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| P: 1/29/2007 9:30:37 AM | |
equestrienne Ideal Rock Total Posts: 1,437 Last Post: 11/22/2009 Member Since: 3/16/2006 |
I want to send out an announcement card this week, something printed and postcard sized, to tell my family who received STD magnets that my wedding is no longer taking place. I don't want people planning vacation time around something that no longer exists and a lot of places finalize vacation schedules around now. I am only doing this for my family, the ex is on his own with his part of the guest list. How is this supposed to be worded, though? Can I get away with something like this? Due to unforseen circumstances, the wedding of equestrienne and eq's ex has been cancelled. Please remove this event from your calendars. 
We've set a date! 11/06/10 "Heaven smells like horses." |
| Posted: 1/29/2007 9:30:37 AM | |
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| P: 1/29/2007 9:44:07 AM | |
sumbride Ideal Rock Total Posts: 3,867 Last Post: 1/21/2009 Member Since: 2/17/2006 |
I think a printed announcement is maybe not the best route on this. How many people did you send it to on your side of the guest list? Can you, and maybe your parents, call and tell them? I know it may feel like you're rehashing, which would make it better if your parents could do the bulk of the family, but if you send the announcement, people are going to call anyway to find out what those "unforeseen circumstances" are.
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| Posted: 1/29/2007 9:44:07 AM | |
| P: 1/29/2007 9:46:38 AM | |
janinegirly Ideal Rock Total Posts: 2,219 Last Post: 11/23/2009 Member Since: 9/21/2006 |
i agree with sum. it's an expensive and formal way of telling people an event is cancelled. In this circumstance, a phone call/email, word of mouth would suffice I'd think.
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| Posted: 1/29/2007 9:46:38 AM | |
| P: 1/29/2007 9:56:02 AM | |
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equestrienne Ideal Rock Total Posts: 1,437 Last Post: 11/22/2009 Member Since: 3/16/2006 |
Well, that's just the thing, the rehashing by phone is what I DON'T want to have to do or put my folks through at this time. Once you start talking to some of these people, it's an hour long conversation. We have urgent family concerns at this time that are more important than having to take a few hours to make phone calls... let's just say that after events of last week, there is likely NO WAY a wedding would have happened this year anyway, regardless of my situation with my ex. I just want to move on. Something short and sweet without the "oh you poor thing"-ing is what I want. I could get the word out through an email, too, as that news will filter through a number of people on both my mom's and dad's sides of the family and they will get the word around... We've set a date! |
| Posted: 1/29/2007 9:56:02 AM | |
| P: 1/29/2007 10:02:52 AM | |
jcrow Ideal Rock Total Posts: 6,482 Last Post: 11/23/2009 Member Since: 8/8/2005 |
well email might give you similar results as a phone call. they would most likely respond with questions. email & phone both illicit a response, whereas the announcement via mail would take more on their part to ask questions.
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| Posted: 1/29/2007 10:02:52 AM | |
| P: 1/29/2007 10:16:31 AM | |
FacetFire Ideal Rock Total Posts: 1,878 Last Post: 6/23/2009 Member Since: 6/27/2006 |
If it were me, I'd probably send a card. I saw a humorous cancellation card once that said something along the lines of, "Picked the wrong guy, gave him the wrong finger, thanks for your support at this difficult time." Not that I recommend that you take that route, but it just stuck in my mind. Personally, if I received a cancellation card, unless I was VERY close to the bride/groom, I wouldn't call and ask...it just doesn't seem polite when you know that the reasons behind the cancellation can't be good. BTW, how are you doing?
