If you had to wear your wedding & engagement rings on opposite hands, which hand would you wear them on and why?

kittycatsmac & mrssalvo, thanks for your replies on the other thread.  I got it to do the poll this time.

 

I posted in your other thread, but will again here. I''d do the e-ring on the left and w-band on the right. I just wouldn''t like a solitaire or similar on my right hand. I''m not a RHR gal though so I''d probably just wear one at a time on my left hand.

I said wedding band on left and ering on right hand.  I 've seen many people do this and  think it looks nice.  But honestly it's not for me.  I need them both on my left hand.

Even though I am a righty, I do more things with my left hand.  So to limit the banging around and stuff, I would wear the e-ring on the right, and the band on the left.  As it is, I am currently wearing my e-ring on the right hand.  Plus with small hands, it just looks overpowering to have both rings on the same hand for me.  Believe me, I tried both on one hand for the longest time but it bothered me when I tried to carry things, open doors, etc.

I wear a three stone ring by itself on my left hand so obviously I prefer the bigger bling to be there. 

I voted ering on left hand, wband on right.  I''m left handed but use my right hand for a lot of stuff, and my right hand gets banged around alot so I''d wear the wedding band on the right.  And that''s how they do it in Europe so, it''s all good.

Old-fashion,

Thanks for this poll I was definately interested in others opinions becuase I am getting my girlfriend a 3 sided pave ring and am a little  worried about how she would react to not wearing the wedding band next to her er on an everyday basis.  Hopefully this poll gets a lot of results and I can show her them after I propose.

-Dave

w-ring on left, e-ring on right (but it''s too small so i''d have to have it sized up!)

Date: 4/4/2006 12:39:09 PM
Author: old-fashioned girl

kittycatsmac & mrssalvo, thanks for your replies on the other thread. I got it to do the poll this time.

Well I just voted for you and my vote made it a 50 50 half for ering on left and half for wedding band on left .... I wonder who will be the tie braker ???

e-ring on left wedding band on right - I would be too scared to wear my e-ring on my right hand as the setting is quite high, I know I would knock it

sorry, posted twice

I said e-ring on the left and wedding band on the right but not because of practical reasons but sentimental reasons.

To me the e-ring is much more valuable not just monetarily but also sentimentally since my FI picked it out so I would want that ring to represent our relationship rather than the wedding band.

Also, and this is a bit silly, I know, but I never understood why the most expensive ring (the e-ring) is an engagement ring and not the wedding ring - shouldn''t it be the other way around? Typically the e-ring you wear until you are married and then you wear the band (I know thats not how some do it, at least not on PS, but this is the typical idea). Shouldn''t the most expensive token of your love be something you will wear more? I think the system should be switched: a band for engagement and a e-ring for wedding

Kaleidoscopic, I know what you mean.  Sometimes I wish that you could just get the one ring - get a beautiful e-ring, and not worry about it matching or sitting flush with another ring, and just use that as the wedding ring!  Or, maybe just get some simple band, to wear when you don''t want to wear the e-ring.  Or, that the custom was to wear them on different hands. 

I picked ER on left hand, WR on right hand for practical reasons. If this choice actually came up I'd probably just wear the ER. It's so much more expensive that I need to get value out of it. I'm also more attached to it because we put a lot of thought into its selection, it is the first ring my fiance gave me, and it's simply a cooler, blingier ring. This could be a reason to "upgrade" my solitaire into a 3-stone ring, too.

Lately just for fun I have occasionally been wearing my e-ring alone (on my left hand). It feels WEIRD, though -- I feel like I look like I am only engaged... when in fact I have been married for a reeeeally long time!!!! But it''s only because I think my diamond looks BIGGER without the added width of the w-ring. And since I got these rings long after I was married, I never had the chance to just enjoy my e-ring "solo", like most girls have the opportunity. But still, although it LOOKS gorgeous, it does feel awfully *weird* to me... so I really don''t do it very often.

Wedding ring on the left hand. Otherwise you don''t look married, if you care about that.

My opinion is probably also influenced by my mom only wearing a ER. She never owned a wedding band, for lots of reasons. Not traditional where she came from, she doesn't like the look of thick rings on short fingers, she thinks any ring is enough to show you are taken. Never thought about her diamond looking bigger without a wb - maybe that's the REAL reason why!

ER on left, only because I can''t stand to have any rings on my RH. (although a small, simple wedding band there would be tolerable)

I would prefer the wedding bank on the left and the e-ring on the right...but having said that, I am right handed and would be afraid to bang my e-ring too much if it were on my right hand.  So if I had to choose for myself only, I would put the ering on my left and my wedding band on my right.  Although, I prefer them both on the left

I must say I am a little suprised so far at the results, I thought it would have been stronger for the er on the left hand.  I thought if you put the er on the right most people would just think it is a ring and not an ER. Oh well looks like I was wrong when me and my mom were "discussing it". I guess thats what I get for being a guy trying to discuss where women should wear their jewlery.

I wear my E - ring and eternity band together on left hand becuase they r both my rings used in my wedding ceremony. But if i had to separate i would put my band on right.

I picked wedding ring on the left, engagement ring on the right. The ring given during the wedding is the one that most closely represents your marriage so thats the one I would keep on that finger. I have a big thing for "proximity" to an event though.

