daydream believer
Rough_Rock
- Joined
- Mar 3, 2008
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ame I'm so sorry about the theft of your ring! How awful to put that much time, effort and love into selecting it, only to have it taken from you.
My BF and I are very much a team, so I don't doubt that we can come to a positive resolution on this. I think I need to really hammer out the short list of non-negotiables (thanks blackprophet for encouraging that line of thinking) and then also develop a list of areas where he could have some input as well. For example, I think BF would have a lot of fun designing a unique gallery and profile - for some reason that seems to be what he looks at first in a ring and I'm definitely way more flexible on those elements.
I don't think this issue is really about BF disliking what I want, but more that he was hoping to create something that I would love. I think giving him a very clear framework of what I do and don't like, and also where he could have some creative leeway will help. As cheesy as it sounds, I know BF is a huge romantic and has been very excited to go through the process of getting something I will love. He just honestly thought I would want something more in line with what our contemporaries are choosing.
VRBeauty and Laila619, thanks for validating my concerns. We were able to settle on the budget together (and I actually had to talk him down on the amount he would spend), so I think we are off to a pretty good start.
My BF and I are very much a team, so I don't doubt that we can come to a positive resolution on this. I think I need to really hammer out the short list of non-negotiables (thanks blackprophet for encouraging that line of thinking) and then also develop a list of areas where he could have some input as well. For example, I think BF would have a lot of fun designing a unique gallery and profile - for some reason that seems to be what he looks at first in a ring and I'm definitely way more flexible on those elements.
I don't think this issue is really about BF disliking what I want, but more that he was hoping to create something that I would love. I think giving him a very clear framework of what I do and don't like, and also where he could have some creative leeway will help. As cheesy as it sounds, I know BF is a huge romantic and has been very excited to go through the process of getting something I will love. He just honestly thought I would want something more in line with what our contemporaries are choosing.
VRBeauty and Laila619, thanks for validating my concerns. We were able to settle on the budget together (and I actually had to talk him down on the amount he would spend), so I think we are off to a pretty good start.