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| Posted: 1/29/2007 10:16:31 AM | |
| P: 1/29/2007 10:20:34 AM | |
fatafelice Ideal Rock Total Posts: 1,746 Last Post: 11/21/2009 Member Since: 7/27/2004 |
I think you should do whatever is easiest/best for you. You have enough to deal with already. Sure some people will want to call and find out what happened, but I would think that number would be much lower if you send out cards. If it helps, it is what my etiquette book reccommends as well. She mentions wording something like this: Mr. and Mrs. Equestrienne's Parents announce that the marriage of their daughter Equestrienne to Equestrienne's ex will not take place The one above implies that the parents are the hosts (and that invitations have been sent); if they were not hosting your wedding, then it would not be neccessary to include their names. What I do like about -- it is very to the point with no extra information. I think that implies that calls and questions might be unwelcome, which would help you out. Finally, I have been sort of MIA lately, so in case I haven't said it before, I am so sorry that you have to go through this Equestrienne. I cannot imagine how difficult it must be. And to be having other problems to deal with now as well...My thoughts are with you. Stay strong.
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| Posted: 1/29/2007 10:20:34 AM | |
| P: 1/29/2007 10:29:44 AM | |
Finding_Neverland Cut Rock Total Posts: 412 Last Post: 7/3/2007 Member Since: 1/10/2007 |
Date: 1/29/2007 10:16:31 AM Author: FacetFire If it were me, I'd probably send a card. I saw a humorous cancellation card once that said something along the lines of, 'Picked the wrong guy, gave him the wrong finger, thanks for your support at this difficult time.' Not that I recommend that you take that route, but it just stuck in my mind. Personally, if I received a cancellation card, unless I was VERY close to the bride/groom, I wouldn't call and ask...it just doesn't seem polite when you know that the reasons behind the cancellation can't be good. BTW, how are you doing? That's probably the card I would choose, Facet!! That's too funny. And would probably be too true!! I'm with Facet,........... If I wasn't a close relative or on "best friend" level with the bride or groom, I wouldn't ask. If you wanted to tell that would be one thing. But if not, well it's not my business. It's your business and you chose not to share. But not everyone is that considerate. You'll have tacky Cuz Sue and Aunt Polly and the neighbor down the street all doing the "Inquiring Minds Gotta Know" routine. However you say there's not gonna be a wedding, Eq,........... You might add at the end of your note something to the effect of,........... I know you all love and support me, but PLEASE do not deepen the wounds with lots of questions that I have neither the time nor the energy to answer right now. When the time is right,......... When this all much less painful,.......... I may talk about it sometime in the future. Just a thought for you. _________________________ |
| Posted: 1/29/2007 10:29:44 AM | |
| P: 1/29/2007 12:23:55 PM | |
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equestrienne Ideal Rock Total Posts: 1,437 Last Post: 11/22/2009 Member Since: 3/16/2006 |
Date: 1/29/2007 10:02:52 AM Author: jcrow well email might give you similar results as a phone call. they would most likely respond with questions. email & phone both illicit a response, whereas the announcement via mail would take more on their part to ask questions. That was kind of what I was going for, jcrow. They have to do a lot more to get fuel for the rumor mill if it's just a quick card through the mail. My immediate family knows the story, and they could just go from that point rather than speak directly to the source. We've set a date! |
| Posted: 1/29/2007 12:23:55 PM | |
| P: 1/29/2007 12:27:30 PM | |
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equestrienne Ideal Rock Total Posts: 1,437 Last Post: 11/22/2009 Member Since: 3/16/2006 |
Date: 1/29/2007 10:16:31 AM Author: FacetFire If it were me, I'd probably send a card. I saw a humorous cancellation card once that said something along the lines of, 'Picked the wrong guy, gave him the wrong finger, thanks for your support at this difficult time.' Not that I recommend that you take that route, but it just stuck in my mind. Personally, if I received a cancellation card, unless I was VERY close to the bride/groom, I wouldn't call and ask...it just doesn't seem polite when you know that the reasons behind the cancellation can't be good. BTW, how are you doing? LOL I love that card you mentioned, FF.  I am doing okay, thanks for asking. I am really positive about this whole situation, and have gotten nothing but support and "you go, girl"-s from most of the people I have told about what happened. I redid my bedroom (see the thread in the Shopping forum), I've been meeting new people and going on some dates, and I've been working on me and my best interests for the last few weeks. Apparently he is not doing as well, so I have heard through mutual friends, but that is really not my concern anymore. We've set a date! |
