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Hi Blacksand! You sound like a smart and level-headed person in a great relationship. I was engaged after 9 months of dating, so you won''t get the "only 9 months" lecture from me It''s a shame about the job situation, but it sounds like you are...
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by LilyKat March 31st, 2010, 9:17 am Forum: Ladies in Waiting Topic: Relationship highs, economy lows (intro post) Replies: 13 Views: 654 |
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Date: 3/30/2010 3:01:10 PM Author: lilyfoot Date: 3/30/2010 2:02:57 PM Author: LilyKat We''re having big traditional flower displays with a tall pillar candle in the centre of each. They''re costing more than I want to think about (equivalent of $75 apiece?? ack. Lilyfoot, I want to elope too). ETA... |
by LilyKat March 31st, 2010, 7:47 am Forum: Bride World Wide & Grooms Grooves Topic: Your centerpieces Replies: 18 Views: 485 |
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We're having big traditional flower displays with a tall pillar candle in the centre of each. They're costing more than I want to think about (equivalent of $75 apiece?? ack. Lilyfoot, I want to elope too). ETA: about 12 tables. |
by LilyKat March 30th, 2010, 8:02 am Forum: Bride World Wide & Grooms Grooves Topic: Your centerpieces Replies: 18 Views: 485 |
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Well, I sort of see what he means. When I first joined PS, I was puzzled by the concept of choosing a ring together, knowing he has it, and then being "surprised" by the proposal. It just seemed kind of, well, contrived. (Don''t anyone hit me - I''m just trying to explain where your boyfriend might ... |
by LilyKat March 30th, 2010, 7:59 am Forum: Ladies in Waiting Topic: How can you have a "surprise" proposal when you are involved in selecting the ring? Replies: 42 Views: 1263 |
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I wouldn't. You'd be playing right into his hands. They are adults and can sort it out between themselves. If he calls again, politely interrupt his heart-rending sob story and tell him you prefer to stay out of it. Callisto - I get what you're saying, but if he just wanted to know if she was ok, he... |
by LilyKat March 30th, 2010, 7:45 am Forum: Hangout Topic: Would you tell her he called? Replies: 37 Views: 951 |
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Bobbin, I'm so sorry you're having such a rough time. How much money would you actually lose if you cancelled the wedding? (ie how much of the $6500 worth of contracts is non-refundable)? You could still get married - just without all the hoopla of a big wedding. Choro's approach of a simple ceremon... |
by LilyKat March 30th, 2010, 6:12 am Forum: Bride World Wide & Grooms Grooves Topic: Stressed and Depressed Replies: 16 Views: 517 |
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Elrohwen, you''re gorgeous! And not how I imagined. When someone has a pet avatar, I always picture them looking something like their pet. Is that weird? |
by LilyKat March 29th, 2010, 11:42 am Forum: Ladies in Waiting Topic: Post your favorite pic of you and your SO! Replies: 161 Views: 12010 |
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I have a mermaid style dress, so I understand what you're saying. Mine is absolutely fine to sit in - they're designed that way, they know brides have to sit! It is hard to bend over in - but I can't envision a scenario when I'll have to bend ov...
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by LilyKat March 29th, 2010, 11:36 am Forum: Bride World Wide & Grooms Grooves Topic: I think I found THE dress but... Replies: 10 Views: 971 |
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by LilyKat March 29th, 2010, 7:16 am Forum: Hangout Topic: How long is your morning routine? Replies: 33 Views: 511 |
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No. Obviously not. And neither could anyone with an ounce of self-esteem. Unfortunately, there are plenty of girls without the latter. Hard as it is, it's your friend's decision to make. She's an adult. She knows how he dumped her and why. If he is still badmouthing her now, I would tell her. If not... |
by LilyKat March 29th, 2010, 6:48 am Forum: Hangout Topic: Odd engagement question... Replies: 37 Views: 1019 |
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It's a totally personal thing. For me, it was always that I had to have graduated and be earning my own money and supporting myself. After that, it was just waiting to find the right person, which took precisely 18 months, and we were engaged 9 months later http://www.pricescope.com/idealbb/images/s... |
by LilyKat March 28th, 2010, 11:35 am Forum: Ladies in Waiting Topic: What Determines "Readiness"? Replies: 8 Views: 413 |
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Date: 3/28/2010 10:53:31 AM Author: missy Date: 3/28/2010 10:13:42 AM Author: LilyKat We''re in the UK and did it the usual way here - he proposed as a surprise without a ring, and then we picked out the ring together afterwards. I got it as soon as it arrived. I really don''t know how girls who ha... |
by LilyKat March 28th, 2010, 11:30 am Forum: Ladies in Waiting Topic: Average time guy holds on to a ring before popping the question? Replies: 30 Views: 782 |
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Date: 3/28/2010 5:09:22 PM Author: Nov2109 I'm at the point where I might just kick her out of the wedding and uninvite her and her parents, I'm not sure if I want to continue to have someone this destructive and selfish in my life anymore. Honestly, I probably would. I'm not a fan of uninviting th... |
by LilyKat March 28th, 2010, 11:27 am Forum: Bride World Wide & Grooms Grooves Topic: Bringing a confrontational guest? Replies: 17 Views: 626 |
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by LilyKat March 28th, 2010, 5:51 am Forum: Show Me the Bling! (Rings,Earrings,Jewelry) Topic: One Year Anniversary Bangle from BGD! Replies: 72 Views: 2379 |
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Well, I think it really depends on your social circle. I personally wouldn't expect the groom to pay for something like that - but if you've polled a few of your own close friends, and that is their expectation, I would play it safe. Is there any way you could fit the 25 people in your home? You cou... |
