I am P*$$ed! Need Feedback!

This is going to be a long one... Any advice or feedback would be apprieciated and repected.  I would rather hear the truth then not, so let me know what you think.

OK:  As I am sure people may know I have a little girl who plays soccer.  We have 4 players on our team that used to play on an orginial team under an amazing coach.  The league reformed and the coach (we will call him D)  Moved up to a year higher age group and we (the younger girls) starting playing under the assistant coach (we will call him G)

Now G has a daughter.. O.  O is a good soccer player. O is a spoiled little thing and getts away with murder because her daddy is the coach.  I understand that unfrotunately this is the way it has always been.  G is an average coach.  O is a preety good player.  But we have another girl on the team, C, who is AMAZING>  Everyone who sees C is stunned by her talent.  But G does everything he can to hold back C and promote O.  IN so much as holding her in a different poisition in order for O to play forward and get most of the credit.  O is a child that likes to be a bully. As soon as anyone approaches G on this fact, G gets VERY DEFENSIVE.  I would understand if it was only 1 parent, but it is many parents.  Well, anyway.  This season was alright under G.  I am the manager form the team and many parents come to me with their concerns.  This spring, try-outs were open for the younger girls to play up in the older division with D this year.  It was opened for our girls and we were very excited.  Our girls were estatic.  C's mom and I were hoping that try-outs would be conducted fairly and that our children were going to be chosen for talent as opposed to who kisses the most butt.  Now G and D are good friends.  I would say that O and C are about as close in talent as ever.  If not C being better.

The probelm is, that during the try-outs, we were told that unless our child was ranked in the top 3 chosen to be on the older team, that they would not be allowed up because it was discouraged.  We... C did not make it, My girl did not make it and another child W (one of the orginally players did not make it).  HMMMMM... So O beat out children who are 10X more talented than her (I am not alking about A (my child) C or W)  I am talking about children who have been playing twice as long and have much superior talent.  Now, I am no soccer coach, but I have stood on sidelines for over 6 years watching the politics and fairness of soccer.  C's mother is now pulling C from the soccer team.  W mother is not happy and I am PISSED.  we should have been told before try-outs that there was not possible way for them to make it on the team.  Our children were USED as a means to bump up a child that really could have only made this based on favoritism.  The problem is, that though other parents have no problem complaining... I have a problem with being a B*tch enough to stand up and say something was unfair here.  I have sent him emails, after concerns and disbelief from parents came in and I am going to post these emails and his responses, please let me know, what you think and what your feedback is.  Keep in mind that my child was in tears with the thought that what she did was not the factor, it was who you know that is.

My email to G

G,

I know that I spoke with you last night and that I
should be calling you concerning this issue.  But if I
do not feel that I can do so until I calm down enough
not to fall into when I consider this situation. 

Today I spoke with Laura about Try-outs.  I suppose
that D H (C's Dad) called Coach D to ask him
about where C stood when it came to try-outs.
I am to understand that he was told that as long as a
U-10 was in the top 3 of picks for the team that the
child would be let on the team.  I was told that
C was #8.  Therefore she was not allowed on the
team per Rob D (president of the soccer association).  Yet, I am also to
understand that O made the soccer team.  Although
I wish to extend her a hearty congratulations, I am
concerned about how this played out.

I was led to understand that this was set up that
try-outs would be conducted fairly and not based
obiasis.  I have always had a lot of respect for the
soccer institution and how fairly I think things were
run... at least I did.  I am soooo offended and
disgusted and downright hurt and disappointed about
this.  I think that this was already decided before
try-outs.  You even said yourself that Coach D
already had a pretty good idea who his players were to
be.  I feel, and I am not sure, but believeve others
feels as well, that C and A (my daughter) and W
were USED as am means to favoritism between coaches.
G, I am soooo sad and choked up about this.
Basically my child was used.  How disgusting and
almost unforgivable.

There is no doubt about the fact that O is a good
soccer player.  I do not deny nor could ever say that
she is not. Butt to say that there was not favoritism
in saying that she beat out other soccer players such
as K, R, Allie, L, KB, KM and others to be in the top
three chosen is ridiculous and I think very obvious
that there is favoritism here. 

NOWw my #1 concern is... when this kinda thing
happens, who is to say that no matter how good my
child is or how hard my child plays that she will not
one day be skipped or passed overbecausee of something
like this.  A loves soccer. She eats, breathes
and sleeps soccer, how am I to know that one day she
will not be tossed asidebecausee of soccer politics?
They are children for God's sake.

This is not about A not making the soccer team.
C was ranked 8.  I feel comfortable saying that
A was probably ranked 10-14th.  That is fine with
me and that is fine with A.  What is troublesome
is the fact that she was used as a way to justify what
has happened.  Let me see, if our girls tried out and
did not make it, then that means that we would have no
cause for complaint right?  G, even if all this is
not true... think about how it looks.  You may not
care, but these children see it, they see it as a way
of making it, not because of how hard you try or what
you do, but who you know.  Although this may be try in
the real world, it doesn't belong on the soccer field.

I am sorry if this upsets you.  But it upsets many to
know that our children, MY CHILD, was used as a cover
and pawn to this path. I wish O all the best and
I hope that she succeeds on Coach D's team.
A will be there on Wed.  I am sure that many
things are about to change when it comes to rosters
and what people may choose to do for next seasons.
A wants to play, but I for one have very little
respect for the system right now.  That may not matter
to anyone, perhaps because I am not that important in
the political scheme of things.  But my daughter is
important and how she feels about things is important
as well.  She wants to play, I fear for her future in
this system should she be passed over though because
she does not have as much money in her family, her mom
does not know or hang out with the right people or
some other bogus reason.

I am hurt G.  This is not a personal attack on
O.  I have nothing against your baby and I love
her to pieces, she is a great kid and she has a great
talent.  But I feel this was played out wrong and I
know that my child was hurt. (not because of not
making the team, but because she was used)

I think that you are a great coach and would never not
say so.  This is not a personal attack on your either.
 This is an attack on the fact that children were used
and there was something very unfair about this.

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These were his responses:

This e-mail was sent to me today. I had no part in the classic team
selection process and I am deeply offended.My integrity has been
attacked
and my daughter's talent has been degraded by someone who obliviously
knows
very little about soccer ability.If any one else feels the same I would
like to hear it.

And another:
Heather,
Don't worry,I will not hold your ignorance against your daughter.She is an excellent player and should continue with the Stars.
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NOw the first responce he CCed to everyone, the other he did not... what do you think!!!

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