Proposal with temporary setting so she can choose a permanent one later?

I think this one is tough. My step-mom got a ring from my Dad when he proposed, and then had it reset before their wedding. She wanted to match it to her wedding band. So, people definitely do that.

Personally, I am so sentimental, that I would probably keep the setting b/c it would forever remind me of the romantic proposal. But, everyone is different.

Has she hinted at all about rings she likes? Maybe if she's mentioned a friend's ring, then you could get a similar setting.

But, if you really do want her to pick out a the setting, I think your idea of a simple "proposal" setting will work.

Good luck!
-Sarah

Hi... I'm going to buy a band that I like and hope she likes it... i talked to the store I bought it from and they said if she wants to bring it back for a different one right after, they will exchange, upgrade it.

I suggest you invest time into picking one out she will like... don't spend alot... and if she would like a different one... invest into it if needed.

To me the guy, I don't care, a rock a diamond, I would rather have the money for a house or something... but this has meaning to the girls... so if you are going to do it... you might as well go all the way to make them happy... cause I look at it this way, if they are happy, we are happy. : )

good luck.

I got the same exact proposal. My white gold setting IS sentimental, and will house a beautiful sky blue topaz I bought.

BUT right now I am considering different designers for my setting, so that I CAN match my wedding band and my e-ring. iw ant my e-ring to be unique, clean and simple, but smooth and different. That's why my sweet fiance knew how picky I am with accessories and things I wear, so he got me the rock, and everything else is for me to decide.

I personally think this is the way to go when she isn't speific about setting, as I would rather the choice, than perhaps having to get used to something I MAY or MAY NOT like. I am not rude, I appreciate the gift, but to me, a setting is a very very personal and subjective thing. I LOVE your idea...

Also, you don't get a better deal when you buy the ring usualy, if you are thinking stores, then they are likely to be giving you the band cheaper, because they could be overcharging you on the stone.

Online, the settings are priced what they are (some more competitive than others), and sometimes you can negotiate the stone's price. But in stores, it's usually an "imaginary" savings, again because their mark up can be much higher than on-line. Just a thought, so don't worry! A 14K white gold simple solitaire should run you no more than $75 or so! GOOD LUCK!!

I think this is a great approach, but I think you should make your thought process/plan clear shortly after the proposal so that 1. she really understands that you did this on purpose and you indend for her to change it, and 2.she doesn't get sentimentally attached just because she thinks she should.

I would not feel as good about changing it if I thought at all that I might be hurting my DH's feelings by switching. But, if I know this was his plan all along, I would think it was fun and thoughtful, and would want to include him in the process (even tho he might want to pass).

Yeah, definately go with the simple setting if you don't know what to get. That way she will still get an awesome rock for the proposal and you can have a good time shopping for the "perfect" setting together!