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Did dress shopping motivate you to shape up when nothing else did?

P: 2/19/2009 11:49:32 PM
Kelli Ideal Rock Total Posts: 4,581 Last Post: 11/23/2009 Member Since: 5/27/2008	I'm about ten pounds over my "happy" weight, when my body looks and feels it's best. I don't eat well right now and I haven't been nearly as active as I could be. I gripe about it all the time but can't seem to crack down when it comes to food choices or getting off my lazy @$$. But now it's come time for dress shopping!! I'm going tomorrow to what is apparently the largest bridal salon in the state where they have over 1000 dresses in stock. I'm thinking I won't like anything on me, but I'm REALLY REALLY REALLY hoping that this will be the kick in the butt I need to start living healthier. Did this happen for anyone else?
Posted: 2/19/2009 11:49:32 PM

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P: 2/19/2009 11:51:31 PM
EricaR Ideal Rock Total Posts: 2,110 Last Post: 11/23/2009 Member Since: 12/4/2007	Oh yeah. Nothing like standing on that platform, surrounded by mirrors, and seeing all your back cleavage.
Posted: 2/19/2009 11:51:31 PM

P: 2/20/2009 12:19:20 AM
Kelli Ideal Rock Total Posts: 4,581 Last Post: 11/23/2009 Member Since: 5/27/2008	OH NO BACK CLEAVAGE!!! I didn't even think about that yet. Just the love handles are enough to freak me out!
Posted: 2/20/2009 12:19:20 AM

P: 2/20/2009 12:25:18 AM
LauraBabe08 Cut Rock Total Posts: 228 Last Post: 5/11/2009 Member Since: 10/3/2007	Definitely! I was about 10 lbs over my goal weight and I felt aweful. I since lost the weight and it was great going for my fitting and seeing how much better I looked in my gown! * March 14, 2009 *
Posted: 2/20/2009 12:25:18 AM

P: 2/20/2009 1:04:35 AM
Sparkalicious Ideal Rock Total Posts: 3,719 Last Post: 9/19/2009 Member Since: 11/22/2007	I'm well passed my happy weight I mean like a Happy Meal, a couple of milkshakes, a side of no exercise and a few bottles of wine passed my happy weight. Lots of work to do! YES! Seeing myself look like Godzilla on a platform in a bridal salon did wonders for getting me in gear. Best of luck with your bridal dress adventure tomorrow. It should be fun! I'm sure that you will be pleasantly surprised that there will be several dresses that you like on you ... the hard part will be figuring out which one you love the most. * Too much of a good thing can be wonderful * ~ Mae West September 6, 2009
Posted: 2/20/2009 1:04:35 AM

P: 2/20/2009 1:18:56 AM
GoodSoul Ideal Rock Total Posts: 539 Last Post: 11/3/2009 Member Since: 9/5/2008	Seriously??!!! I must be the laziest bride-to-be!!! I had tried on gowns and didn't like what I saw but once I am out of the shop, I forgot totally about it as I was back in my lose tops and jeans. There was once that I chow down a whole double-double In & Out burger with fries and drink before I went into a bridal salon. I literally can see where the burger went to! Yikes!! (Don't get me wrong, that's my once-a-mth burger fix) I promise to try out the "Shred" DVD and open the new skipping rope box that I bought 3 mths ago..... I do think that once I find "the" one, I will want to look nice in it. I know I am lame!
Posted: 2/20/2009 1:18:56 AM

P: 2/20/2009 1:29:27 AM
Gypsy Ideal Rock Total Posts: 14,306 Last Post: 11/20/2009 Member Since: 8/9/2005	Nope. Made me want to stuff my face with the fattiest foods I could find. But them I'm metal.
Posted: 2/20/2009 1:29:27 AM

P: 2/20/2009 7:58:31 AM
lauralu Ideal Rock Total Posts: 689 Last Post: 11/11/2009 Member Since: 7/20/2007	I am so struggling with this myself. Seems the more I stress and self talk about getting it together, the more I eat. I am so upset at myself words cannot describe. I really need to get it together.
Posted: 2/20/2009 7:58:31 AM

P: 2/20/2009 9:09:09 AM
elrohwen Ideal Rock Total Posts: 1,937 Last Post: 11/24/2009 Member Since: 5/20/2008	Ehh, I can't say that it did. I'm also about 10lbs over where I'd like to be, but I realized that my dress looked pretty darn good anyway. Sure, I'd like to lose the weight in time, but I can't say the dress was a huge motivating factor. However, there were plenty of dresses that looked awful and those did make me a bit unhappy ... But the right dress will flatter you whether you're carrying 10 extra pounds or not! ~Elrohwen
Posted: 2/20/2009 9:09:09 AM

