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Re: How do you cope with bereavement?

Jane, thank you for your kind words. I hope I didn't sound dismal about the holidays. I will be spending Thanksgiving with my brother and his family. He has 3 young adult children, and an adorable granddaughter, so I will be surrounded by family! My dad will be missed, no doubt, but I am thankful th...

by Okie_girl

November 24th, 2014, 3:13 pm

Forum: Hangout

Topic: How do you cope with bereavement?

Replies: 146

Views: 2041
Re: How do you cope with bereavement?

Oh Jane, I can hear the pain and sadness in your words. I wish I could say something to make you feel better, but sometimes words are just not adequate. I'm so glad you are going to see a counselor, I hope you find that helpful. Do you journal? I have found that to be very helpful for me. For me, th...

by Okie_girl

November 20th, 2014, 10:35 am

Forum: Hangout

Topic: How do you cope with bereavement?

Replies: 146

Views: 2041
Re: Now I really did it :((

Missy, I have been following this thread with great interest. While I haven't posted, you have been on my mind so many times. You have shown that you are one tough cookie, and that's wonderful news that you are healing so well! You are well on your way!

by Okie_girl

August 15th, 2014, 2:05 pm

Forum: Hangout

Topic: Now I really did it :((

Replies: 1554

Views: 14916
Re: How do you cope with bereavement?

Jane, you've been on my mind. Just wondered how you are getting along.

by Okie_girl

August 15th, 2014, 8:34 am

Forum: Hangout

Topic: How do you cope with bereavement?

Replies: 146

Views: 2041
Re: Meditation: Anyone here do it?

Begonia, I'm really interested in the CC meditation, can you provide more information?

by Okie_girl

August 15th, 2014, 8:19 am

Forum: Hangout

Topic: Meditation: Anyone here do it?

Replies: 16

Views: 246
Re: How do you cope with bereavement?

Hi Jane, I don't post too often, but I felt compelled to respond to your post. First, let me say I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. I don't think there is anything that quite compares with losing the person who brought you into the world. Grief....I think I could write a book on this. My mot...

by Okie_girl

July 26th, 2014, 12:45 pm

Forum: Hangout

Topic: How do you cope with bereavement?

Replies: 146

Views: 2041
Re: Fess Up! Silly "pet" names for your pet..

Amelia (cat) is Stinky Pinkleton. Nora (also cat) is either Noralita Senorita or Petunia Pigface.

by Okie_girl

June 6th, 2014, 1:31 pm

Forum: Hangout

Topic: Fess Up! Silly "pet" names for your pet..

Replies: 61

Views: 674
Re: How to comfort someone who is grieving?

Some thoughts from the perspective of someone who unexpectedly lost a longtime partner: Right now, I would imagine your brother is still completely numb, and doesn't really know what hit him. It's a lot to take in at once, and often, our psyches just won't let that happen. It will take time for the ...

by Okie_girl

February 10th, 2014, 1:51 pm

Forum: Hangout

Topic: How to comfort someone who is grieving?

Replies: 15

Views: 480
Re: WOW (shocked and not in a good way).

I cannot even imagine how his gf feels. Honestly? Possibly some relief that she never married him. I doubt this was a first time act of craziness or impulsion. People don't just suddenly become totally crazy. Of course but still. What a terrible thing to have happened and to live with. The image of...

by Okie_girl

December 12th, 2013, 10:24 am

Forum: Hangout

Topic: WOW (shocked and not in a good way).

Replies: 31

Views: 862
Re: WOW (shocked and not in a good way).

I cannot even imagine how his gf feels. Honestly? Possibly some relief that she never married him. I doubt this was a first time act of craziness or impulsion. People don't just suddenly become totally crazy. Of course but still. What a terrible thing to have happened and to live with. The image of...

by Okie_girl

December 12th, 2013, 9:55 am

Forum: Hangout

Topic: WOW (shocked and not in a good way).

Replies: 31

Views: 862
Re: WOW (shocked and not in a good way).

For the sake of being completely honest and real, the poor woman involved in the argument with the deceased will probably be haunted for life. Most survivors are riddled with guilt, wondering what more they could have done to keep their loved ones from killing themselves. The fact that this man kil...

by Okie_girl

December 12th, 2013, 9:34 am

Forum: Hangout

Topic: WOW (shocked and not in a good way).

