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Wow you''re really boxed into a corner there.  If you hadn''t already asked the bride/groom if it was okay, we could discuss how big a splash it would really make (how large is the wedding, how close is the family, what is the personality of the bride, etc.), but now it is a moot point.  I...

by JimDiamond

June 25th, 2007, 5:05 am

Forum: Proposal Ideas

Topic: Conceal Engagement?

Replies: 6

Views: 1195


Well you have a lot of time left before February 29, 2008.  I''m curious why that date interests you...  I realize it''s leap day, but why does that day in particular interest you for a proposal?  Anyway, I''m afraid I am going to have to chime in with the no''s here.  ...

by JimDiamond

June 18th, 2007, 7:42 am

Forum: Proposal Ideas

Topic: 29th Feb 2008....should a women propose?

Replies: 9

Views: 1638


I made one for my own proposal two years ago.  Scrapbooking is a huge industry and people make a big deal about it, but your goal here would be something simple and sweet.  I don''t have any way to show you mine, but you can visit some scrapbooking websites if you want to see how people pu...

by JimDiamond

June 1st, 2007, 12:37 pm

Forum: Proposal Ideas

Topic: Story book proposal ideas?

Replies: 2

Views: 1401


Oooh!  That place sounds nice.  Ideal for a private proposal.  You may not need a specific advanced plan of where to propose.  You probably want to propose "early", that is Friday afternoon or Saturday morning so as to maximize the time you have in the "glow".  It''ll k...

by JimDiamond

May 31st, 2007, 8:37 am

Forum: Proposal Ideas

Topic: Proposal help please

Replies: 6

Views: 1163


Well you're doing the right thing thinking about it.  It's worthy of being special and that takes some time and thought.  I really thought the other posters had something with the "reach her father at work idea", but you seem to have a problem there.  BTW, just how recently and u...

by JimDiamond

May 31st, 2007, 8:16 am

Forum: Proposal Ideas

Topic: Proposal Help....PLEASE.

Replies: 14

Views: 1676


I think she is going to absolutely love it.  She knows it''s on the horizon, but you found a great way to create a lovely "surprise" experience for her.  Since you think she will prefer a private proposal this is also a very nice idea.  I''m assuming that this sun deck is not part of ...

by JimDiamond

May 31st, 2007, 7:35 am

Forum: Proposal Ideas

Topic: Working on my idea.

Replies: 2

Views: 675


Congratulations and thanks for sharing al the details.  That''s my kind of proposal--carefully planned!  Best of luck to you both.

by JimDiamond

February 22nd, 2005, 11:20 am

Forum: Proposal Ideas

Topic: 2 months so far, 2 days to go

Replies: 19

Views: 2216


I would recommend that if you can, do some special things to try to put yourselves in a better place before you propose.  You don''t want her to be in the position of thinking that you proposed because of the rough patch.  But if you''re really ready and not just reacting to the ...

by JimDiamond

February 18th, 2005, 11:13 am

Forum: Proposal Ideas

Topic: What if she says no...?

Replies: 10

Views: 1913


I love the idea of the date being the same as the carats 2.18 and 2/18!  You're lucky it fell on a Friday.  I also love the idea that you are proposing shortly  before your anniversary so that it will make it less obvious.  It sounds like you've done a great job.  I'm curiou...

by JimDiamond

February 17th, 2005, 12:27 pm

Forum: Proposal Ideas

Topic: 2 months so far, 2 days to go

Replies: 19

Views: 2216


Cubby08: Very well said.  I especially liked the part about giving advice to someone younger.  Sixteen seems impossibly young to most of us here, so I don't think we even thought to put it in terms of someone younger still.  No matter what our experiences or age, when w...

by JimDiamond

February 14th, 2005, 5:30 am

Forum: Proposal Ideas

Topic: Valentines day proposal

Replies: 81

Views: 4716


In today''s day and age I think a serious proposal followed by an offer to start ring shopping may be perfectly appropriate.  I didn''t choose it for myself, but it may be right for some.  However, you may want to consider the reasons you want to propose without a ring.  If it''s beca...