I always liked the tradition of wearing the engagement ring only until you are married and then either moving it to your right hand or not wearing it at all after you are marriedd to denote your new status. I wouldn''t want to feel perpetually engaged.

I did this for awhile- wedding ring on Right, e-ring on left. DH is a violinist and he wears his wedding ring on his right hand all the time, so I don''t know... it could go either way!

HI,
I would wear my e-ring on my left hand and my wedding band on the right, only because I am a rightey and I can''t stand to have something big and bulky on my right hand, it would just annoy me too much. 

As far as which would be more sentimental, definitely my wedding band.  I cherish it much more than anything else I have and even if I acquire more rings, it''s the one thing I never remove.

Date: 4/4/2006 4:32:34 PM
Author: familystone
I must say I am a little suprised so far at the results, I thought it would have been stronger for the er on the left hand. I thought if you put the er on the right most people would just think it is a ring and not an ER. Oh well looks like I was wrong when me and my mom were ''discussing it''. I guess thats what I get for being a guy trying to discuss where women should wear their jewlery.

I can see either side, which is why I started the poll.  On the one hand (no pun intended), in the USA it is typical to wear a band on the left hand to show you''re married.  So I can see putting w-band on left, and e-ring on right, as sort of a RHR.  However, since it is more common to be right-hand-dominant, and a lot of right-handers are more likely to be harder on a ring on the rt. hand, and for that reason a lot of women don''t like to wear any ring on the right, or at least nothing with a prominent stone, I can see the case for wearing e-ring on left, and maybe band that wouldn''t be so bothersome on the right.  Also, in some European countries, I think they wear w-band on the right hand, and that combined with the last reason makes the case for e-ring left, w-band right.  I guess it would also depend on how e-ring''ish one''s e-ring is.  If it has a lot of diamond coverage, it can make do as a wedding ring.  If it looks very e-ring''ish, like maybe a solitaire, one might not want to wear it alone on the left because it would look like she''s only engaged and not married.      That''s why I also wanted to hear the reasons why they vote as they do. 

ok, I have ALWAYS worn my wedding ring on my left hand  - ALONE and have ALWAYS worn my e-ring on my right, again, alone.
I know there are a lot of people who wear them together  - usually on the left. I don''t do it because I''m left handed,that''s completely irrelevent.
I do it because this is the traditional way and I like the tradition and always have. When I was married the first time, I wore my engagement ring on my left until my wedding day when it was moved to the right to make room for the band. i did the exact same thing with my 2nd marriage. I don''t have a diamond yet, but it''s coming sooooon and it will replace the ring I wear on my right hand, which is the one I was engaged with.

I don''t like the look of both rings together, even when they''re designed to be that way. toooo busy for my taste.

Date: 4/4/2006 12:42:31 PM
Author: kaleigh
I said wedding band on left and ering on right hand. I ''ve seen many people do this and think it looks nice. But honestly it''s not for me. I need them both on my left hand.

I agree with Kaleigh.  When I was growing up, alot of the ladies wore their rings this way.  The w-ring always on the left hand because that ring finger went directly to the heart.  It is a nice look but I want mine together too.  My five stone RHR is an anniversary ring so I wear it on the right hand.

I voted ER on left and WR on right because I''ve seen one woman with her rings and different hands and that''s how she wore them. I would, however, not wear them separately, because I am not getting big rings and here, it is traditional to wear both on the left. I''m also a righty, so an ER would get beaten up on my right hand!

It''s funny to hear about all those traditions... As I said, here it''s traditional to wear both on the same hand, my mother even looked at me with wide eyes when I told her we aren''t getting both my rings at the same time and said "How do you know if they''ll fit togther?" Matching sets are very popular. So, I guess I''ve always assumed that''s how things are done, and I''m a bit surprised to hear (read? ) that things are done differently in other places!

Lynn and Old-Fashioned Girl,

I completely agree, I hate that one can''t just wear the e-ring alone, without someone thinking you are only engaged and not married. I too much prefer wearing the e-ring alone.

Lynn, I am currently looking for a wedding band and feel like all of them make my center stone SHRINK! My setting is very thin and dainty thus making the center look BIGGER. However when I add a wedding band to it, the center stone just doesn''t jump out as much and kind of blends more - there is no POW!

Date: 4/4/2006 2:01:03 PM
Author: old-fashioned girl
Kaleidoscopic, I know what you mean. Sometimes I wish that you could just get the one ring - get a beautiful e-ring, and not worry about it matching or sitting flush with another ring, and just use that as the wedding ring! Or, maybe just get some simple band, to wear when you don''t want to wear the e-ring. Or, that the custom was to wear them on different hands.

I voted ER on left hand and WR on right for the same reasons others have mentioned.  I am right-handed, so I''m active with my right hand and would bang around the ER a lot if I wore it on that hand.  However, I will be doing exactly what you say above, OFG, about either getting just one ring and using it for both or getting two rings but wearing them only one at a time on the left hand.  The e-ring I''m getting will not sit flush with any wedding band, so no matter what, I wouldn''t wear two rings on the same hand.  I''m also not a jewelry person, and I hate having rings on my right hand.  So I''ll either make the e-ring become also the wedding ring, or get a wedding ring but wear only one ring at a time on the left.