P: 2/20/2009 9:15:47 AM
Haven Ideal Rock Total Posts: 6,073 Last Post: 11/24/2009 Member Since: 2/16/2007	Date: 2/20/2009 9:09:09 AM Author: elrohwen Ehh, I can't say that it did. I'm also about 10lbs over where I'd like to be, but I realized that my dress looked pretty darn good anyway. Sure, I'd like to lose the weight in time, but I can't say the dress was a huge motivating factor. However, there were plenty of dresses that looked awful and those did make me a bit unhappy ... But the right dress will flatter you whether you're carrying 10 extra pounds or not! I'm with el--wearing my dress actually made me feel more beautiful than anything in the whole entire world. So, I ate like a pig on a two-week trip to Greece that I went on right before the wedding. I was terrified that the dress wouldn't fit, but it did. I just had a wee bit extra of that back cleavage. And I still felt amazing. ********************************************************** "I'm sorry I ruined your lives and crammed eleven cookies into the VCR." - Buddy the Elf "Let your inner Liz Taylor out and rock it." - diamondfan
Posted: 2/20/2009 9:15:47 AM

P: 2/20/2009 9:20:20 AM
DMBFiredancer Ideal Rock Total Posts: 589 Last Post: 11/23/2009 Member Since: 1/13/2008	Date: 2/20/2009 7:58:31 AM Author: lauralu I am so struggling with this myself. Seems the more I stress and self talk about getting it together, the more I eat. I am so upset at myself words cannot describe. I really need to get it together. you're not alone! i thought that i would be LOSING weight once i got my dress and saw the flab hanging over the strapless back....or my jello arms. (spanx can't help me there!) but nooooooo.....i decide to EAT to stuff down those emotions instead and then feel WORSE. its a horrible vicious cycle that i (and alot of women, i hear) have been dealing with for a long time. its a matter of finding something ELSE to "use" instead of food - but its so darn hard! just wanted you to know you are not alone! 7.25.09
Posted: 2/20/2009 9:20:20 AM

P: 2/20/2009 9:31:22 AM
Clairitek Ideal Rock Total Posts: 2,856 Last Post: 11/24/2009 Member Since: 7/21/2008	Yep... the lighting in some of the salons I went to was NOT kind! What is motivating me right now is seeing pics of brides in their gowns with awesome arms, shoulders, and back. I really want to be able to look at my pics later in life and think "Damn! I was in great shape!" I also am hoping to elicit this reaction in FI when he sees me in my gown. *----** C-tek
Posted: 2/20/2009 9:31:22 AM

P: 2/20/2009 9:45:52 AM
luvbug Cut Rock Total Posts: 264 Last Post: 11/23/2009 Member Since: 7/9/2008	Yes! I'm about 10Lbs over happy too and actually wanted to lose weight to even go dress shopping. It's not fair to have to do that right after Thanksgiving and the Holidays!!! But yes, the more I think about it the more I want to look the best I can for that day and in that dress. Also, with spending so much on photography I better look good in those pics !!! Good luck with the shopping trip - sounds like a great place!
Posted: 2/20/2009 9:45:52 AM

P: 2/20/2009 9:53:20 AM
Diva0413 Ideal Rock Total Posts: 747 Last Post: 10/29/2009 Member Since: 8/19/2008	Date: 2/19/2009 11:51:31 PM Author: EricaR Oh yeah. Nothing like standing on that platform, surrounded by mirrors, and seeing all your back cleavage. Agreed. You know what else I don't understand? Why are bridal gowns so dramatically sized differently than regular clothing (i.e you wear a size 6, but your gown is a size 12)? _______________________ *Don't argue with idiots. People passing by won't be able to tell you apart.*
Posted: 2/20/2009 9:53:20 AM

P: 2/20/2009 10:10:16 AM
Guilty Pleasure Ideal Rock Total Posts: 640 Last Post: 9/8/2009 Member Since: 5/16/2008	I was dreading wedding dress shopping and put it off for quite a while. However, trying on all those dresses made me feel beautiful and was a huge relief. Even the too tight ones or unflattering styles (on my body) made me feel pretty. Dress shopping made me feel confident that I really will look beautiful on my wedding day whether I lose this 10-15 pounds or not. The honeymoon (swimsuit in Greece ) is a different story.
Posted: 2/20/2009 10:10:16 AM

