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Re: Honeymoon Help!

If you aren't getting a good vibe from the travel agent, don't use her. We planned our entire honeymoon through Vietnam, Cambodia, Laos and Singapore by ourselves. Sure, it took a lot of research and planning, but we like doing that anyway. Plus, doing it ourselves let us find some cool, more off-th...

by havernell

July 22nd, 2011, 12:03 pm

Forum: Hangout

Topic: Honeymoon Help!

Replies: 17

Views: 276
Re: Stepmom vs. "Mom"

I know recovering from a surgery is never fun, but if my partner really wanted children (and I wanted them too) and I could make that happen by undergoing surgery, I would. I don't think the pain of a few weeks of recovery time takes precedent over a LIFETIME of not having children and the emotional...

by havernell

July 22nd, 2011, 11:37 am

Forum: Family, Home & Health

Topic: Stepmom vs. "Mom"

Replies: 20

Views: 607
Re: Have I Made a Mistake?

The actual proposal can still be a surprise even if you know what the ring will look like. My husband and I picked out my stone and setting together, but after that we put the ring in our safety deposit box. Four months later, he got the ring out of the safety deposit box and proposed in a way he ha...

by havernell

April 15th, 2011, 2:59 pm

Forum: Ladies in Waiting

Topic: Have I Made a Mistake?

Replies: 40

Views: 1268
Re: Showing off?

If your husband had given you, say, an espresso machine for your birthday, would you post pictures of it on Facebook and show it off to friends without them inquiring about it? I would say you should treat a jewelry gift the same way you'd treat any other gift in this regard, however that may be bas...

by havernell

April 14th, 2011, 4:45 pm

Forum: Hangout

Topic: Showing off?

Replies: 29

Views: 792
Re: Bridesmaid Gift Ideas?

I gave my bridesmaids nice picnic baskets (with plates, utensils and real glass wine glasses included inside) and they seemed to all like them a lot. There are a few brands of fancy picnic baskets you can choose from- just google picnic basket and you should find some. I also put a bottle of wine in...

by havernell

April 9th, 2011, 6:17 pm

Forum: Bride World Wide & Grooms Grooves

Topic: Bridesmaid Gift Ideas?

Replies: 37

Views: 4157
Re: Things to do and see in Portland OR?

I've only been to Portland once briefly, but while there I enjoyed the International Rose Garden (http://www.portlandonline.com/parks/finder/index.cfm?PropertyID=1113&action=ViewPark - pretty neat even if flowers aren't generally your thing), the Pittock Mansion (a historical house you can tour)...

by havernell

March 26th, 2011, 7:28 pm

Forum: Hangout

Topic: Things to do and see in Portland OR?

Replies: 10

Views: 160
Re: Does relationship counseling really work?

I don't think the "goal" of couples counseling should ever explicitly be to keep the couple together. I think the point should be to help both parties learn about what the real issues are in their relationship, learn how they are each contributing to the current problems, and assess whethe...

by havernell

March 22nd, 2011, 2:19 pm

Forum: Hangout

Topic: Does relationship counseling really work?

Replies: 55

Views: 1292
Re: Pro pics: touched-up vs. untouched

I guess I'm different in that I would prefer to have all 800 photos rather than just 250 that someone else selected for me. Our photographer gave us all 900+ photos from our wedding and, while it was a lot to sift through, I think that was half the fun! If our photographer had selected 250 from the ...

by havernell

January 18th, 2011, 9:18 am

Forum: Bride World Wide & Grooms Grooves

Topic: Pro pics: touched-up vs. untouched

Replies: 21

Views: 619
Re: bridesmaids?

Perhaps it would be best to just straight up ask her what she would prefer. Tell her that you'd love to have her as part of your wedding party, but that you also don't want to inconvenience her with regards to the baby, and make it clear that you are perfectly fine with whatever she decides and will...

by havernell

January 6th, 2011, 5:47 pm

Forum: Bride World Wide & Grooms Grooves

Topic: bridesmaids?

Replies: 6

Views: 219
Re: Ideas for a French inspired wedding?

We did a kind of French sidewalk cafe theme for our wedding, so a bit different from your more upscale French feel, but one suggestion I can pass along is to use lavender in various ways- in the groom's boutonniere, in centerpieces (or in separate small vases that are scattered all over the receptio...

by havernell

January 2nd, 2011, 5:08 pm

Forum: Bride World Wide & Grooms Grooves

Topic: Ideas for a French inspired wedding?

