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Is This Weird....No Flowers for the Bride?

P: 4/18/2009 3:01:29 PM
Fleur Rough Rock Total Posts: 60 Last Post: 7/11/2009 Member Since: 2/23/2008	Ok, I'm probably at the point of overthinking and second guessing everything. Would love your thoughts on the topic of flowers. Here's the wedding plan: very small wedding (20-25 people) in the courtyard/garden of an old home converted into a restaurant at 11 am. Luncheon to follow inside. Not "formal" at all. More like a garden party feeling is what I'm hoping for. I'm 48 and he's 50 and we've been living together about 7 years. Second wedding for me. A good friend who is very talented is making the table arrangements from flowers purchased from a lady she buys from every week at the Farmer's Market. Other than table arrangements we don't plan to have any other flowers there. Some of the traditions like "giving the bride away" don't apply to us. I won't be "walking the aisle" and we have no attendants. I dislike having our backs to the guests during the ceremony and so does our officiant. She is turning us to face each other so we are visible from the side to the guests. We will be holding hands most of the ceremony which is very short (about 7 minutes). So......no aisle walk, no attendant to pass the bouquet to, not throwing the bouquet.....I just don't see the need for me to carry flowers. I'd like to get him a boutonniere since it pins onto his jacket and will not be something he has to deal with once it's pinned on. Flowers for me seem awkward to deal with for the short ceremony and then they'll just get laid down somewhere and forgotten. But, is it strange for a bride to not have flowers? Please feel free to tell me I've gone off the deep end to even be asking this question. It's 5 weeks from now and I think I'm just getting stressed about everything. Thanks!
Posted: 4/18/2009 3:01:29 PM

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P: 4/18/2009 3:05:34 PM
honey22 Ideal Rock Total Posts: 3,950 Last Post: 11/19/2009 Member Since: 7/29/2007	I don't think you have to have flowers if you don't one, however to be totally honest, if I were a guest, I would think that flowers were missing. They are such a gorgeous element of a wedding. Would you be open to a wrist corsage? A corsage pinned to your dress? Or just one or two blooms to carry? If you don't want to you totally don't have to, but I think flowers do give a lovely touch to a wedding. Wedding Date Take 2: 26th November 2009!
Posted: 4/18/2009 3:05:34 PM

P: 4/18/2009 3:15:13 PM
jstarfireb Ideal Rock Total Posts: 3,141 Last Post: 11/22/2009 Member Since: 3/24/2007	I think it makes a lot of sense not to have a bouquet (if you don't want one), but a wrist corsage or pin corsage may be a nice touch. I tend to prefer pin-ons because wrist corsages feel a little 1980s prom to me, but do whatever makes you happy! ************************** "In the end, I wonder if the true movement of the world might not be a voice raised in song." -Muriel Barbary
Posted: 4/18/2009 3:15:13 PM

P: 4/18/2009 3:21:54 PM
lucyandroger Ideal Rock Total Posts: 887 Last Post: 11/21/2009 Member Since: 12/12/2008	I don't think it will be strange at all, especially since you're not walking down the aisle. I think a fresh bloom in your hair would be lovely but I don't think I would miss it as a guest...especially since you're wedding will be in a garden - there will be plenty of other beautiful flowers around. * "At this point, going to law school is like starting to smoke. Its expensive, its probably going to kill you, and its a stupid life decision. But some people just dont care." ATL *
Posted: 4/18/2009 3:21:54 PM

P: 4/18/2009 6:12:21 PM
JulieN Ideal Rock Total Posts: 7,144 Last Post: 11/22/2009 Member Since: 7/25/2005	corsage?
Posted: 4/18/2009 6:12:21 PM

P: 4/18/2009 6:17:33 PM
swingirl Ideal Rock Total Posts: 3,282 Last Post: 11/21/2009 Member Since: 4/6/2006	How about a wrist corsage or a lei? Flowers are just pretty decorations and a bouquet keeps one's hands occupied but in your case I don't think they will be missed.
Posted: 4/18/2009 6:17:33 PM

P: 4/18/2009 6:50:34 PM
AmberGretchen Ideal Rock Total Posts: 7,046 Last Post: 11/11/2009 Member Since: 1/6/2005	What about wearing a flower in your hair? I think that can be lovely - you could have one larger or several smaller blooms, just tucked in to however you were going to wear your hair. I agree with the others that flowers have always seemed like one of the nicest parts of a wedding to me - if you are really concerned, I'm sure you can delegate someone in advance to hand them to, and your friend who is making the table arrangements could probably bring an extra vase so they could adorn the table afterwards.
Posted: 4/18/2009 6:50:34 PM

P: 4/19/2009 10:02:00 AM
emeraldlover1 Ideal Rock Total Posts: 2,474 Last Post: 11/22/2009 Member Since: 5/20/2006	I don't think its weird. I'm still toying with the idea of my bridesmaids holding lanterns maybe filled with flowers? The only reason I'm not 100% decided yet is I'm wondering what I will think of these in the pictures. So...I'm probably not the best person to ask because I like it when things are a bit different. I say go for it. EM1
Posted: 4/19/2009 10:02:00 AM

P: 4/19/2009 10:19:29 AM
bee* Ideal Rock Total Posts: 11,097 Last Post: 11/22/2009 Member Since: 5/14/2006	I don't think that would be strange at all. I was going to not have flowers myself until my dad (yep, my dad!) said that he really thinks that I should have them. So I'm going to have them to keep him happy. Personally I think flowers are a bit of an added expense!
Posted: 4/19/2009 10:19:29 AM

