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Re: Do you and your SO share the same political views?

When we met 17 years ago we were both libertarians. I'm still a libertarian whereas he's shifted on some social issues and I would say he's on the cusp of libertarian/republican at this point. We didn't vote for the same candidate during the primaries (then again I voted for a candidate who'd alread...

by NewEnglandLady

April 19th, 2016, 1:02 pm

Forum: Hangout

Topic: Do you and your SO share the same political views?

Replies: 28

Views: 396
Re: What do you miss most about being "young"?

I'll be 35 in a month. I miss my flat stomach. I also miss that feeling of having my whole life in front of me. I don't miss being poor. And now that I have 2 kids, I don't miss my life before them. I have found a lovely balance of my career, my husband & kids, and am trying to enjoy every day s...

by NewEnglandLady

April 19th, 2016, 12:31 pm

Forum: Hangout

Topic: What do you miss most about being "young"?

Replies: 66

Views: 1193
Re: Credit card debt

We use our AMEX (we get cash back) for most purchases and pay it in full every month. I used to use cash for everything (I'm a big Dave Ramsey fan and followed his cash-only policy). For us, we don't spend any more using credit cards than we would using cash. And we always pay the balance, so really...

by NewEnglandLady

April 5th, 2016, 7:55 am

Forum: Hangout

Topic: Credit card debt

Replies: 56

Views: 1513
Re: How did you meet your SO?

How did you meet your SO? In an AOL chat room in May of 1999 Was it love at first sight? We'd already shared "I love you"s before we met in person (December 1999). I was already head over heels for him by the time we met in person. When did you know it was for real? The relationship was l...

by NewEnglandLady

April 1st, 2016, 7:41 am

Forum: Hangout

Topic: How did you meet your SO?

Replies: 64

Views: 1810
Re: When your job is not what you majored in

azstonie, I had no idea that you were a clarinet performance major! I played the clarinet through high school and had planned to be a music major, but was so burnt out by my senior year in high school that I completely changed my mind. A couple of my clarinet-playing high school friends went on to b...

by NewEnglandLady

March 31st, 2016, 9:21 am

Forum: Hangout

Topic: When your job is not what you majored in

Replies: 21

Views: 573
Re: PS Mommy Thread-Newborn to 12 months!

Just popping in because I love all the pics--JGator, N and K are so cute. K is such a little girl now. Good luck on Monday, returning to work is always tough. MP, the boys are adorable! I just have to tell you what a great attitude you've had through all of this. I know there must be times you're be...

by NewEnglandLady

March 24th, 2016, 8:19 am

Forum: Family, Home & Health

Topic: PS Mommy Thread-Newborn to 12 months!

Replies: 16271

Views: 410002
Re: Ladies - Warning: Sensitive Subject

Alex, I have been following this thread and thinking of you, just didn't have anything helpful to contribute. Haven, don't want to threadjack, but I'm so sorry for your loss last summer, that must have been very hard. It's lovely seeing you on PS again.

by NewEnglandLady

March 11th, 2016, 12:31 pm

Forum: Hangout

Topic: Ladies - Warning: Sensitive Subject

Replies: 116

Views: 3006
Re: Having problems as 2nd wife, ( gentle) thoughts & FB ple

I know my opinion won't be popular, but I'm posting it anyway. If I were you, I would be up-front with his family and tell them that if they want a relationship with you and your husband, they need to NOT discuss anything having to do with the ex-wife. No talk of her at family functions, de-friend a...

by NewEnglandLady

March 9th, 2016, 9:41 am

Forum: Hangout

Topic: Having problems as 2nd wife, ( gentle) thoughts & FB please

Replies: 48

Views: 1275
Re: Calling all the Pregnant PS''ers

amc, congrats on boy #3!! That's so exciting! The good news is that you know exactly what you are doing at this point with the boys--you got this!

by NewEnglandLady

March 7th, 2016, 12:30 pm

Forum: Family, Home & Health

Topic: Calling all the Pregnant PS''ers

Replies: 39642

Views: 1487844
Re: Job dust for DH

amc, congrats to your husband, that is fantastic news!! And the timing couldn't be better--he'll have several months under his belt (and will hopefully feel a bit settled) before the baby arrives. Having evenings and weekends together will be amazing for you. And since he's working so close to home,...

by NewEnglandLady

March 7th, 2016, 12:11 pm

Forum: Hangout

Topic: Job dust for DH

Replies: 29

Views: 458
Re: How did you know you were ready to have a baby?