Replies: 8

Views: 1094
Re: I think this is something more than cold feet! :\

Hi sweetpea, I just saw this thread (haven't been on PS in a while) and wanted to say that you should be proud of yourself for having the courage to confront you feeling in the lead up to the wedding. Whatever decision you make, you'll be on much better footing going forward having gone through this...

by havernell

December 22nd, 2010, 6:20 pm

Forum: Bride World Wide & Grooms Grooves

Topic: I think this is something more than cold feet! :\

Replies: 57

Views: 4046
Re: should I stay or should I go? money vs. family

Last point, how does your husband feel about this -- is he as keen on the idea of moving as you are? You didn't say whether he's also from New England or if he has family in that area. Would he resent being uprooted from a job he really likes and has a good future at just to live near your family (...

by havernell

September 26th, 2010, 8:09 pm

Forum: Family, Home & Health

Topic: should I stay or should I go? money vs. family

Replies: 25

Views: 712
Re: Odd Wedding Thank You cards...

I second whoever said checks could be a problem because of the bride's name changing decision. I didn't change my last name, but a lot of people wrote "Jack and Jill HisLastName" on our checks. I forget what the bank told us to do about it (I think maybe just my husband signed those? Or I ...

by havernell

August 18th, 2010, 12:15 am

Forum: Bride World Wide & Grooms Grooves

Topic: Odd Wedding Thank You cards...

Replies: 15

Views: 606
Re: Book recommendations?

I thought the book "Bridal Bargains" had a lot of practical info that other books didn't have (i.e. they rated the quality of different bridal gown and bridesmaid dress designers in terms of craftsmanship of the dresses. If I recall Vera Wang scored quite low.) It also had ideas of how to ...

by havernell

August 17th, 2010, 11:45 pm

Forum: Bride World Wide & Grooms Grooves

Topic: Book recommendations?

Replies: 6

Views: 168
Re: HELP! Need wedding gift ideas for wealthy bride and groo

Perhaps visit a local pottery studio/store and get some handmade pottery (a nice platter, a group of mugs, a vase, whatever). You can say in the card that you like to support local craftspersons in your area. I have done this many times for friends' birthday gifts, and people always seem to like the...

by havernell

August 17th, 2010, 11:27 pm

Forum: Hangout

Topic: HELP! Need wedding gift ideas for wealthy bride and groom!

Replies: 21

Views: 4462
Re: I need opinions on shoes, PLEASE!

I prefer the first pair. I think whimsical flowers match the flowiness of the dress better than the second pair that has little rhinestones or metal pieces in angular rows all up and down the front. They give the second pair a "harder" look that isn't in line with the flowy dress, if that ...

by havernell

July 8th, 2010, 8:59 am

Forum: Bride World Wide & Grooms Grooves

Topic: I need opinions on shoes, PLEASE!

Replies: 13

Views: 329


I agree with Cara that the most important thing is for you to go in with the mindset that you are telling them what you have already decided, not asking their permission or gathering their views on the matter. If your parents start to protest, I would just kindly repeat (over and over if necessary)...

by havernell

July 2nd, 2010, 7:11 am

Forum: Family, Home & Health

Topic: Roomie advice?

Replies: 13

Views: 429


Does your husband have any contacts at the firm where he''s interviewing (or even an admin assistant at the company who he''s been communicating with to set up the interview)? If so, perhaps he could ask that person what would be the most appropriate attire.

Good luck to him with the interview!

by havernell

June 29th, 2010, 11:18 am

Forum: Hangout

Topic: Interview clothing for a man

Replies: 12

Views: 226


Hope you're doing okay, Em. I always worry when someone posts such a difficult and personal topic, and then seems to disappear! Please check in to let us know you're okay. I think you've gotten a lot of good advice in this thread and agree with a lot of the other ladies that having a hysterectomy t...

by havernell

June 25th, 2010, 7:02 am

Forum: Family, Home & Health

Topic: TMI Personal Question, *new topic for the older:

Replies: 31

Views: 1240


A few thoughts: 1. Do they have a gift registry where they''ve indicated gifts they would like to receive? If you''re not sure, perhaps ask your boyfriends mom, as it sounds like she''s close enough to the family to know. If they don''t have a registry, perhaps your boyfriends mom could ask the brid...

by havernell

June 19th, 2010, 5:50 am

Forum: Bride World Wide & Grooms Grooves

Topic: help! need gift advice!