P: 2/20/2009 10:15:25 AM
Guilty Pleasure Ideal Rock Total Posts: 640 Last Post: 9/8/2009 Member Since: 5/16/2008	in reference to the size issue: It hasn't been my experience to have waaaay off sizing, but the numbering system makes it seem like a bigger difference than it is. When you look at the sizing charts, most measurements only change by about an inch. Sizes go up in increments of two. So really, a 12 is not twice as big as a 6 - it's just a few inches different. If one company starts their waist measurements at 23 for a size 2 and another company starts their's at 25, you've got a person who wears a size 2 in one dress wearing a size 6 in the second dress. I guess I just don't think the size on the tag is that big of a deal. You know your measurements - who cares what it is labeled?
Posted: 2/20/2009 10:15:25 AM

P: 2/20/2009 10:20:46 AM
meresal Ideal Rock Total Posts: 3,607 Last Post: 11/24/2009 Member Since: 11/13/2007	It wasn't the shopping that got me, it's the actualy thought of it being altered that has gotten my but into gear!! ___________________________ I AM Mrs B... with Lil' B on the way!!! Living life to the fullest...
Posted: 2/20/2009 10:20:46 AM

P: 2/20/2009 10:34:54 AM
tlh Ideal Rock Total Posts: 4,063 Last Post: 11/24/2009 Member Since: 12/31/2008	I had a distance wedding. I dropped my dress off 4 months before the wedding. Alterations all complete. When I flew back 2 months before the wedding, the dress was snug around my bossom and was too tight, I totally feared back cleavage!!! I flew home and FREAKED OUT. I was on crazy psycho workout mode. I'd run on the stairstepper for 90 minutes. Then I'd do my weight lifting cardio circuit, (barbell bicep curl to barbell squats, to lunges, to pushups, to dips, and then down for situps.... this was just one of my circuits.) I was insane. I remember going to get frozen yogurt with my FI, and breaking down crying on the way... and told him I couldn't eat it or I wouldn't fit into my dress. I lost 2 FRICKIN POUNDS. ONLY 2 FRICKIN POUNDS! I wanted to cry. The scale didn't show I gained any weight when I went back but the dress DID NOT FIT... and now I only lost 2 frickin pounds!!! So I called the seamstress and scheduled an emergency fitting to let my dress out the week I got back... 4 days before the wedding. When I went to the appointment, I put the dress on... it didn't fit... but it went the other way... Those 2 pounds turned out to be 2 inches from each side of the dress.... honestly, after dancing the night away, I realized my dress kept slipping down and I was constantly pulling it up for fear my tatas would pop out on my wedding night... well THAT happened, but I didnt want spectators. So it honestly could have been taken in another half inch from each side.... So, the lesson ... sometimes 2 pounds is more than 2 pounds... and sometimes weight lifting can change where you hold the weight. HUGS! and I know each one of you ladies will look AWESOME! "I like smiling. Smiling's my favorite!" Will Ferrell ~ Elf
Posted: 2/20/2009 10:34:54 AM

P: 2/20/2009 10:37:33 AM
Diva0413 Ideal Rock Total Posts: 747 Last Post: 10/29/2009 Member Since: 8/19/2008	Date: 2/20/2009 10:15:25 AM Author: Guilty Pleasure in reference to the size issue: It hasn't been my experience to have waaaay off sizing, but the numbering system makes it seem like a bigger difference than it is. When you look at the sizing charts, most measurements only change by about an inch. Sizes go up in increments of two. So really, a 12 is not twice as big as a 6 - it's just a few inches different. If one company starts their waist measurements at 23 for a size 2 and another company starts their's at 25, you've got a person who wears a size 2 in one dress wearing a size 6 in the second dress. I guess I just don't think the size on the tag is that big of a deal. You know your measurements - who cares what it is labeled? That's how I feel too. The woman who was trying on a dress next to me though... Not so much. She started yelling at the tailor when he recommended she get a 14 because the fabric in the 12 she was trying on was buckling at the hips. Ouch... Now that's a wakeup call. _______________________ *Don't argue with idiots. People passing by won't be able to tell you apart.*
Posted: 2/20/2009 10:37:33 AM