Replies: 31

Views: 862
Re: the MIA thread....anybody heard from (fill in the name)

Yssie, that picture is adorable!

Here's a few crappy iphone pics of the dbty. The little charm says "love you always."

And look at the top left corner of the second picture....I had a helper!

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by Okie_girl

November 21st, 2013, 1:22 pm

Forum: Hangout

Topic: the MIA thread....anybody heard from (fill in the name) lately?

Replies: 476

Views: 22406
Re: the MIA thread....anybody heard from (fill in the name)

Has anyone heard from Okie_girl recently? Yssie, how sweet of you to think of me! It's been a rough year (almost a year), but I am still putting one foot in front of the other. Ohh Call and the Okie cometh :bigsmile: (in a good way!!) Almost a year... a testament to human strength if there ever was...

by Okie_girl

November 21st, 2013, 12:13 pm

Forum: Hangout

Topic: the MIA thread....anybody heard from (fill in the name) lately?

Replies: 476

Views: 22406
Re: the MIA thread....anybody heard from (fill in the name)

Yssie|1385049304|3560575 wrote:Has anyone heard from Okie_girl recently?


Yssie, how sweet of you to think of me! It's been a rough year (almost a year), but I am still putting one foot in front of the other.

by Okie_girl

November 21st, 2013, 10:53 am

Forum: Hangout

Topic: the MIA thread....anybody heard from (fill in the name) lately?

Replies: 476

Views: 22406
Re: Oklahoma City devastation

Circe|1369152969|3451191 wrote:It's just nightmarish. Going to go and look to see if I can find a relief fund for the survivors ....


For animals: http://www.okhumane.org/blog/how-you-can-help-moore-tornado-damage

For people: http://www.regionalfoodbank.org/

by Okie_girl

May 21st, 2013, 10:45 am

Forum: Hangout

Topic: Oklahoma City devastation

Replies: 38

Views: 655
Re: Oklahoma City devastation

A little over a year ago, I had a storm shelter installed in my garage, one of those that goes in the floor of the garage. I've not had to use it, didn't have to use it yesterday, but the peace of mind it gives me is immeasurable. Now if I could only get my dogs to warm up to the idea of getting in ...

by Okie_girl

May 21st, 2013, 8:19 am

Forum: Hangout

Topic: Oklahoma City devastation

Replies: 38

Views: 655
Re: Oklahoma City devastation

I just heard a local report that there may be up to 2000 children at Plaza Towers Elementary. I pray to god that's an exaggeration.

by Okie_girl

May 20th, 2013, 7:05 pm

Forum: Hangout

Topic: Oklahoma City devastation

Replies: 38

Views: 655
Re: Question for doggy owners

I am so sorry you are in this position. As a dear friend once told me, the price of love is the hole that's left in our hearts when they are gone. As painful as it is to lose a pet, I wouldn't change a thing. I have (or had) the ashes of a rabbit, 3 dogs, 6 cats and a rabbit. My partner passed away ...

by Okie_girl

May 6th, 2013, 7:07 am

Forum: Hangout

Topic: Question for doggy owners

Replies: 23

Views: 431
Re: Exxon Oil Pipline Rupture in Arkansas...anyone in the ar

I was not too far away when it ruptured. My dad lives about 15 or 20 miles from there, and I happened to be visiting him that weekend. There were no effects at my dad's house, but we drove by the area on the way to my brother's house, and boy did it stink. I feel so badly for all of the people who w...

by Okie_girl

April 9th, 2013, 2:00 pm

Forum: Hangout

Topic: Exxon Oil Pipline Rupture in Arkansas...anyone in the area?

Replies: 11

Views: 269
Re: I just wanna say -- the random comments thread

justginger, I got together with a small group of friends last night and we went to her favorite restaurant. There were quite a few laughs, and of course a few tears, but it was a good evening. HOT, I had no idea you'd been through this. Thanks for the encouraging words that it does get easier. I mad...

by Okie_girl

April 8th, 2013, 8:46 am

Forum: Hangout

Topic: I just wanna say -- the random comments thread

Replies: 11018

Views: 145536
Re: I just wanna say -- the random comments thread

Today is my partner's birthday. I miss her more every day.

by Okie_girl

April 8th, 2013, 7:06 am

Forum: Hangout

Topic: I just wanna say -- the random comments thread

Replies: 11018

Views: 145536
Re: OMG - DBTY from BGD!

