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P: 3/26/2009 2:25:16 AM
Dancing Fire Ideal Rock Total Posts: 10,218 Last Post: 11/21/2009 Member Since: 4/3/2004	coming into your home? our koi club members would volunteer their home for club meetings. i know i wouldn't feel comfortable with strangers inside my house,how about you guys? it is always harder to find a "mind clean" stone than a eye clean stone.
Posted: 3/26/2009 2:25:16 AM

There are 32 replies to this message. There are 30 replies on this page.

P: 3/26/2009 2:43:12 AM
Deelight Ideal Rock Total Posts: 5,086 Last Post: 11/22/2009 Member Since: 10/4/2007	No I have had people I know (and no longer associate with) steal stuff so I sure as heck would not allow people I didn't know into my house. __________________________________________________________ Sometimes if your really lucky all your dreams do come true ...............
Posted: 3/26/2009 2:43:12 AM

P: 3/26/2009 4:08:14 AM
strmrdr Ideal Rock Total Posts: 23,296 Last Post: 10/9/2009 Member Since: 11/1/2003	@$%@#%@ no I don't even like people I know coming into my apartment. ........... Karl has joined the diamond trade and is now posting as Karl_K
Posted: 3/26/2009 4:08:14 AM

P: 3/26/2009 5:08:43 AM
klewis Cut Rock Total Posts: 379 Last Post: 11/22/2009 Member Since: 12/21/2008	Date: 3/26/2009 4:08:14 AM Author: strmrdr @$%@#%@ no I don't even like people I know coming into my apartment. LOL- I know how you feel!
Posted: 3/26/2009 5:08:43 AM

P: 3/26/2009 7:24:03 AM
swimmer Ideal Rock Total Posts: 1,947 Last Post: 11/22/2009 Member Since: 11/9/2007	Aren't strangers friends you have yet to meet? How else will your club members see your beautiful fish? I open my home regularly for meetings of volunteers, but I have very little of value to steal, have never had anyone take something, and had never considered that as a possibility. Perhaps it depends on the crowd? Aren't koi lovers a pretty upstanding group?
Posted: 3/26/2009 7:24:03 AM

P: 3/26/2009 7:49:38 AM
neatfreak Ideal Rock Total Posts: 13,450 Last Post: 11/23/2009 Member Since: 2/17/2007	Are these truly strangers or people you have met before at other club meetings? If the latter - it doesn't bother me. The former bothers me a bit.
Posted: 3/26/2009 7:49:38 AM

P: 3/26/2009 8:40:08 AM
*DiamondDana** Ideal Rock Total Posts: 6,168 Last Post: 11/20/2009 Member Since: 7/21/2006	No I would not. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ If you judge people, you have no time to love them ~Mother Teresa
Posted: 3/26/2009 8:40:08 AM

P: 3/26/2009 8:41:22 AM
Lorelei Ideal Rock Total Posts: 34,212 Last Post: 11/22/2009 Member Since: 4/30/2005	Date: 3/26/2009 4:08:14 AM Author: strmrdr @$%@#%@ no I don't even like people I know coming into my apartment. Ditto! Nothing is more sacred as the bond between horse and rider...no other creature can ever become so emotionally close to a human as a horse. When a horse dies, the memory lives on because an enormous part of his owner's heart, soul, very existence dies also...but that can never be laid to rest, it is not meant to be... - Stephanie M Thorn
Posted: 3/26/2009 8:41:22 AM

P: 3/26/2009 8:52:13 AM
HollyS Ideal Rock Total Posts: 4,098 Last Post: 11/18/2009 Member Since: 7/18/2007	I would never open my home to strangers. We belonged to a group that hosted house concerts, and one couple offered their home. I don't think anyone ever 'took' anything, but with that many people, how would you know? Until after the fact, and then what do you do? I find it stressful enough to have friends and family here; doesn't everyone feel their home must be P Perfect for company, even if your guests are family? I guess opening a B&B would be out of the question for me! _____________________________ "I cannot live without books." - Thomas Jefferson
Posted: 3/26/2009 8:52:13 AM