by JimDiamond

February 11th, 2005, 10:52 am

Forum: Proposal Ideas

Topic: Proposal Idea w/out ring

Replies: 21

Views: 8032


I think everyone has had a lot of useful things to say here and I think it will help far more people than ScoutZor alone.  The overwhelming consenus is that ScoutZor would be best served by taking his time.  After all, in the race of life the winner is the one that takes his time, has fun ...

by JimDiamond

February 11th, 2005, 10:46 am

Forum: Proposal Ideas

Topic: Valentines day proposal

Replies: 81

Views: 4716


I proposed to my fiance at the beautiful Huntington Library and Gardens in San Marino (which is a tiny little city surrounded by Paadena) which is very close to L.A.  They have hundreds of acres of gorgeous botanical gardens, including a rose garden and japanese garden complete with arched...

by JimDiamond

February 9th, 2005, 7:08 am

Forum: Proposal Ideas

Topic: Ideas for Proposal in LA

Replies: 7

Views: 1160


First of all let me congratulate you on your decision to go with the promise ring and it is YOUR decision.  It doesn''t matter what anyone here says so I''m glad you''re making a wise one.  When you talk about your plans for the future, jobs, careers, children, etc. you sound as if you are...

by JimDiamond

February 9th, 2005, 6:37 am

Forum: Proposal Ideas

Topic: Valentines day proposal

Replies: 81

Views: 4716


I agree that you should "feel" that you are ready to marry that person at that moment when you propose or accept a proposal.  No one should go into an engagement thinking, hmmm....well maybe I''ll marry him or her...let''s see how it goes, BUT it does force a whole new perspective and a lot can...

by JimDiamond

January 21st, 2005, 6:04 am

Forum: Proposal Ideas

Topic: Meaning of Engagement

Replies: 14

Views: 1637


It''s not really about how you meet is it.  It''s about your relationship after you meet.  People have met in all sorts of unlikely places (mountain climbing, parachuting, hospitals, and on and on.) as well as all of the ordinary places such as work, school, mutual friends, etc.  So, ...

by JimDiamond

January 18th, 2005, 11:39 am

Forum: Proposal Ideas

Topic: Meeting your future husband or wife on the internet?

Replies: 40

Views: 3023


Someone should only get engaged with a real committment and a plan to marry that person, but it doesn''t mean that you will have no doubts or fears.  Also, as we well know not all marriages last a lifetime.  Not all engagements end in marriage.  The unfortunate thing is that too many ...

by JimDiamond

January 18th, 2005, 7:09 am

Forum: Proposal Ideas

Topic: Meaning of Engagement

Replies: 14

Views: 1637


Those who have responded are all older than 16.  We''ve experienced or seen experiences in friends and family over the years that help us realize the folly of this young couple''s plans.  But he''s shown considerable maturity by participating in a discussion here.  We all know we''re ...

by JimDiamond

January 13th, 2005, 6:29 am

Forum: Proposal Ideas

Topic: Valentines day proposal

Replies: 81

Views: 4716


Aljdewey and the others are right.  The fact that you feel hurt is definitely normal and it''s okay.  We can''t control our feelings, but we can control our reactions to them.  So stay calm.  If you were at the two year mark and she said that (unless you were both very young) the...

by JimDiamond

January 13th, 2005, 6:06 am

Forum: Proposal Ideas

Topic: About to get engaged....but she asked me to wait. :-(

Replies: 7

Views: 2002


If you've been together for five years and I assume you are both at least in your early twenties; I will further assume that you have talked about marriage and kids and understand each others finances, goals and dreams if you are ready to get married. I say then there's no reason you have to wa...

by JimDiamond

January 12th, 2005, 1:16 pm

Forum: Proposal Ideas

Topic: any ideas ? help me :)