It looks beautiful, katiedid! Thanks so much for answering my questions, very good advice.

by Okie_girl

April 4th, 2013, 5:44 pm

Forum: Show Me the Bling! (Rings,Earrings,Jewelry)

Topic: OMG - DBTY from BGD!

Replies: 39

Views: 1441
Re: OMG - DBTY from BGD!

Katiedid, your necklace is beautiful! I'd love to see a neck shot if you can swing it.

Now that you have it, is there anything you would have done differently? Are you happy with the length of the chain and the spacing of the stones?

by Okie_girl

April 3rd, 2013, 7:28 am

Forum: Show Me the Bling! (Rings,Earrings,Jewelry)

Topic: OMG - DBTY from BGD!

Replies: 39

Views: 1441
Re: I just wanna say -- the random comments thread

Missy- great news! I'm sure you and your husband are both very relieved! Rosetta - so glad your husband is okay. I had to do the Heimlich on a friend once, she was choking on a malted milk ball. It was a scary situation for me, so I can only imagine how scared and shook up you and your husband felt!

by Okie_girl

March 27th, 2013, 7:33 am

Forum: Hangout

Topic: I just wanna say -- the random comments thread

Replies: 11018

Views: 145536
Re: I just wanna say -- the random comments thread

Thank you YT, rosetta, Mary, ame, Gemfever, Enerchi, Rubyshoes, Yssie, tigian, and 04diamond for all the good wishes and PS dust. I really appreciate it. My dh had the biopsy this afternoon and the results are due back next Thursday or Friday so hopefully it will be benign. He gets checked every 3 ...

by Okie_girl

March 21st, 2013, 3:57 pm

Forum: Hangout

Topic: I just wanna say -- the random comments thread

Replies: 11018

Views: 145536
Re: bezel earring/dbty necklace questions

Efriede, thanks again for the information! So, your necklace has 5 stones, right? If you spaced them 1.5 to 1.75 inches apart, you'd have some chain towards the back that wouldn't have any stones. Is that correct? I'm assuming since your necklace stays put pretty well, that wouldn't be a point of co...

by Okie_girl

March 20th, 2013, 9:31 pm

Forum: RockyTalky

Topic: bezel earring/dbty necklace questions

Replies: 11

Views: 310
Re: bezel earring/dbty necklace questions

Hi! :wavey: i think the idea of graduated dbty is wonderful. I absolutely love mine and can say that again: my necklace never migrates so the clasp is in front. The center stone is maybe sometimes 2-3 cm off the center. I also have 16 inches necklace and it is a tad longer for my taste but I am afr...

by Okie_girl

March 20th, 2013, 4:15 pm

Forum: RockyTalky

Topic: bezel earring/dbty necklace questions

Replies: 11

Views: 310
Re: bezel earring/dbty necklace questions

Okie your pieces are going to be beautiful, that's a lovely way to honour her ::) I've had a couple of types of martinis and I much prefer the sort where the basket meets the post in a curved U vs. a sharp V. I found I had to jam the Vs into my holes and tightly wedge the backs on to keep them perk...

by Okie_girl

March 20th, 2013, 9:33 am

Forum: RockyTalky

Topic: bezel earring/dbty necklace questions

Replies: 11

Views: 310
Re: bezel earring/dbty necklace questions

Hi Okie_girl, I have martini style and bezel style earrings. They are both very comfortable, but I hate sleeping in earrings, as they poke behind my ears. I've thought about using those rubbery backs to see if that makes a difference, but to me, earrings get gunked up when you wear them all the tim...

by Okie_girl

March 20th, 2013, 7:30 am

Forum: RockyTalky

Topic: bezel earring/dbty necklace questions

Replies: 11

Views: 310
Re: bezel earring/dbty necklace questions

You might need to try on some other necklaces you have that would be the right length and measure them. 16"would be right for me if I wanted it right at the base of my neck, but it depends on your neck size, I guess! I'd probably discouraged a graduated dby, though, because it would kind of dr...

by Okie_girl

March 19th, 2013, 9:39 pm

Forum: RockyTalky

Topic: bezel earring/dbty necklace questions

Replies: 11

Views: 310