by LilyKat March 28th, 2010, 5:33 am Forum: Ladies in Waiting Topic: dilema... PLEASE HELP!! Replies: 10 Views: 360 |
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We're in the UK and did it the usual way here - he proposed as a surprise without a ring, and then we picked out the ring together afterwards. I got it as soon as it arrived. I really don't know how girls who have to wait for it, knowing it's THERE and ready, manage - I'd go crazy! |
by LilyKat March 28th, 2010, 4:13 am Forum: Ladies in Waiting Topic: Average time guy holds on to a ring before popping the question? Replies: 30 Views: 782 |
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Date: 3/28/2010 9:46:36 AM Author: NovemberBride C and D. Your friend is engaged to someone else, so she should not have any reason to care that her ex is going to be there. I agree that when you give a +1 you can''t dictate who that +1 is, so I think you should just leave it alone. Honestly, on yo... |
by LilyKat March 28th, 2010, 4:10 am Forum: Bride World Wide & Grooms Grooves Topic: Bringing a confrontational guest? Replies: 17 Views: 626 |
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Of course it's fine to feel that way. You're human, they're human - that's the nature of human interactions. It only becomes wrong if you act preferentially towards those students. Trust me - it is VERY obvious when teachers do this, and it's a quick way to lose your students' respect. Just guard ag... |
by LilyKat March 27th, 2010, 11:40 pm Forum: Hangout Topic: Teacher, is it ok.... Replies: 6 Views: 183 |
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Cinna, I understand what you mean. If that was the case amongst my family/friends, I would simply tell them which vendor I bought it from, without explicitly mentioning it was an online store. If they asked where they were based, I would say which city, and that because of the distance we ordered it... |
by LilyKat March 26th, 2010, 11:49 am Forum: Hangout Topic: Do you say you bought your diamond online? Replies: 24 Views: 478 |
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Liking each other. Consideration, kindness, forgiveness, compatible life goals and a sense of humour. |
by LilyKat March 26th, 2010, 9:17 am Forum: Ladies in Waiting Topic: Successful Relationships/Marriages Replies: 37 Views: 901 |
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Monkeyprincess, only you can know what is right for you. You're certainly not crazy, and many many people try straight after getting married - but you have to make absolutely sure it's what you really want right now, and you won't look back later in life and wonder "what if". I imagine you've worked... |
by LilyKat March 26th, 2010, 9:13 am Forum: Bride World Wide & Grooms Grooves Topic: Starting a Family Replies: 29 Views: 705 |
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I'm a doctor, and my fiance is a lawyer. Mayerling, we're in the UK too - which university do you work at? (ETA - only if you're comfortable saying on here!) |
by LilyKat March 26th, 2010, 7:27 am Forum: Hangout Topic: What do you do for a living? Replies: 72 Views: 1366 |
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I am in the UK and my fiance bought my ring from Blue Nile. I tell everyone who asks where it is from - it didn't even occur to me to be ashamed of it! People buy so much online now, even the less computer-literate (eg from Amazon) that it doesn't seem to be an issue. Plus I like to educate those wh... |
by LilyKat March 26th, 2010, 7:22 am Forum: Hangout Topic: Do you say you bought your diamond online? Replies: 24 Views: 478 |
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I agree with Lady Disdain. You know, I think a lot of you who think you don't look the part might be surprised at how others perceive you. It's not about how dressed up you are in smart clothes, makeup and heels. In fact, here in the UK, it's those with lower incomes who tend to wear "flashy" outfit... |
by LilyKat March 25th, 2010, 8:43 am Forum: Hangout Topic: Do you look the part? Replies: 113 Views: 3605 |
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Call a few photographers and ask first if they will do a location shoot on that date lasting 2 hours, and how much that will cost. If they agree and give you a figure, then explain that this is actually an elopement, but as it is only two people, if they can treat it as a location shoot and honour t... |
by LilyKat March 24th, 2010, 8:03 am Forum: Bride World Wide & Grooms Grooves Topic: Anyone who eloped, how much was photography? Replies: 22 Views: 445 |
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How soon after the engagement are you planning to get married? We are having a 10-month engagement and could only do a very limited number of dates for various reasons. A lot of places get booked up well over a year in advance - so we had to move fast. Within 48 hours we had started discussing the d... |
by LilyKat March 24th, 2010, 7:49 am Forum: Bride World Wide & Grooms Grooves Topic: When to start planning? Replies: 28 Views: 410 |
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I think it''s absolutely fine. There really are no rules about this sort of thing, and I can''t imagine why anybody would be offended in the slightest. Do whatever you like
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by LilyKat March 23rd, 2010, 11:01 am Forum: Bride World Wide & Grooms Grooves Topic: Co-Maids of Honor Replies: 25 Views: 826 |
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by LilyKat March 23rd, 2010, 10:26 am Forum: Bride World Wide & Grooms Grooves Topic: How did you pick your hair and makeup people? Replies: 19 Views: 291 |
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Date: 3/23/2010 3:27:00 PM Author: shertz1981 Date: 3/23/2010 3:11:26 PM Author: LilyKat I''m going through exactly the same ''plain or diamond'' decision at the moment. I''ve come down on the side of ''plain'', as (even when completely ignoring the cost), I really think it just looks better with m... |
by LilyKat March 23rd, 2010, 10:20 am Forum: Bride World Wide & Grooms Grooves Topic: It''s wedding ring decision time, and it''s a sticky sitch Replies: 21 Views: 527 |