P: 2/20/2009 11:00:14 AM
alli_esq Ideal Rock Total Posts: 697 Last Post: 11/14/2009 Member Since: 3/18/2008	Date: 2/20/2009 10:34:54 AM Author: tlh I had a distance wedding. I dropped my dress off 4 months before the wedding. Alterations all complete. When I flew back 2 months before the wedding, the dress was snug around my bossom and was too tight, I totally feared back cleavage!!! I flew home and FREAKED OUT. I was on crazy psycho workout mode. I'd run on the stairstepper for 90 minutes. Then I'd do my weight lifting cardio circuit, (barbell bicep curl to barbell squats, to lunges, to pushups, to dips, and then down for situps.... this was just one of my circuits.) I was insane. I remember going to get frozen yogurt with my FI, and breaking down crying on the way... and told him I couldn't eat it or I wouldn't fit into my dress. I lost 2 FRICKIN POUNDS. ONLY 2 FRICKIN POUNDS! I wanted to cry. The scale didn't show I gained any weight when I went back but the dress DID NOT FIT... and now I only lost 2 frickin pounds!!! So I called the seamstress and scheduled an emergency fitting to let my dress out the week I got back... 4 days before the wedding. When I went to the appointment, I put the dress on... it didn't fit... but it went the other way... Those 2 pounds turned out to be 2 inches from each side of the dress.... honestly, after dancing the night away, I realized my dress kept slipping down and I was constantly pulling it up for fear my tatas would pop out on my wedding night... well THAT happened, but I didnt want spectators. So it honestly could have been taken in another half inch from each side.... So, the lesson ... sometimes 2 pounds is more than 2 pounds... and sometimes weight lifting can change where you hold the weight. HUGS! and I know each one of you ladies will look AWESOME! omg, tlh, I am dying laughing here...you are hilarious. ____________________________ "You seem very calm for a woman who's getting married, I said & she nodded. It's on my to-do list, she said, so there's no point in agonizing about it." Storypeople
Posted: 2/20/2009 11:00:14 AM

P: 2/20/2009 11:39:12 AM
Jena17 Cut Rock Total Posts: 261 Last Post: 11/16/2009 Member Since: 9/15/2008	Oh yes, I knew I needed to get into shape, tone up and lose a few pounds but when I started trying on dresses, especially when they are sized the way they are! When I tried on a size 10 and it wasn't that big I almost freaked out until the lady said that was like a size 4-6 in normal clothes! But my major thing is I need to tone up my back, shoulders and arms and I started back with my weight training routine the very next day! ;) It has only been a few months and I have already noticed a huge change and I am happy now, but the way I am, I will continue with my training and I want to be in the best shape of my life!! Especially since I am paying so much for my photographer I want to look great in those pictures!
Posted: 2/20/2009 11:39:12 AM

P: 2/20/2009 12:23:36 PM
tessari Cut Rock Total Posts: 166 Last Post: 10/18/2009 Member Since: 6/27/2008	I am with guilty pleasure and elrohwen that trying on the dresses made me feel beautiful. I too am 10 to 12 pounds over my happy weight and I never thought that trumpet/mermaid styles would look good on my body but they actually made me look very sexy and really enhanced the hour glass look. So actually trying on dresses did the opposite--I felt that I would look amazing in a dress even at my current weight. But...it's the idea of being in a bikini and summer clothes that is freaking me out right now! It's only week one but my friend and I are doing a weight loss competition (to lose 10 in 10 weeks) and there's a lot of money on the line. So far so good but I am hoping to keep it up! One pound a week is healthy and doable!
Posted: 2/20/2009 12:23:36 PM

P: 2/20/2009 2:07:47 PM
Smurfysmiles Ideal Rock Total Posts: 1,741 Last Post: 3/27/2009 Member Since: 9/30/2007	Honestly I'm not too fussed about it. If it happens it happens. However, my dress is designed for girls with curves and so I know I will look great either way. The only thing I wanted was to get rid of some arm fat and I actually did that! (for the most part) My dress gives me a waist and that's all I'm lookin for. Hope it goes well tomorrow :) "It's so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life." ~Rita Rudner I marry my best friend on 11/14/09!
Posted: 2/20/2009 2:07:47 PM

P: 2/20/2009 2:20:23 PM
bee* Ideal Rock Total Posts: 11,105 Last Post: 11/23/2009 Member Since: 5/14/2006	I thought it would but I actually liked how I looked in wedding dresses so I didn't really do anything about it even though I want to. That was until I met with a killer personal trainer in my gym last monday and she kicked my ass and I've been good ever since. She kind of made me see that I really do want to lose the weight for the wedding.
Posted: 2/20/2009 2:20:23 PM

