkward. I would rather him pick it out himself himself.

I have started to get a little frustrated and feel he is just using not finding the right ring as an excuse. Between our family and friends everyone has been asking both of us when it is going to happen. I have decided just recently to stop bringing up marriage b/c maybe he is starting to feel too much pressure.  Maybe it will happen during the holidays but I am getting tired of waiting and the empty promises.

Any help or insight would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!

Well you said you went shopping with him and even you didn’t find anything that set your heart on fire.  Perhaps he’s thinking it’s a large investment to make without knowing for sure that you’ll absolutely love the ring.

Have you thought about having a ring custom made?  If you designed your own ring, top to bottom, you could incorporate aspects of other rings you may have seen and said, “I like this but I don’t like this part”.  If you pool all your likes together you could end up with your perfect ring. 

If you wanted to test the waters a bit instead of dropping the topic completely perhaps you could approach your BF and ask how he would feel about meeting with a jeweler to work out a custom setting since neither of you have been able to find anything in the stores that you love.

***The greatest pleasure in life is doing what people say you can not do.***

Date: 11/19/2007 11:35:53 AM
Author: lucy.lucy.80
I apologize for bringing back an old topic however I just wanted to thank you for all your advice.

I really appreciate it and took all the advice to heart. I have been searching the internet and found my dream ring on whiteflash.com. I showed it to him this past week and he was soo excited that I found something I really liked. I think the ring is going to be purchased this week so hopefully my wait won't be much longer

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R & J
08-02-08
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