P: 3/26/2009 8:55:36 AM
gemgirl Ideal Rock Total Posts: 2,530 Last Post: 11/22/2009 Member Since: 2/8/2003	Date: 3/26/2009 8:40:08 AM Author: DiamondDana No I would not. No, neither would I. Even friends tend to not treat our things with respect. Strangers? No way.*
Posted: 3/26/2009 8:55:36 AM

P: 3/26/2009 9:09:31 AM
AGBF Ideal Rock Total Posts: 8,041 Last Post: 11/22/2009 Member Since: 1/26/2003	I am very messy. I have lots of clutter. My house is clean, but surfaces quickly get covered with clutter. It is was always hard to get ready for large family get togethers (which we took our turn for) when we lived in Connecticut and were physically close to everyone and had family and friends come to our house for those gatherings. Those were sometimes as big as the house could hold, though, and spilled over into bedrooms with children wandering around and sometimes included people (nice parents and children) with whom we were barely acquainted. Once for Christmas or Easter we had a Mexican couple and their child or children join us since they were away from their family. In the past I also had small groups of acquaintances (a book club) come to my home or I hosted a baby shower for women who were known to me through their association to the bride-to-be or mother-to-be. I have never thrown my home open to the general public, though! And I know that some people do. I remember seeing that a local symphony was having a chamber music concert at the home of a local family a couple of years ago. I never thought of anything being stolen. My house isn't presentable and there is no parking. I have no desire to lend it to a symphony, either! But if I belonged to a book club again.... No. I couldn't clean it up. Too much energy needed. AGBF A Girl's Best Friend
Posted: 3/26/2009 9:09:31 AM

P: 3/26/2009 9:19:55 AM
monarch64 Ideal Rock Total Posts: 9,544 Last Post: 11/20/2009 Member Since: 8/12/2005	Nope. I guess I'm not a very trusting soul. I won't even answer the door unless I'm expecting someone. "Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined." Henry David Thoreau
Posted: 3/26/2009 9:19:55 AM

P: 3/26/2009 10:10:24 AM
Italiahaircolor Ideal Rock Total Posts: 4,337 Last Post: 11/22/2009 Member Since: 12/17/2007	If I signed up for a club that met in different houses each time, then of course I'd offer my home as an option! Otherwise, why would I have signed up for that club to begin with???? It's not fair to only let some people carry the weight of that responsibility...it's a lot of work to host something in your home, and that should be spread out equally. I think that the point of clubs is to get to know people, warm up and open up. Sure, I probably wouldn't leave my diamond earrings sitting on the counter...but I'm not going to be one of those people that hides from the world on the off chance that something could maybe happen. My home is set up just fine to host...we have a powder room so they have no need to venture into the bedrooms, everything is open concept, so we can flow freely and I can keep an eye on everything. ____________________________ Remember to keep your words soft and sweet...you may have to eat them someday.
Posted: 3/26/2009 10:10:24 AM

P: 3/26/2009 10:21:54 AM
fiery Ideal Rock Total Posts: 4,107 Last Post: 11/22/2009 Member Since: 5/18/2008	Date: 3/26/2009 10:10:24 AM Author: Italiahaircolor If I signed up for a club that met in different houses each time, then of course I'd offer my home as an option! Otherwise, why would I have signed up for that club to begin with???? I agree with this. My mom joined a club sometime last year (I think November) and they have their meetings in different houses. When she went to her first meeting, she was a "stranger" in that person's house. By the time it was hosted in her house, she knew everyone but they also had new members that were "strangers" to her. I don't think she's ever had someone steal anything, at least not that I know of. But then again the layout of her house is pretty open so she can see if someone is headed towards the bedrooms when they have no business being there.
Posted: 3/26/2009 10:21:54 AM