| Posted: 1/29/2007 12:27:30 PM | |
| P: 1/29/2007 12:31:06 PM | |
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equestrienne Ideal Rock Total Posts: 1,437 Last Post: 11/22/2009 Member Since: 3/16/2006 |
Date: 1/29/2007 10:20:34 AM Author: fatafelice I think you should do whatever is easiest/best for you. You have enough to deal with already. Sure some people will want to call and find out what happened, but I would think that number would be much lower if you send out cards. If it helps, it is what my etiquette book reccommends as well. She mentions wording something like this: Mr. and Mrs. Equestrienne's Parents announce that the marriage of their daughter Equestrienne to Equestrienne's ex will not take place The one above implies that the parents are the hosts (and that invitations have been sent); if they were not hosting your wedding, then it would not be neccessary to include their names. What I do like about -- it is very to the point with no extra information. I think that implies that calls and questions might be unwelcome, which would help you out. Finally, I have been sort of MIA lately, so in case I haven't said it before, I am so sorry that you have to go through this Equestrienne. I cannot imagine how difficult it must be. And to be having other problems to deal with now as well...My thoughts are with you. Stay strong. Thank you for your assistance, ff. I would have to word this with both sets of parents' names if I did that wording you suggested, and this is only going to go to my family. I am not doing anything for his guests on our list - he can handle that. Being that it is for a limited amount of guests, I just wanted to send something brief and to the point. No invites were sent (or even ordered) and the STD magnet is the only thing that people received, so I think I can be a bit more informal. Thank you for your support too. I may post a bit in another forum as soon as I know what is going on for sure, but I think the year potentially looks pretty rough and may not have allowed for a wedding after all. We've set a date! |
| Posted: 1/29/2007 12:31:06 PM | |
| P: 1/29/2007 12:31:19 PM | |
onedrop Ideal Rock Total Posts: 1,575 Last Post: 5/16/2009 Member Since: 8/24/2006 |
Equestrienne: I am SO sorry about the cancelling of the wedding, but it seems you are really hanging in there. That said, a few years ago my cousin called off her wedding, and we received a typed note. Can't remember the exact wording but it was something to the effect of, "we regret to announce that the wedding of X and Y has been called off..." It was short and right to the point. Personally, I think notes that announce the cancellation of the wedding are great for the reasons that you cited. It's painful enough to call off the wedding, but then to have to re-hash the reasons why is even more so. Those that need to know details of the cancellation already know, and those that don't...well it's really not that necessary to go into specifics through a phone call or e-mail. And usually people who want to be supportive will call and offer that. Hope my .02 helps.
"Work like you don't need the money. Love like you've never been hurt. Dance like nobody's watching." ~ Satchel Paige |
| Posted: 1/29/2007 12:31:19 PM | |
| P: 1/29/2007 12:33:09 PM | |
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equestrienne Ideal Rock Total Posts: 1,437 Last Post: 11/22/2009 Member Since: 3/16/2006 |
Date: 1/29/2007 10:29:44 AM Author: Finding_Neverland Date: 1/29/2007 10:16:31 AM Author: FacetFire If it were me, I'd probably send a card. I saw a humorous cancellation card once that said something along the lines of, 'Picked the wrong guy, gave him the wrong finger, thanks for your support at this difficult time.' Not that I recommend that you take that route, but it just stuck in my mind. Personally, if I received a cancellation card, unless I was VERY close to the bride/groom, I wouldn't call and ask...it just doesn't seem polite when you know that the reasons behind the cancellation can't be good. BTW, how are you doing? That's probably the card I would choose, Facet!! That's too funny. And would probably be too true!! I'm with Facet,........... If I wasn't a close relative or on 'best friend' level with the bride or groom, I wouldn't ask. If you wanted to tell that would be one thing. But if not, well it's not my business. It's your business and you chose not to share. But not everyone is that considerate. You'll have tacky Cuz Sue and Aunt Polly and the neighbor down the street all doing the 'Inquiring Minds Gotta Know' routine. However you say there's not gonna be a wedding, Eq,........... You might add at the end of your note something to the effect of,........... I know you all love and support me, but PLEASE do not deepen the wounds with lots of questions that I have neither the time nor the energy to answer right now. When the time is right,......... When this all much less painful,.......... I may talk about it sometime in the future. Just a thought for you. Thank you for your assistance, FN. BTW, I love your avatar. It makes me laugh every time I see it.
