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Black Veil - Am I Insane?

P: 3/26/2009 1:11:17 PM
mausketeer Cut Rock Total Posts: 376 Last Post: 10/19/2009 Member Since: 7/20/2007	Okay guys, I know the opinions tend to run rather conservative on here but I'm going to give this a shot anyways..... I'm a (former) goth (meaning I was full-on from 20 to 30 but am too lazy now at 43) I have a fair number of tats and still have a few piercings left though now I dress normal most of the time..... We're getting married in Vegas (so that gives me some leeway with what I can get away with ;) and I am wearing the lovely dress shown below (I just could not go ALL black but had to get SOME in there somewhere!) Here is my question: I really think the veil HAS to be black (for it to go with the dress). It will be a birdcage veil so it won't have a lot of fabric but I know 99% of the population associates black veils with FUNERALS!!! I don't want to offend my in-laws. They'll already have to look at all my tats hanging out on my arms and back (although I'll be wearing a lace bolero for photos so they'll have some "nice" pictures. I know my tats do NOT thrill them. Oh, they are Jewish and I am not - forgot to mention that part.....) I just really want the black veil...... what do you think? - Jodie - "Life is something to do when you can't get to sleep". - Fran Lebowitz -
Posted: 3/26/2009 1:11:17 PM

There are 53 replies to this message. There are 30 replies on this page.

P: 3/26/2009 1:12:16 PM
mausketeer Cut Rock Total Posts: 376 Last Post: 10/19/2009 Member Since: 7/20/2007	Here's the veil I want...... see? It's not like "Bride of Frankenstein", right? "Life is something to do when you can't get to sleep". - Fran Lebowitz -
Posted: 3/26/2009 1:12:16 PM

P: 3/26/2009 1:17:57 PM
FrekeChild Ideal Rock Total Posts: 12,906 Last Post: 11/23/2009 Member Since: 12/14/2007	I don't think it's too much. Could you balance it out with other white accessories? Like pearls (nice and conservative for the inlaws) or perhaps a white flower or decoration on the veil? I think it looks awesome! (And when/where are you getting married in Vegas? Yay for another Vegas bride!!!) _______________________________ "Women are either goddesses or doormats." Pablo Picasso "In all matters of opinion, our adversaries are insane." Mark Twain
Posted: 3/26/2009 1:17:57 PM

P: 3/26/2009 1:18:29 PM
Inanna Cut Rock Total Posts: 471 Last Post: 11/23/2009 Member Since: 9/14/2008	Ok, when I first read the name of this thread, "Black Veil - Am I Insane" I initially thought, yes, she has to be insane. BUT, after seeing the dress and the birdcage veil I REALLY LOVE IT! It goes really well with your dress and very subtle. It's perfect if you ask me.
Posted: 3/26/2009 1:18:29 PM

P: 3/26/2009 1:20:11 PM
Hudson_Hawk Ideal Rock Total Posts: 4,499 Last Post: 11/23/2009 Member Since: 11/2/2006	When I saw the title of the thread my first thought was "YES YES YES!" However, after seeing your dress and the veil, I think you should go for it. Not because of your goth past, but because I think the veil would go lovely with your dress and tie everything together. That's Mrs. Hudson_Hawk to you... Over and out.
Posted: 3/26/2009 1:20:11 PM

P: 3/26/2009 1:20:56 PM
Lorelei Ideal Rock Total Posts: 34,228 Last Post: 11/23/2009 Member Since: 4/30/2005	I think it is a beautiful look! Nothing is more sacred as the bond between horse and rider...no other creature can ever become so emotionally close to a human as a horse. When a horse dies, the memory lives on because an enormous part of his owner's heart, soul, very existence dies also...but that can never be laid to rest, it is not meant to be... - Stephanie M Thorn
Posted: 3/26/2009 1:20:56 PM

P: 3/26/2009 1:22:51 PM
redfaerythinker Ideal Rock Total Posts: 1,259 Last Post: 11/19/2009 Member Since: 6/7/2007	I really like the veil... Although I was worried at first. lol. I agree that maybe adding some white accessories would really help the look be more in-law friendly. _____________________________________________________________________ Finally set a date! March 5, 2011 Megs
Posted: 3/26/2009 1:22:51 PM