P: 3/26/2009 10:23:31 AM
Starset Princess Ideal Rock Total Posts: 2,474 Last Post: 11/20/2009 Member Since: 11/24/2004	Date: 3/26/2009 10:10:24 AM Author: Italiahaircolor If I signed up for a club that met in different houses each time, then of course I'd offer my home as an option! Otherwise, why would I have signed up for that club to begin with???? It's not fair to only let some people carry the weight of that responsibility...it's a lot of work to host something in your home, and that should be spread out equally. I think that the point of clubs is to get to know people, warm up and open up. Sure, I probably wouldn't leave my diamond earrings sitting on the counter...but I'm not going to be one of those people that hides from the world on the off chance that something could maybe happen. My home is set up just fine to host...we have a powder room so they have no need to venture into the bedrooms, everything is open concept, so we can flow freely and I can keep an eye on everything. That's how I feel, too. It's not an estate sale where strangers rummage through your belongings. You're welcoming like-minded people into your home for a gathering. Then again, I live in Mayberry....
Posted: 3/26/2009 10:23:31 AM

P: 3/26/2009 10:54:42 AM
DivaDiamond007 Ideal Rock Total Posts: 1,207 Last Post: 11/19/2009 Member Since: 6/7/2007	I think it depends on the situation. For a club meeting or something similar and with people I'm already acquainted with then I'd be okay with it. Complete strangers, no way. When DH and I were renting "the little green house" it got put up for sale and we had several people come through the house for showings. You could tell they were just being nosy and one guy was a complete weirdo. Our son was around 6 weeks old at the time and after about 3 showings I called the realtor and told him no more until we moved out. He argued with me about it and I didn't let up. I felt that our safety and privacy were being violated and that if anybody else showed up I'd call the police for trespassing (talk about post-partum hormones!) He was smart and didn't schedule any more showings until after we were out. We're also not big fans of garage sales or yard sales. Do you really want the whole neighborhood getting a good look at the stuff you have?
Posted: 3/26/2009 10:54:42 AM

P: 3/26/2009 11:04:32 AM
Dancing Fire Ideal Rock Total Posts: 10,218 Last Post: 11/21/2009 Member Since: 4/3/2004	Date: 3/26/2009 8:52:13 AM Author: HollyS I would never open my home to strangers. We belonged to a group that hosted house concerts, and one couple offered their home. I don't think anyone ever 'took' anything, but with that many people, how would you know? Until after the fact, and then what do you do? I find it stressful enough to have friends and family here; doesn't everyone feel their home must be P Perfect for company, even if your guests are family? I guess opening a B&B would be out of the question for me! that's the other reason why i would never offer mine,too messy. it is always harder to find a "mind clean" stone than a eye clean stone.
Posted: 3/26/2009 11:04:32 AM

P: 3/26/2009 11:30:31 AM
Dancing Fire Ideal Rock Total Posts: 10,218 Last Post: 11/21/2009 Member Since: 4/3/2004	Date: 3/26/2009 7:24:03 AM Author: swimmer Aren't strangers friends you have yet to meet? How else will your club members see your beautiful fish? I open my home regularly for meetings of volunteers, but I have very little of value to steal, have never had anyone take something, and had never considered that as a possibility. Perhaps it depends on the crowd? Aren't koi lovers a pretty upstanding group? yes,member's age are b/t 50-60,but still i wouldn't volunteer my house. it is always harder to find a "mind clean" stone than a eye clean stone.
Posted: 3/26/2009 11:30:31 AM

P: 3/26/2009 12:31:29 PM
MC Ideal Rock Total Posts: 8,831 Last Post: 11/22/2009 Member Since: 2/8/2003	No, I would not feel comfortable with strangers in my home, especially in a group. I've invited women who I've only recently met and haven't had any problems, but ALWAYS it's just one person at a time, not a group of people. I feel the more people there are, the more there is a chance of someone wondering off (upstairs) into my room and that makes me feel super uncomfortable. FWIW, the only item I've for sure known to be stolen was by a family member who was helping me move. Believe it or not, the person stole a BACK SCRATCHER! I heard the guy (a teenager) comment on how great it was and guess what, I later went to look for it and it was gone! Isn't that pathetic? A $5 back scratcher.
Posted: 3/26/2009 12:31:29 PM

P: 3/26/2009 12:42:07 PM
bee* Ideal Rock Total Posts: 11,097 Last Post: 11/22/2009 Member Since: 5/14/2006	Date: 3/26/2009 7:49:38 AM Author: neatfreak Are these truly strangers or people you have met before at other club meetings? If the latter - it doesn't bother me. The former bothers me a bit. I'm the same. If I knew them through club meetings then I don't think that I'd mind a huge amount. I'd have the guard cat follow them around!
Posted: 3/26/2009 12:42:07 PM