Replies: 5

Views: 911


You know what PrincessBride has a point.  I missed the 7 months part.  I was thinking you'd been together for at least a couple of years.  Of course that would still mean that you were 14 when you started dating.  In truth I wouldn't suggest that even someone in their 30's get en...

by JimDiamond

January 12th, 2005, 12:54 pm

Forum: Proposal Ideas

Topic: Valentines day proposal

Replies: 81

Views: 4716


Well you''re definitely ahead of the game in terms of how a typical 16 year old thinks.  You have thought this through more than most.  Being 38 and just about to get married for the first time, the idea of getting married at 16 or even 18 terrifies me.  Nonetheless since you are dead...

by JimDiamond

January 11th, 2005, 1:03 pm

Forum: Proposal Ideas

Topic: Valentines day proposal

Replies: 81

Views: 4716


Ordinarily I would say let her have the joy of seeing it first and showing it to her parents for the first time.  In this case she''s already seen the ring.  However, I think it''s still true that there is nothing better than being able to show off that ring to everyone thos...

by JimDiamond

January 11th, 2005, 10:36 am

Forum: Proposal Ideas

Topic: Ask parents with the ring or not???

Replies: 12

Views: 1196


You could probably arrange for some time alone if you ask for it from someone in the house who can help get everyone out (like mom or dad).  You can probably more easily do it somewhere else though.  Are there any places that have special meaning for the two of you?  Are there any pic...

by JimDiamond

December 20th, 2004, 12:19 pm

Forum: Proposal Ideas

Topic: Need some help!!!!!

Replies: 7

Views: 1070


I strongly considered proposing on a plane back in July.  I thought it through carefully and decided against it.  I''m very glad I did.  I remember thinking about how it might have gone while I was on the trip and in the air.  My evaluation wasn''t positive.  That said ...

by JimDiamond

December 20th, 2004, 11:50 am

Forum: Proposal Ideas

Topic: Plane proposal???

Replies: 2

Views: 849


Yeah, that does suck.  I''m not entirely sure what she means.  The money for the ring is already spent.  I guess she means that she would feel guilty with even more money spent during your vacation.  I know it feels funny, but you just have to go through with your plan.  A y...

by JimDiamond

December 20th, 2004, 11:12 am

Forum: Proposal Ideas

Topic: Oh no! Major problem encountered, advice needed!

Replies: 15

Views: 1735


Are her mom and dad married and living togther?  If so, then mom should already know.  You''re going to have to think about whether or not you want to talk to her about it based on her mom''s personality and their relationship (and what you think she thinks of you too.).  I''m not sur...

by JimDiamond

December 10th, 2004, 6:08 am

Forum: Proposal Ideas

Topic: asking the parents??

Replies: 3

Views: 986


JLC:  Your approach sounds great to me.  The best of both worlds...have lot''s of input into the stone and setting, but still have enough time for it to be a total surprise.  It also takes a lot of the pressure off of your b/f without removing the fun.  He still gets to do t...

by JimDiamond

December 10th, 2004, 6:02 am

Forum: Proposal Ideas

Topic: How to make it exciting when you chose the ring!

Replies: 16

Views: 1763


They've been together for three months!  They can talk about marriage in the fun, surreal way that people who are just falling in love can all that they want, but it's just "speculation" at this point.  They shouldn't, nor even can, talk about marriage in a serious way for a while yet.&nbs...

by JimDiamond

December 7th, 2004, 5:23 am

Forum: Proposal Ideas

Topic: Moving in with a procrastinator

Replies: 18

Views: 1629


I''ve never used one, but those "spy cameras" broadcast to a receiver which is hooked up to a nearby VCR.  Doesn''t that make it a lot more complicated?  It''s easy to do at home, but would seem more difficult in a restaurant.

by JimDiamond

December 7th, 2004, 5:11 am

Forum: Proposal Ideas

Topic: New Years Proposal

Replies: 4

Views: 1107