P: 4/19/2009 1:46:31 PM
Addy Ideal Rock Total Posts: 3,915 Last Post: 11/18/2009 Member Since: 10/20/2007	I had a similarly untraditional wedding. 20-25 guests, no walk down the aisle, no attendants. I did carry flowers and gave them to my mother during our very short ceremony. I picked the flowers up from a street vendor for Ł5 that morning, fresia with long stems, no ribbon, just tape holding them together. I wanted them for our photos.
Posted: 4/19/2009 1:46:31 PM

P: 4/19/2009 2:20:23 PM
Kelli Ideal Rock Total Posts: 4,570 Last Post: 11/21/2009 Member Since: 5/27/2008	I think a wrist corsage would be pretty too, just because flowers are such a pretty part of the wedding. But if you don't want to have them, I see no reason that you need to.
Posted: 4/19/2009 2:20:23 PM

P: 4/19/2009 3:47:59 PM
merrymunky Ideal Rock Total Posts: 1,023 Last Post: 11/22/2009 Member Since: 10/17/2008	When my mother got married for the second time at 47 years old, she carried a navy clutch bag with a corsage of flowers attached to it. It was perfect for her. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~*~ Chee-Chee and Rawse joined the married club on August 26th 2009! Loving life as a very happy newlywed!
Posted: 4/19/2009 3:47:59 PM

P: 4/19/2009 5:11:54 PM
Fleur Rough Rock Total Posts: 60 Last Post: 7/11/2009 Member Since: 2/23/2008	Ladies: Thanks so much. Loved reading all of your suggestions. jstarfireb Thanks for the laugh. I actually had one of those 80s (but mine was late 70s) prom wrist corsages. My junior prom date got me a half dozen red roses on a wrist corsage. I think it went up to my elbow and looked like a miniature floral arrangement for a casket! My mom and I still crack up about that. My biggest concern about carryng a bouquet with no one to hand it off to was mostly about what to do with it when we're holding hands or when we exchange rings. I started googling bridal flowers/corsages and came across a pomander ball. I'd never heard of this before. It's a really pretty floral arrangement with the flowers stuck into a styrofoam ball. The ball is carried on a ribbon loop. I think this might work very well because I could slide it back into the crook of my arm when we're holding hands or for the ring exchange. It's often used by flower girls but I found a few pix of brides carrying them and they look very pretty. Now that I have the logistics figure out, I am really pleased I can carry some flowers. Thanks everyone for your thoughts.
Posted: 4/19/2009 5:11:54 PM

P: 4/20/2009 12:19:28 AM
katamari Ideal Rock Total Posts: 2,093 Last Post: 11/22/2009 Member Since: 5/18/2008	Fleur, I have a friend this summer who is doing all of her flowers in pomander balls. She just posted the pics from her visit with her florist on fb, and they looked great. I am having a completely flowerless wedding, so I totally think it can be done.
Posted: 4/20/2009 12:19:28 AM

P: 4/20/2009 1:06:38 AM
kittybean Ideal Rock Total Posts: 3,069 Last Post: 11/16/2009 Member Since: 5/2/2008	I love the pomander idea! I think they are a gorgeous way to carry flowers.
Posted: 4/20/2009 1:06:38 AM

P: 4/20/2009 12:39:04 PM
Fleur Rough Rock Total Posts: 60 Last Post: 7/11/2009 Member Since: 2/23/2008	katamari and kittybean: Thanks for the validation! I'm getting very excited now about this plan. Another thing I can check off the to-do list! yay!!!!
Posted: 4/20/2009 12:39:04 PM

P: 4/20/2009 3:55:26 PM
Addy Ideal Rock Total Posts: 3,915 Last Post: 11/18/2009 Member Since: 10/20/2007	I can't find any photos of brides with them, but they are a great idea!
Posted: 4/20/2009 3:55:26 PM

P: 4/20/2009 3:55:51 PM
Addy Ideal Rock Total Posts: 3,915 Last Post: 11/18/2009 Member Since: 10/20/2007	Spoke too soon!
Posted: 4/20/2009 3:55:51 PM

P: 4/20/2009 3:57:45 PM
Addy Ideal Rock Total Posts: 3,915 Last Post: 11/18/2009 Member Since: 10/20/2007	Wow! It looks great. I really love your idea!
Posted: 4/20/2009 3:57:45 PM

P: 4/20/2009 10:27:48 PM
Fleur Rough Rock Total Posts: 60 Last Post: 7/11/2009 Member Since: 2/23/2008	Thanks for the great pix, Addy. They do look beautiful, don't they? I'm really pleased with this plan!!
Posted: 4/20/2009 10:27:48 PM

P: 4/21/2009 4:17:44 PM
urseberry Cut Rock Total Posts: 284 Last Post: 10/14/2009 Member Since: 10/27/2007	I love the pomader idea. I wanted to add that not having attendants to hold your bouquet is no reason to forgo one, if you would like a traditional bouquet. I had no attendants either, so I handed off my bouquet to my mother, who was sitting in the front row on the aisle. If you would like to have a traditional bouquet, perhaps you could have a close relative or trusted friend hold the bouquet during the ring ceremony? He/she doesn't have to stand in order to do so.
Posted: 4/21/2009 4:17:44 PM

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