P: 3/26/2009 12:54:07 PM
ladypirate Ideal Rock Total Posts: 3,545 Last Post: 11/20/2009 Member Since: 7/30/2007	Date: 3/26/2009 7:24:03 AM Author: swimmer Aren't strangers friends you have yet to meet? How else will your club members see your beautiful fish? I open my home regularly for meetings of volunteers, but I have very little of value to steal, have never had anyone take something, and had never considered that as a possibility. Perhaps it depends on the crowd? Aren't koi lovers a pretty upstanding group? I dunno, swimmer--DF is one after all... - Hot chocolate butterflies dance through my heart and tell me you're the one. Come take a sip of this so I can look into your beautiful eyes and say, "Ouch! I spilled some on my lap, burning my leg, but I don't mind. I'm with you."
Posted: 3/26/2009 12:54:07 PM

P: 3/26/2009 12:57:20 PM
AprilBaby Ideal Rock Total Posts: 2,256 Last Post: 11/22/2009 Member Since: 7/17/2008	I agree with italiahaircolor! "Time is not what you think. Dying? Not the end of everything. We think it is. But what happens on earth is only the beginning." -Mitch Albom, The Five People You Meet in Heaven
Posted: 3/26/2009 12:57:20 PM

P: 3/26/2009 1:13:00 PM
Skippy123 Ideal Rock Total Posts: 19,823 Last Post: 11/22/2009 Member Since: 11/24/2006	I guess it depends. Like throwing a babyshower or bridal shower; I did that for a friend and didn't know most of the people but since she was a friend it wasn't a big deal. If I wasn't in my house I could see how that isn't okay with me. Oh our friends came to stay with us and brought their mother that i had never met but they are good friends so that was okay with me too. I agree with Italia. Skippy "The only things that stand between a person and what they want in life are the will to try it, and the faith to believe it's possible" Rich Devos
Posted: 3/26/2009 1:13:00 PM

P: 3/26/2009 1:14:30 PM
movie zombie Ideal Rock Total Posts: 5,216 Last Post: 11/23/2009 Member Since: 1/20/2005	Date: 3/26/2009 4:08:14 AM Author: strmrdr @$%@#%@ no I don't even like people I know coming into my apartment. what he said!!!!! mz "I don't feel enjoyment watching films that evoke passivity. If you need that kind of comfort, I don't understand why you wouldn't go to a spa." Chan-wook Park
Posted: 3/26/2009 1:14:30 PM

P: 3/26/2009 1:35:24 PM
Kaleigh Ideal Rock Total Posts: 25,905 Last Post: 11/23/2009 Member Since: 11/18/2004	No way! ____________________________ Piece of cake and a candle. ng gift
Posted: 3/26/2009 1:35:24 PM

P: 3/26/2009 2:56:55 PM
Dancing Fire Ideal Rock Total Posts: 10,218 Last Post: 11/21/2009 Member Since: 4/3/2004	Date: 3/26/2009 10:10:24 AM Author: Italiahaircolor If I signed up for a club that met in different houses each time, then of course I'd offer my home as an option! Otherwise, why would I have signed up for that club to begin with???? It's not fair to only let some people carry the weight of that responsibility...it's a lot of work to host something in your home, and that should be spread out equally. I think that the point of clubs is to get to know people, warm up and open up. Sure, I probably wouldn't leave my diamond earrings sitting on the counter...but I'm not going to be one of those people that hides from the world on the off chance that something could maybe happen. My home is set up just fine to host...we have a powder room so they have no need to venture into the bedrooms, everything is open concept, so we can flow freely and I can keep an eye on everything. lets all go to IHC's place when can we come over? it is always harder to find a "mind clean" stone than a eye clean stone.
Posted: 3/26/2009 2:56:55 PM