P: 3/26/2009 1:23:14 PM
Livinthedream Cut Rock Total Posts: 182 Last Post: 8/18/2009 Member Since: 4/24/2007	I'm a fan also! I think it would be a great match to your dress. The dress is beautiful. It's your day, and we are who we are; if it's your style I say go for it! Some people live for the rules, I live for exceptions.
Posted: 3/26/2009 1:23:14 PM

P: 3/26/2009 1:26:51 PM
BizouMom Ideal Rock Total Posts: 525 Last Post: 11/19/2009 Member Since: 8/8/2006	That dress and a black veil would be unbelievably gorgeous, in my opinion. You should go for it.
Posted: 3/26/2009 1:26:51 PM

P: 3/26/2009 1:28:10 PM
meresal Ideal Rock Total Posts: 3,592 Last Post: 11/20/2009 Member Since: 11/13/2007	Let me first say that I will join the group that is "pleasantly surprised" at how this thread turned out... I immediatly thought floor-length black, OMG she's going to look like she's at a funeral!! I think you should wear it if you like it. It is very flattering, especially since there is a substantial about of black in your dress. ___________________________ I AM Mrs B... with Lil' B on the way!!! Living life to the fullest...
Posted: 3/26/2009 1:28:10 PM

P: 3/26/2009 1:28:39 PM
iluvcarats Ideal Rock Total Posts: 1,914 Last Post: 11/23/2009 Member Since: 4/17/2008	Do you have a good enough relationship with your future ILs that you could ask/explain this to them. I am Jewish, and I got all sorts of flack from relatives b/c my bridesmaids wore black. I don't know your inlaws, but if they are very religious, they may find a black veil offensive since it is associated with funerals(even though you don't mean to be) It's just a cultural thing, and I'd hate for this to impact your future relationship with them. Just my .02.
Posted: 3/26/2009 1:28:39 PM

P: 3/26/2009 1:30:16 PM
Bia Ideal Rock Total Posts: 4,300 Last Post: 11/23/2009 Member Since: 3/28/2008	First, let me just say, I LOVE GOTH! I'm not, but I might as well be, if you consider the music I listen to. I don't think that veil is too much at all! I actually really like it. When you said "black veil" I was picturing something longer and blacker, and thought maybe it would be too much. But that is a great choice, IMO. You must come back and post pics!!! ________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Have no fear of perfection - you'll never reach it Salvador Dali
Posted: 3/26/2009 1:30:16 PM

P: 3/26/2009 1:50:43 PM
mrowmrowsmom Rough Rock Total Posts: 88 Last Post: 9/28/2009 Member Since: 9/3/2008	I love it. It looks beautiful, and I agree with the poster who said that some cream colored pearls would really complement the ensemble well. Even though your accents are black, the fact that it's lace and netting just makes it so elegant looking. September 12, 2009
Posted: 3/26/2009 1:50:43 PM

P: 3/26/2009 1:58:22 PM
PilsnPinkysMom Ideal Rock Total Posts: 971 Last Post: 11/23/2009 Member Since: 10/12/2008	I think it would look unbelievably classy And you let those tats show, woman! I WISSSSH mine would be visible with my dress.
Posted: 3/26/2009 1:58:22 PM

P: 3/26/2009 1:59:30 PM
rockzilla Ideal Rock Total Posts: 1,107 Last Post: 11/18/2009 Member Since: 11/19/2006	I think by balancing it out with say, a white flower, the veil would look very lovely.
Posted: 3/26/2009 1:59:30 PM

P: 3/26/2009 2:02:52 PM
Deelight Ideal Rock Total Posts: 5,093 Last Post: 11/23/2009 Member Since: 10/4/2007	Date: 3/26/2009 1:28:10 PM Author: meresal Let me first say that I will join the group that is 'pleasantly surprised' at how this thread turned out... I immediatly thought floor-length black, OMG she's going to look like she's at a funeral!! I think you should wear it if you like it. It is very flattering, especially since there is a substantial about of black in your dress. Ditto, however I think it will look beautiful - very elegant. __________________________________________________________ Sometimes if your really lucky all your dreams do come true ...............
Posted: 3/26/2009 2:02:52 PM

