They are lovely rings, both sets. Don't be jealous of anyone else's "stuff" in the end, its simply not worth it.
Be open, communicate to your husband what you want.. believe me. lol. Its VERY important. Don't HINT, TELL. Sometimes a hint doesn't go very far. I know this one from experience, right everyone? LOL
If he gives you his aunt's rings perhaps he won't feel badly if you wore your original set on your right hand. You need to be happy with what you wear or it will become a rock in the shoe, so to speak..
Good luck.
I guess there are several options. You could wear your original e-ring and band (or just the band) on your left hand, and wear your aunt''s rings on your right. Or you could wear your aunt''s rings on your left and tell your husband you didn''t want the colors of the metal to clash (yellow and white). You could take turns wearing both sets on your left. Or you could tell your husband you prefer to wear your aunt''s only for now. Or you could wear the yellow gold set when you''re with your husband since he''s sentimental about the set he gave you originally and not wear your aunt''s rings with him. I don''t know. I don''t know what your relationship with your husband is like and what would hurt him.
I originally had a yellow gold set when we married. I, like you, wished for a bigger stone. So when I got an upgrade, I first wore it on my right hand with my original set on my left. I gradually switched the upgrade to the left hand and wore my original ring on my right hand, then I took it off my right hand altogether. My husband said he was initially hurt, but now realizes I just love diamonds and wants me to me happy. I still love my original ring and will always keep it because it is sentimental to me.
Were the aunts rings something he inherited? Does he own them? IN other words, are they even his to give?
Oh, and welcome to the forum! My husband loved yellow gold too. We were married in yellow gold even though I prefer platinum. Fast forward 6 years and I was pregnant and my fingers swelled and I injured my hand and my rings had to be cut off! Damaged the setting. When we replaced the wedding ring and diamond setting I spoke up and told him I wanted platinum after the baby was born. When I was engaged, I was so thrilled to be marrying him that I too was afraid to speak up. He preferred yellow and he was paying for the ring (I did buy his wedding ring though). So after I got platinum, I decided I wanted us to match and for our next anniversary after that, I got him a platinum wedding band. I have my mangled cut off yellow gold one and his yellow gold one put away for sentimental reasons. And guess what? He loves his platinum ring! He has been wearing it for almost 6 years now and prefers it to yellow. I have found that men often gravitate towards the metal their mother tends to wear since they are use to seeing it. So my future daughter in laws will probably get platinum LOL.
What country are you from? Is your husband from the US?
And I agree with the other poster who said, you should both agree with what you end up doing or then both rings will be unwearble to you.
Ditto.Date: 9/1/2006 3:34:26 PM
Author: mrssalvo
I think both sets are lovely and there''s nothing wrong with having both.