JuneRose, you're firmly in the gray area where it could happen at any point and be fine, but you'll analyze it over and over until you decide to not prevent, but not try. And then you're on the roller coaster from there. I'm a planner. So I wanted all my ducks in a row before we had our first. Got m...

by NewEnglandLady

March 4th, 2016, 12:47 pm

Forum: Family, Home & Health

Topic: How did you know you were ready to have a baby?

Replies: 15

Views: 701
Re: I just want my kiddos back.

Gypsy, your descriptions of force feeding Hallie and the desperation you felt to do ANYTHING to save her life really hit home with me. The story about Frodo screaming in pain and the unexplainable guilt you feel when you're trying to help and they scream in pain made me cry. I can completely relate ...

by NewEnglandLady

March 3rd, 2016, 8:50 am

Forum: Hangout

Topic: I just want my kiddos back.

Replies: 51

Views: 938
Re: I just want my kiddos back.

Gypsy, I'm so sorry for your loss. I agree that healing takes time. I personally feel like the hole in my heart will never completely heal from the loss of my boys, but I'm hoping I learn to live with it. I lost both of my newfoundlands, Byron and Bosun, last year. They were my "first" kid...

by NewEnglandLady

March 1st, 2016, 9:03 am

Forum: Hangout

Topic: I just want my kiddos back.

Replies: 51

Views: 938
Re: Do you have a housekeeper?

amc, we hired a cleaner after C was born, when I went back to work full-time. She comes every other week for about 4 hours, and coming home to a clean house does something wonderful for my soul. To be honest, it doesn't really help me on a day-to-day basis. Until Bo (our newf) passed away in Decembe...

by NewEnglandLady

February 29th, 2016, 1:34 pm

Forum: Hangout

Topic: Do you have a housekeeper?

Replies: 52

Views: 864
Re: How long is your commute?

Bling, I forgot to ask more about the new position. Are you interviewing? Even driving there to interview should help you better understand how doable the commute is. Do you like the company? Do you think it's a better fit? The salary bump is good, but you're definitely going to need some incentive ...

by NewEnglandLady

February 25th, 2016, 10:00 am

Forum: Hangout

Topic: How long is your commute?

Replies: 39

Views: 491
Re: How long is your commute?

Old commute: Slightly over an hour Drive to train: 15 - 20 minutes Train ride: 30 minutes Walk from train station to building: 15 minutes New Commute: 15 minutes, driving on back roads I live in the 'burbs outside of Boston and used to take the commuter rail into the city. Now I work one town away f...

by NewEnglandLady

February 25th, 2016, 9:02 am

Forum: Hangout

Topic: How long is your commute?

Replies: 39

Views: 491
Re:

I always feel bad jumping into the JBP thread when I really have no business being here, but I love following all of your stories/lives, so I apologize for my stalking. Urseberry, I agree with everybody that gender disappointment is real...I know I felt guilty for caring when so many of my friends w...

by NewEnglandLady

January 25th, 2016, 12:45 pm

Forum: Family, Home & Health

Topic: "Just Barely" Pregnant PS''ers

Replies: 6550

Views: 170674
Re: Dog saves stranded sea turtle on New England beach

This is what I love so much about newfs; they are truly gentle giants.

by NewEnglandLady

January 19th, 2016, 12:54 pm

Forum: Hangout

Topic: Dog saves stranded sea turtle on New England beach

Replies: 12

Views: 281
Re: Furparents: Hot Spots?

One thing that is often a culprit that vets sometimes miss is the diet. Any chance he might be allergic to grain? Or a specific protein sorce? Does he ever get ear infections? Our first dog was allergic to poultry and that was made evident via some hotspots and ear infections. Once we identified the...

by NewEnglandLady

January 19th, 2016, 12:48 pm

Forum: Hangout

Topic: Furparents: Hot Spots?

Replies: 34

Views: 452
Re:

amc, just wanted to pop in to tell you congrats on seeing a heartbeat, I know that must have been a huge relief for you! Thinking of you lots!

by NewEnglandLady

January 6th, 2016, 8:44 am

Forum: Family, Home & Health

Topic: "Just Barely" Pregnant PS''ers

Replies: 6550

Views: 170674
Re: PS Mommy Thread-Newborn to 12 months!