P: 3/26/2009 3:42:31 PM
Italiahaircolor Ideal Rock Total Posts: 4,337 Last Post: 11/22/2009 Member Since: 12/17/2007	Date: 3/26/2009 2:56:55 PM Author: Dancing Fire Date: 3/26/2009 10:10:24 AM Author: Italiahaircolor If I signed up for a club that met in different houses each time, then of course I'd offer my home as an option! Otherwise, why would I have signed up for that club to begin with???? It's not fair to only let some people carry the weight of that responsibility...it's a lot of work to host something in your home, and that should be spread out equally. I think that the point of clubs is to get to know people, warm up and open up. Sure, I probably wouldn't leave my diamond earrings sitting on the counter...but I'm not going to be one of those people that hides from the world on the off chance that something could maybe happen. My home is set up just fine to host...we have a powder room so they have no need to venture into the bedrooms, everything is open concept, so we can flow freely and I can keep an eye on everything. lets all go to IHC's place when can we come over? Oh DF, I'm afraid you wouldn't have much fun at my house ____________________________ Remember to keep your words soft and sweet...you may have to eat them someday.
Posted: 3/26/2009 3:42:31 PM

P: 3/26/2009 3:51:26 PM
Addy Ideal Rock Total Posts: 3,915 Last Post: 11/18/2009 Member Since: 10/20/2007	It wouldn't bother me. They are club people, even if you haven't met all of them before, there is common ground and a point to people coming over. They might someday be very good friends. Opening your house is also a bit misleading. I'm all for closing doors to certain areas of the house. Most groups like this stay in the kitchen, living area, and maybe a short trip down a hallway into a toilet. No one is in your bedroom, going through your things. Close all other doors and if someone leaves the main room and is gone for more than a couple of minutes, you go check on them, see if they are okay.
Posted: 3/26/2009 3:51:26 PM

P: 3/26/2009 4:01:16 PM
HollyS Ideal Rock Total Posts: 4,098 Last Post: 11/18/2009 Member Since: 7/18/2007	Date: 3/26/2009 9:09:31 AM Author: AGBF I am very messy. I have lots of clutter. My house is clean, but surfaces quickly get covered with clutter. It is was always hard to get ready for large family get togethers (which we took our turn for) when we lived in Connecticut and were physically close to everyone and had family and friends come to our house for those gatherings. Those were sometimes as big as the house could hold, though, and spilled over into bedrooms with children wandering around and sometimes included people (nice parents and children) with whom we were barely acquainted. Once for Christmas or Easter we had a Mexican couple and their child or children join us since they were away from their family. In the past I also had small groups of acquaintances (a book club) come to my home or I hosted a baby shower for women who were known to me through their association to the bride-to-be or mother-to-be. I have never thrown my home open to the general public, though! And I know that some people do. I remember seeing that a local symphony was having a chamber music concert at the home of a local family a couple of years ago. I never thought of anything being stolen. My house isn't presentable and there is no parking. I have no desire to lend it to a symphony, either! But if I belonged to a book club again.... No. I couldn't clean it up. Too much energy needed. AGBF I feel like I'm looking in a mirror. You are me. I am you. In my case, it's not clutter so much as . . . it's not actually dirty . . . it's just that it isn't picture perfect. And frankly, that will reveal far more about me than I'm comfortable sharing with anyone but the hubs and my BFF. I insist on remaining an enigma to everyone else. _____________________________ "I cannot live without books." - Thomas Jefferson
Posted: 3/26/2009 4:01:16 PM

P: 3/26/2009 4:15:04 PM
Tuckins1 Ideal Rock Total Posts: 4,389 Last Post: 11/22/2009 Member Since: 4/13/2008	Not really. You really can't trust anybody, and I don't trust people that I don't know personally. We have nice tv's and electronics, and I am always paranoid that someone will notice and try to come back to relieve us of them! "If you don't eat your meat, you can't have any pudding! How can you have any pudding if you don't eat your meat?!"
Posted: 3/26/2009 4:15:04 PM

P: 3/26/2009 4:29:47 PM
AmberGretchen Ideal Rock Total Posts: 7,046 Last Post: 11/11/2009 Member Since: 1/6/2005	Date: 3/26/2009 7:49:38 AM Author: neatfreak Are these truly strangers or people you have met before at other club meetings? If the latter - it doesn't bother me. The former bothers me a bit. Ditto.
Posted: 3/26/2009 4:29:47 PM

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