P: 2/20/2009 2:28:13 PM
Guilty Pleasure Ideal Rock Total Posts: 640 Last Post: 9/8/2009 Member Since: 5/16/2008	oh, and yes, wedding dress shopping did motivate me, just not in the "oh I look horrible" way. I'm in the same boat as Meresal - I'm trying to get in shape before alterations. I also have noticed that I seem to do better with diet and exercise when I get some positive feedback like losing a few pounds or noticing loose jeans. Those type of things make me feel successful and then I want to do even more. When I have gained a few pounds, I actually eat worse for some reason! I've never actually vocalized this habit... man, I am weird. I need to work on that behavior! :) So I guess it's good that I felt pretty in wedding dresses or else I wouldn't have hired a personal trainer to make me look even better. I would have just gotten depressed and eaten worse!
Posted: 2/20/2009 2:28:13 PM

P: 2/20/2009 2:37:53 PM
mayachel Ideal Rock Total Posts: 1,278 Last Post: 11/23/2009 Member Since: 3/2/2008	I haven't been dress shopping yet, but the THOUGHT of dress shopping has motivated me. Along with the idea that I want tons of photos from the wedding day itself. Years from now, I don't want to look back and think, man I got into such great shape a few years later...too bad that's not what my $$$$ photos show.
Posted: 2/20/2009 2:37:53 PM

P: 2/20/2009 7:24:07 PM
Kelli Ideal Rock Total Posts: 4,581 Last Post: 11/23/2009 Member Since: 5/27/2008	WOW I guess I'm not alone here!! Good to know a lot of you are like me:) And I totally agree that I get depressed and do even worse when my clothes get too tight and I hate the way I look, but feeling like I have already accomplished something makes me feel even more motivated for MORE progress! The hardest thing is just getting started! Anyway, about my trip today.... I GOT A DRESS!!! WOO-HOO!! And guess what? I didn't look bad at all, in fact, I was quite thrilled with the way I looked if I do say so myself:) I so thought I would hate every dress I put on. I'd previously gone to David's bridal with a friend and hated every dress there. Today, that wasn't the case. I went in, picked a bunch of dresses, and fell in love with the first one I put on. I then tried on several more and had a few that came close, but they just couldn't compare. It was one of those "off the rack" places that won't hold dresses for you, so with the approval of my mom, sister, and friend, I walked out with my dress and veil!! My friend took pics, so as soon as I get them from her, I'll post!
Posted: 2/20/2009 7:24:07 PM

P: 2/20/2009 7:26:06 PM
Kelli Ideal Rock Total Posts: 4,581 Last Post: 11/23/2009 Member Since: 5/27/2008	And btw, now I do feel motivated, because I can imagine how much better my dress will look minus ten pounds plus a tan!! If I liked it NOW, I'm gonna look smokin' come my wedding day! I'm hoping to make mine drool as well Can you tell I'm excited?!?!
Posted: 2/20/2009 7:26:06 PM

P: 2/20/2009 8:39:49 PM
blackbetty Cut Rock Total Posts: 191 Last Post: 11/23/2009 Member Since: 2/8/2009	Oh, my god, it so HASN'T!!! I've gained 15 lbs in the last couple years. I found a dress in October & ordered it in a size 6-- although I was a 4 on top & 8 on the bottom. I assumed I'd hit the gym & lose 10 lbs before it comes in next month. I was supposed to get "home-shored" in October, too, which would have meant I could work out in the a.m. like I prefer & not worry about getting up an hour earlier since I could come home & be smelly, then shower at lunch. That never happened, and I instead worked 10 hour days (plus commute) for the last 2 months. I am busting out of an 8 and still am not at all motivated to work out. I'm such a mess! - What you see depends on what you're looking for.
Posted: 2/20/2009 8:39:49 PM

P: 2/21/2009 5:52:14 AM
honey22 Ideal Rock Total Posts: 3,951 Last Post: 11/24/2009 Member Since: 7/29/2007	Hell yeah. Well actually, for me it was buying THE DRESS, I could see myself in it and I wasn't seeing this weight, I was seeing my goal weight. It looks great now, but I want to be the best I can be for myself and for DF. Wedding Date Take 2: 26th November 2009!
Posted: 2/21/2009 5:52:14 AM

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