P: 3/26/2009 2:20:16 PM
purrfectpear Ideal Rock Total Posts: 3,698 Last Post: 11/23/2009 Member Since: 3/31/2008	I don't think a birdcage veil goes with that style of dress, regardless of color. If you think it does, then pick whatever makes you happy. Black = Funeral, or cocktail hour IMO. "Style is knowing who you are, what you want to say and not giving a damn." -Gore Vidal
Posted: 3/26/2009 2:20:16 PM

P: 3/26/2009 2:23:03 PM
Vancity Cut Rock Total Posts: 159 Last Post: 11/19/2009 Member Since: 3/26/2009	Hi everyone! I'm Ally from Vancouver, BC, Canada ("Vancity" is the nickname Vancouver.) I'm a long-time lurker, but finally registered today...so here goes, my 1st post! I absolutely LOVE your McClintock dress! That pic doesn't do it justice...it's sooo gorgeous in real life. You're not insane, my dear - just very stylish wink Please let us see lots of pixs after your big day! Congratulations! Gratitude "A single grateful thought, raised to heaven, is the most perfect prayer." (Gotthold E. Lessing)
Posted: 3/26/2009 2:23:03 PM

P: 3/26/2009 2:36:29 PM
brandy_z28 Ideal Rock Total Posts: 930 Last Post: 11/23/2009 Member Since: 5/23/2008	I think it'll look beautiful! I had black in my dress and I know the in-laws didn't like it along with many other things. I don't know if there is a good way to break it to them, would you change your mind if they totally opposed? I'm having in-law issues as well, dreading our reception actually, and wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy!! Maybe you and your fiancee could come up with a way to approach them if their opinion matters to both of you. If you wouldn't change your mind with or without their approval I might just not say anything. I was also a Vegas bride! YEAH! B
Posted: 3/26/2009 2:36:29 PM

P: 3/26/2009 2:58:39 PM
Porridge Ideal Rock Total Posts: 1,612 Last Post: 11/22/2009 Member Since: 10/27/2008	Do it. Yo know you want to. I think it would look great! I love the dress too, I can't wait to see pics! I agree with whoever said pearls would go great to balance it out. I think it will be so classy.
Posted: 3/26/2009 2:58:39 PM

P: 3/26/2009 2:59:48 PM
onvacation Cut Rock Total Posts: 500 Last Post: 10/29/2009 Member Since: 11/9/2007	Love both the dress and the pretty black veil. I think the combo is very chic. If I may add some things to consider: 1) The veil might look darker on you if you don't have blonde hair. 2) The white flower suggestion: In some cultures, white in your hair indexes "in mourning" even more than the black itself. You might want to consider the possibility of committing a double faux-pas (however unintentional) by adding the white flower to your black veil. 3) How about wearing both the little black mesh and a full length white veil? That way, the black will be an "additional touch" of color, and not the main veil. When you're saying your vows, your whole ensemble will look really traditional from the back, since white is all they will see. I know that's not what you're going for, but it might appease the in-laws or other conservative relatives so that they'll literally have nothing to talk about "behind your back" during the ceremony. Or I was thinking you could have a white veil with a black lack trim at the bottom, which would balance out really well with your dress. (Did I mention I really love your dress?!) All that said, it's your wedding! Rock your heart out :)
Posted: 3/26/2009 2:59:48 PM

P: 3/26/2009 3:01:54 PM
sonnyjane Cut Rock Total Posts: 235 Last Post: 11/22/2009 Member Since: 7/13/2008	Date: 3/26/2009 1:26:51 PM Author: BizouMom That dress and a black veil would be unbelievably gorgeous, in my opinion. You should go for it. I agree! I love that dress!
Posted: 3/26/2009 3:01:54 PM

P: 3/26/2009 3:25:03 PM
Haven Ideal Rock Total Posts: 6,072 Last Post: 11/23/2009 Member Since: 2/16/2007	I think you'll look amazing with that black veil. ********************************************************** "I'm sorry I ruined your lives and crammed eleven cookies into the VCR." - Buddy the Elf "Let your inner Liz Taylor out and rock it." - diamondfan
Posted: 3/26/2009 3:25:03 PM

