Not REALLY engaged yet

Just wanted to clarify.  Yes, I am wearing a diamond ring on my left ring finger.  However, I'm not officially engaged yet.  I haven't said anything for a while because lots of you are engaged already and don't have a ring yet.  Here I am with a ring but not really officially engaged!  If it were up to me I'd be officially engaged but I'm not!

Here's what happened.  November of 2002, my bf surprised me by taking me to a jewelry store and said he'd buy me diamond ring.  Instead of getting a diamond band I picked out my current setting and put in a pretty inexpensive diamond.  Originally I wore it on my right finger (size 3) but I didn't like it there.  It bothered me when I wrote.  So I switched it to me left finger (size 3.5).  Weird that my left finger is larger than my right even though I'm right handed.  Anyways, I ended up getting the ring resized to a 3.5 and it's been on my left finger since then.  I also ended up getting some diamond upgrades along the way.  July of 2003 and November 2004.

We've been together since May 2000 and have talked about marriage many many times.  We both know we want to spend the rest of our lives together.  We even picked out a wedding date for fun a long time ago- August 5, 2006.  We weren't sure if that date was realistic up until a little while ago.  We both don't want to rush into things since we are still young.

My November 2004 upgrade is the diamond I want to keep for a long long long time.  I'm very happy with it.  I originally thought that if he bought me an expensive diamond upgrade, THIS would be my REAL e-ring, and he'd finally REALLY propose to me.  Well, I was wrong!!  He bought me a ring and said he didn't want to ask just yet. 

What is wrong with him!?  Who buys a ring and doesn't propose!  At first he wanted to wait to get married after he finishes grad school (February 2007).  But I told him you could get married and still go to school.  It's not like we plan on having kids while he's in school.  So then he said he didn't want to be engaged for that long.  A year at the most.  He's told me many times that I'm the one but he still doesn't want to officially be engaged.  Maybe because his parents think he's too young?  I don't know... and I don't want to rush him and pressure him into it.

We have been looking to buy a condo the last couple of months.  We will be moving in together as soon as we are able to buy a place.  We've come to an agreement that soon after moving in he will propose.  It's about time.  =P  Time flies by and it's already 1.5 years till our potential wedding date. 

Thinking back, I do wish I bought a diamond band instead of a ring that looks like a e-ring and getting asked a million times if I'm engaged.  Sorry this is so long but I wanted to let everyone know my current status.  I'm sort of still waiting!

Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle.

-- Philo of Alexandria

fountainfairfax, he know how many times I've been asked if I'm engaged and am now "playing engaged" as you put it.  And he knows I don't want to just pretend anymore!  I've said I wouldn't wear the ring until he really proposes a couple times but that's easier said than done!! 

But maybe I should.  I'm thinking about it.  Then in a couple of month (I hope!) when he does propose I'll get to put the ring back on my finger and it'll be a lot bigger and meaningful!

Regarding the 4 stone ring from facets...I'm working on it!    He at least knows what facets is now.  Hehe.  And our 5 year anniversary is coming up soon. 

Blue Chica, having people ask me and explaining isn't such a big deal anymore since I've had it for so long.  I've already graduated and am working and not meeting that many new people nowadays so I haven't been asked recently.

icekid, maybe I should give the ring back to him and have him hold onto it.  Thinking about it....