We've set a date! |
| Posted: 1/29/2007 12:33:09 PM | |
| P: 1/29/2007 12:34:32 PM | |
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equestrienne Ideal Rock Total Posts: 1,437 Last Post: 11/22/2009 Member Since: 3/16/2006 |
Date: 1/29/2007 12:31:19 PM Author: onedrop Equestrienne: I am SO sorry about the cancelling of the wedding, but it seems you are really hanging in there. That said, a few years ago my cousin called off her wedding, and we received a typed note. Can't remember the exact wording but it was something to the effect of, 'we regret to announce that the wedding of X and Y has been called off...' It was short and right to the point. Personally, I think notes that announce the cancellation of the wedding are great for the reasons that you cited. It's painful enough to call off the wedding, but then to have to re-hash the reasons why is even more so. Those that need to know details of the cancellation already know, and those that don't...well it's really not that necessary to go into specifics through a phone call or e-mail. And usually people who want to be supportive will call and offer that. Hope my .02 helps. Thank you, onedrop. Short and sweet is what I am going for, and I am thinking that the typed note/printed card route will be best. We've set a date! |
| Posted: 1/29/2007 12:34:32 PM | |
| P: 1/29/2007 1:02:53 PM | |
dtnyc Ideal Rock Total Posts: 866 Last Post: 10/31/2009 Member Since: 7/27/2005 |
I think doing a short announcement is definitely the way to go if you have the time since you sent out the save the dates. Mr. and Mrs. John Smith announce that the marriage of their daughter Barbara Marie to Howard Franklin will not take place this link might be helpful- http://www.ultimatewedding.com/articles/get.php?action=getarticle&articleid=588
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| Posted: 1/29/2007 1:02:53 PM | |
| P: 1/29/2007 1:37:32 PM | |
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sumbride Ideal Rock Total Posts: 3,867 Last Post: 1/21/2009 Member Since: 2/17/2006 |
I think the "regret to announce" is the best way to word it. Leave out any mention of "unforeseen circumstances". That's really implied anyway.
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| Posted: 1/29/2007 1:37:32 PM | |
| P: 1/29/2007 2:13:22 PM | |
mercoledi Ideal Rock Total Posts: 2,667 Last Post: 10/5/2009 Member Since: 6/20/2006 |
Hi, I followed your earlier threads too and I'm sorry you've had to go through all of this. It looks like what dtnyc posted is pretty much standard for a broken engangement announcement. This one has an extra line too. Best of luck to you! Mr. and Mrs. John Doe announce that the marriage of their daughter Jane Marie to Tom Smith will not take place We appreciate your support during this difficult time for our family
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| Posted: 1/29/2007 2:13:22 PM | |
| P: 1/29/2007 11:33:02 PM | |
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equestrienne Ideal Rock Total Posts: 1,437 Last Post: 11/22/2009 Member Since: 3/16/2006 |
Okay, postcards are printed on cardstock and I am cutting them. The wording I chose is: We regret to announce that the wedding of ************ and ************* will not be taking place. Please remove this event from your calendars. Thank you everyone for your input.
We've set a date! |
| Posted: 1/29/2007 11:33:02 PM | |
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