P: 3/26/2009 3:30:01 PM
neatfreak Ideal Rock Total Posts: 13,463 Last Post: 11/23/2009 Member Since: 2/17/2007	I don't mind it at all actually. BUT if you truly think it will offend the inlaws I would skip it personally for the ceremony and maybe take some pics of you and DH afterwards wearing it. But if you just don't think they'll love it, but they won't be offended, go for it!
Posted: 3/26/2009 3:30:01 PM

P: 3/26/2009 3:43:11 PM
Gypsy Ideal Rock Total Posts: 14,306 Last Post: 11/20/2009 Member Since: 8/9/2005	Date: 3/26/2009 3:30:01 PM Author: neatfreak I don't mind it at all actually. BUT if you truly think it will offend the inlaws I would skip it personally for the ceremony and maybe take some pics of you and DH afterwards wearing it. But if you just don't think they'll love it, but they won't be offended, go for it! I would think... is the bride in part-mourning? As a guest. It is beautiful. But it's not something I would personally do.
Posted: 3/26/2009 3:43:11 PM

P: 3/26/2009 3:51:44 PM
Guilty Pleasure Ideal Rock Total Posts: 640 Last Post: 9/8/2009 Member Since: 5/16/2008	I would not dream of someone wearing a black veil as a bride, but if your guests know you and your style, then go for it! It is very stylish and matches beautifully. However, if you have lots of extended family or recent aquaintences who are not familiar with your style, maybe a different black accessory would be more approriate/ less scadalous? Think of something like Lanie's avatar pic with the feather flower combo. You could do a white flower with black feathers or a really sparkly black comb. I do agree that the black is a good color with the dress - I just might find another accessory besides a veil.
Posted: 3/26/2009 3:51:44 PM

P: 3/26/2009 4:05:07 PM
Loves Vintage Ideal Rock Total Posts: 1,419 Last Post: 11/23/2009 Member Since: 11/19/2007	Date: 3/26/2009 3:51:44 PM Author: Guilty Pleasure I would not dream of someone wearing a black veil as a bride, but if your guests know you and your style, then go for it! It is very stylish and matches beautifully. However, if you have lots of extended family or recent aquaintences who are not familiar with your style, maybe a different black accessory would be more approriate/ less scadalous? Think of something like Lanie's avatar pic with the feather flower combo. You could do a white flower with black feathers or a really sparkly black comb. I do agree that the black is a good color with the dress - I just might find another accessory besides a veil. I have to agree. I also think these are very good suggestions.
Posted: 3/26/2009 4:05:07 PM

P: 3/26/2009 4:18:39 PM
tlh Ideal Rock Total Posts: 4,060 Last Post: 11/23/2009 Member Since: 12/31/2008	You know... with that dress I think IT IS FABULOUS! I don't think you'll offend anyone... it wouldn't offend me at all if I was a guest at a wedding and a dear friend or family member wore that... it is a part of who you are... and what's not to like? What I was visualizing was Lydia from beetle juice! ETA: and just to add... VEGAS does give you the option to mix it up. "I like smiling. Smiling's my favorite!" Will Ferrell ~ Elf
Posted: 3/26/2009 4:18:39 PM

P: 3/26/2009 4:21:23 PM
*~Alexis~* Ideal Rock Total Posts: 1,732 Last Post: 11/14/2009 Member Since: 2/10/2006	You need one like this and you can probably make it for cheap...I love this!! ~Alexis~
Posted: 3/26/2009 4:21:23 PM

P: 3/26/2009 4:31:30 PM
Sabine Ideal Rock Total Posts: 2,883 Last Post: 11/21/2009 Member Since: 8/16/2007	As soon as I saw your dress, I thought, as long as it's a birdcage or short veil. Now that I see the example pic, I think it will look lovely and actually go much better than any other kind of veil. Love the dress!
Posted: 3/26/2009 4:31:30 PM

P: 3/26/2009 4:34:31 PM
rhbgirl24 Ideal Rock Total Posts: 1,091 Last Post: 11/23/2009 Member Since: 2/6/2009	Oh oh oh! lOVE IT! Love the viel, love the dress.... think it will look stunning together! :-) ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ *MARRIED* and a Mrs.!!!! "Too many people miss the silver lining because they are expecting gold." Gra Dilseacht Cairdeas~Love, Loyalty, Friendship
Posted: 3/26/2009 4:34:31 PM

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