phoenixgirl
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We live in a small third floor condo in the citiy, and have become quite good friends with our neighbors. Birthday dinners, somebody always getting drinks for the others, etc. A new neighbor moved in just across the way . . .
First impressions, the owner is a very nice guy, pretty good-looking, about 30. His girlfriend is (I''m sorry!) really not good looking (they met on Match.com). We''ve hung out with them out back maybe three times, and every time she has made comments about other women being after her man. The first was when we brought up another neighbor, about 38, divorced, always out on the town, whom she described as a "man eater" whom she''d been warned against. But this woman got our mail and watered our plants while we were out of town, so we certainly weren''t going to gang up on her with someone we''d just met. Yes, she is pretty and likes to go out on the town, but who can blame her? She''s just trying to find happiness in life. So anyway, when the "man eater" finally met the new guy, the girlfriend made a big show of going inside (probably to pout and hope her man would follow her and ask what was wrong). I remember thinking, "This is weird; she told us that she shouldn''t trust Kathy with her man, then she left him alone with her . . ." and then I realized that was probably some sort of test on her part.
So anyway, tonight we spend an hour or two out back, and various neighbors wandered up to our landing to chat. I had been having my vodka tonics and feeling loose, so I decided to show off my new ring to another neighbor. This neighbor is late 50''s, widowed 10 years ago by a much older husband, who likes to date and go out on the town as well. We have become quite good friends, and I knew that even though she was a bit inebriated, she would be excited about my new ring (and she was). So I showed it to her while the guys were talking. All of a sudden, the new guy''s girlfriend announced that she was going in. Then the new guy said, "Thanks for bringing up wedding jewelry in front of her."
Yikes!!! I''m sorry, but this girl is WAY too sensitive. I mean, my husband is an ENFP (all of you who have been following the personality thread know what I''m talking about), and in his day he had lots of girls who seemed to like him or think he was interested in and of whom I was slightly jealous, but I certainly never revealed this in front of strangers or made it seem like I was justified in my jealousy. But she has already mentioned two girls of whom she is suspicious, gone inside in "please follow me!" fits, and gotten upset about topics of conversation.
I know I don''t know these people at all, but my guess is that this guy could do way better. I hope he figures that out before it is too late.
We were at a wedding on Saturday and were asked to give advice on a card for the bride and groom on their marriage. Our advice was to respect what was important to each other (ahem . . . sorry, but had to allude to my difficulty in getting my new band, although everything worked out and DH was more clueless than anything) and to allow each other to pursue individual interests and friendships. I''m really glad when DH goes out so I can finally sit around in my PJ''s and watch whatever chick flick I want or so that I can go out with girlfriends. But it seems like this woman is so insecure that she never leaves this guy alone and has fits in front of almost complete strangers. Yeesh!
I will not be afraid to mention the fact that I am married or that my husband has bought me jewelry!
[Suddenly feeling like my own relationship is pretty functional after all].
First impressions, the owner is a very nice guy, pretty good-looking, about 30. His girlfriend is (I''m sorry!) really not good looking (they met on Match.com). We''ve hung out with them out back maybe three times, and every time she has made comments about other women being after her man. The first was when we brought up another neighbor, about 38, divorced, always out on the town, whom she described as a "man eater" whom she''d been warned against. But this woman got our mail and watered our plants while we were out of town, so we certainly weren''t going to gang up on her with someone we''d just met. Yes, she is pretty and likes to go out on the town, but who can blame her? She''s just trying to find happiness in life. So anyway, when the "man eater" finally met the new guy, the girlfriend made a big show of going inside (probably to pout and hope her man would follow her and ask what was wrong). I remember thinking, "This is weird; she told us that she shouldn''t trust Kathy with her man, then she left him alone with her . . ." and then I realized that was probably some sort of test on her part.
So anyway, tonight we spend an hour or two out back, and various neighbors wandered up to our landing to chat. I had been having my vodka tonics and feeling loose, so I decided to show off my new ring to another neighbor. This neighbor is late 50''s, widowed 10 years ago by a much older husband, who likes to date and go out on the town as well. We have become quite good friends, and I knew that even though she was a bit inebriated, she would be excited about my new ring (and she was). So I showed it to her while the guys were talking. All of a sudden, the new guy''s girlfriend announced that she was going in. Then the new guy said, "Thanks for bringing up wedding jewelry in front of her."
Yikes!!! I''m sorry, but this girl is WAY too sensitive. I mean, my husband is an ENFP (all of you who have been following the personality thread know what I''m talking about), and in his day he had lots of girls who seemed to like him or think he was interested in and of whom I was slightly jealous, but I certainly never revealed this in front of strangers or made it seem like I was justified in my jealousy. But she has already mentioned two girls of whom she is suspicious, gone inside in "please follow me!" fits, and gotten upset about topics of conversation.
I know I don''t know these people at all, but my guess is that this guy could do way better. I hope he figures that out before it is too late.
We were at a wedding on Saturday and were asked to give advice on a card for the bride and groom on their marriage. Our advice was to respect what was important to each other (ahem . . . sorry, but had to allude to my difficulty in getting my new band, although everything worked out and DH was more clueless than anything) and to allow each other to pursue individual interests and friendships. I''m really glad when DH goes out so I can finally sit around in my PJ''s and watch whatever chick flick I want or so that I can go out with girlfriends. But it seems like this woman is so insecure that she never leaves this guy alone and has fits in front of almost complete strangers. Yeesh!
I will not be afraid to mention the fact that I am married or that my husband has bought me jewelry!
[Suddenly feeling like my own relationship is pretty functional after all].
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