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Re: Sister-in-law's Destination Wedding: How Much Is Too Muc
I wanted to chime in because we did a cruise/destination wedding. The cruise was out of Florida, and most guests came from the West coast. We had wanted a certain ship during a certain week, but did an alternate itinerary to make it more affordable. We also chose to get married on the beach the morning before the wedding, so people could still choose to go to the wedding but not the cruise. We had three groups who did go to Florida just for the wedding, and then turned it into their own vacation by hitting up Disney and such. Our cruise was a week long, but butted up to Thanksgiving weekend (so people could fly out Friday, since they mostly had that day off anyway). I think the cruise cost per person was in th3 $500-$800 range, depending on the cabin, plus a few hundred more for flights and hotel.
Our entire goal was to make it as affordable and convenient as possible. We wanted people to come, and we wanted them to feel like it was their own vacation, rather than an "it's all about us" thing. People had a great time. Are there some people who didn't show up who I wish would/could have? Of course. But, it's their vacation time and their money, so I didn't get upset or anything. We were incredible grateful to those who made the trip and made sure they knew how much we appreciated it.
As for your situation, unless your SIL is a Kardashian or something, it's ridiculous. Two weeks? Who wants to use that much vacation time? And the cost is completely unreasonable. If we had done that, I'm pretty sure exactly zero people would have shown up. Not our parents, BFFs, nobody. I guess she'll figure it out once the RSVPs aren't rolling in.
I wanted to chime in because we did a cruise/destination wedding. The cruise was out of Florida, and most guests came from the West coast. We had wanted a certain ship during a certain week, but did an alternate itinerary to make it more affordable. We also chose to get married on the beach the morning before the wedding, so people could still choose to go to the wedding but not the cruise. We had three groups who did go to Florida just for the wedding, and then turned it into their own vacation by hitting up Disney and such. Our cruise was a week long, but butted up to Thanksgiving weekend (so people could fly out Friday, since they mostly had that day off anyway). I think the cruise cost per person was in th3 $500-$800 range, depending on the cabin, plus a few hundred more for flights and hotel.
Our entire goal was to make it as affordable and convenient as possible. We wanted people to come, and we wanted them to feel like it was their own vacation, rather than an "it's all about us" thing. People had a great time. Are there some people who didn't show up who I wish would/could have? Of course. But, it's their vacation time and their money, so I didn't get upset or anything. We were incredible grateful to those who made the trip and made sure they knew how much we appreciated it.
As for your situation, unless your SIL is a Kardashian or something, it's ridiculous. Two weeks? Who wants to use that much vacation time? And the cost is completely unreasonable. If we had done that, I'm pretty sure exactly zero people would have shown up. Not our parents, BFFs, nobody. I guess she'll figure it out once the RSVPs aren't rolling in.