Replies: 10

Views: 252


Date: 6/17/2010 1:40:53 PM Author: Bunny007 If I were in your position, I would make it very clear to her that she's not meeting your expectations. In the end, you wouldn't want her to say, 'If you were unhappy with my services, why didn't you tell me before the wedding when I was in a position to ...

by havernell

June 18th, 2010, 7:14 am

Forum: Bride World Wide & Grooms Grooves

Topic: Unhappy with Wedding Planner

Replies: 13

Views: 867


In an earlier post/thread, you said you were also going to get a Qi Pao to wear as a reception dress. Did you end up getting a Qi Pao? If so, if worst came to worst and you couldn't get a white wedding gown in time for this weekend, could you just wear the Qi Pao to your ceremony too? I understand t...

by havernell

June 9th, 2010, 7:24 am

Forum: Bride World Wide & Grooms Grooves

Topic: Wedding dress is not salvagable...

Replies: 95

Views: 4692


Personally, I wouldn't WANT to get engaged until your boyfriend has started seeing a therapist and working out some of his issues. Why would you want to bound your life to someone who is seemingly very confused on a lot of levels? Let him get himself straight, continue to date, and when he is in a h...

by havernell

May 21st, 2010, 11:26 am

Forum: Ladies in Waiting

Topic: Annoyed/Mad/Sad

Replies: 70

Views: 1666


Also, as others have asked, is there a reason you both couldn't move out of your parents' houses but find same-sex apartment mates to live with for the year? I don't see how "moving out" has to equal "living together."

by havernell

May 12th, 2010, 4:38 pm

Forum: Bride World Wide & Grooms Grooves

Topic: Don''t even know where to begin.

Replies: 125

Views: 5537


Date: 5/12/2010 2:53:08 PM Author: jaylex Besides that, I guess the church consistory has a rule that if members in leadership roles decide to live a life that is outside the churches values, they need to step down from their roles until the behavior is corrected . Based on what you said above, you...

by havernell

May 12th, 2010, 4:37 pm

Forum: Bride World Wide & Grooms Grooves

Topic: Don''t even know where to begin.

Replies: 125

Views: 5537


Is there a reason why you are choosing the song for your FI and his Mom to dance to?  Can you give that job to them?  Perhaps his mom has a song she''d like to dance to with him (like Beltane has had a song in mind for years).  If his Mom doesn''t have any suggestions, I would give th...

by havernell

May 4th, 2010, 4:11 am

Forum: Bride World Wide & Grooms Grooves

Topic: Mother/son dance songs

Replies: 6

Views: 442


Have you checked out Ann Taylor bridesmaids dresses yet?  That's what my bridesmaids wore.  The fabric of AT dresses are a lot nicer than traditional BM dresses in my opinion, plus you can buy them right in the store or order them online (with free returns if I recall correctly), so there'...

by havernell

April 17th, 2010, 8:03 am

Forum: Bride World Wide & Grooms Grooves

Topic: Show me your bridesmaid dresses!

Replies: 47

Views: 1543


I am sorry that you are going through all this. My husband and I both have stressful families (for different reasons), and it has taken a toll on our marriage, but we are learning to be our own team. However, there are some days when I think "a marriage shouldn't be this hard". While we were in the ...

by havernell

April 12th, 2010, 3:49 pm

Forum: Bride World Wide & Grooms Grooves

Topic: Need thoughts...alcohol or no alcohol and need advice!

Replies: 39

Views: 869


I can''t really relate, as I don''t have children. However, is there a way that your husband''s school schedule would be flexible so that he could watch your children when you are at your part-time job? Generally people in school are not in classes from 9-5, but only a few hours per day. Could you t...

by havernell

April 9th, 2010, 6:25 pm

Forum: Family, Home & Health

Topic: Resigning from my job...

Replies: 19

Views: 596


Is there a reason you and your ex-husband can''t just "date" for a while (live in separate houses, see each other a few times a week like a newly dating couple) just to see how things go before deciding to re-marry?

by havernell

April 9th, 2010, 8:40 am

Forum: Ladies in Waiting

Topic: Been holding out...

Replies: 164

Views: 12703