MP, I just had to tell you how absolutely adorable N and O are!!! I looooove those pictures! N is so stoic while O rolls around like a...well, like a 6-month-old! Sounds like N did well staying healthy through the holidays, which is great. I can't believe they're 6 months old--you've been through so...

by NewEnglandLady

January 6th, 2016, 8:41 am

Forum: Family, Home & Health

Topic: PS Mommy Thread-Newborn to 12 months!

Replies: 16271

Views: 410002
Re: A year ago, I found out I was pregnant.

Thanks for coming back and sharing your happy update. It's so uplifting to read stories like these. I could not be happier or more excited for you. Stunning push present as well!

by NewEnglandLady

January 5th, 2016, 8:07 am

Forum: Family, Home & Health

Topic: A year ago, I found out I was pregnant.

Replies: 76

Views: 2857
Re: The Official TTC Thread!

Huff, I think my first would have been just as smitten if we'd had a boy. Any baby would have been fine by her! I just wrote a really long post about my mental transition from one to two (and how I can't seem to make the mental shift to number three), but it was very me-centric. So to sum it up, I f...

by NewEnglandLady

December 29th, 2015, 11:10 am

Forum: Family, Home & Health

Topic: The Official TTC Thread!

Replies: 24447

Views: 670565
Re: The Official TTC Thread!

I was really excited to TRY for #2, but as my due date crept closer, I started worrying about how we were going to still devote as much time to our first, how she would feel about the upcoming changes, etc. Once our second was born, the worry went out the window (my first--who turned 2 a week after ...

by NewEnglandLady

December 28th, 2015, 1:58 pm

Forum: Family, Home & Health

Topic: The Official TTC Thread!

Replies: 24447

Views: 670565
Re: Discussion - Checking your spouses phone

Maria, here are a few smartphone monitoring software programs: eblaster, mobile spy, and flexispy. There are dozens of programs out there, but these are supposed to be a few of the best ones. They monitor all texting, calls and have GPS, which you can access remotely from your own phone or computer....

by NewEnglandLady

December 28th, 2015, 10:40 am

Forum: Hangout

Topic: Discussion - Checking your spouses phone

Replies: 85

Views: 1750
Re: Discussion - Checking your spouses phone

Just wanted to tell you I've been thinking about you and wishing you the very best.

by NewEnglandLady

December 24th, 2015, 5:33 pm

Forum: Hangout

Topic: Discussion - Checking your spouses phone

Replies: 85

Views: 1750
Re: Discussion - Checking your spouses phone

Molly, sorry if I was unclear--what leads up to an affair varies, but generally how cheaters behave once exposed is the same. It's so similar it's called "the script". What leads to affairs has little to do with how to recover them. I have literally seen it thousands of times, but the patt...

by NewEnglandLady

December 23rd, 2015, 5:37 pm

Forum: Hangout

Topic: Discussion - Checking your spouses phone

Replies: 85

Views: 1750
Re: Discussion - Checking your spouses phone

D_, if the OP wants to work on the marriage, then she'll need to figure out what she needs to do to make her husband happy/meet his needs/ affair-proof their marriage WITH him in the recovery process. But none of that can happen until the affair is dead. Trying to attempt recovery with a cheating sp...

by NewEnglandLady

December 23rd, 2015, 4:01 pm

Forum: Hangout

Topic: Discussion - Checking your spouses phone

Replies: 85

Views: 1750
Re: Discussion - Checking your spouses phone

Calliecake , my friend and her husband have been in a recovered (and happy) marriage for 8 years. Their kids knew at the time--they were told when everybody else was--hiding affairs from children is a truly bad idea. It's confusing for them and only teaches them that lying is okay (not to mention i...

by NewEnglandLady

December 23rd, 2015, 3:42 pm

Forum: Hangout

Topic: Discussion - Checking your spouses phone

Replies: 85

Views: 1750
Re: Discussion - Checking your spouses phone

Laila, I haven't heard of TAM, but just looked it up. It seems similar to the forum my friend (who's husband had the affair) used, which is marriagebuilders. All based on principles from Dr. Harley's book Surviving an Affair. I became involved when I agreed to be her intermediary and wanted to bette...

by NewEnglandLady

December 23rd, 2015, 3:15 pm

Forum: Hangout

Topic: Discussion - Checking your spouses phone

Replies: 85

Views: 1750