tuffyluvr
Brilliant_Rock
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Hi all!!! I haven't been around in a long time, but I am here because I desperately need some neutral third-party perspective…
My sister-in-law (who is soon to be engaged) called me today to let me know that she booked her wedding for May 2016. I am excited for her, but my stomach dropped when she told me that they held rooms for a 12 day long european cruise. I feel like this is a lot to ask of her guests… it's an 11 hour/$1200 flight from Los Angeles (where most guests will be traveling from) to Amsterdam (where the cruise departs from), and her guests will each have to take 2 weeks off work and spend $3000 per person for the cruise, plus incidentals (hotel rooms for shoulder nights, pet sitters, transportation, etc). My husband and I don't care for cruises, and neither does her mother, but we have a hard time telling her so, because we want to support her if this is what she really wants. HOWEVER, I am afraid that it is going to turn out to be a disaster if most of the invited guests can't make it due to the expense and amount of time away from work/home. She told me that her friends think that the cruise sounds awesome and they can be counted in, but I have to question if that will still be the case when the time comes to pay for everything and get time off of work. She is only planning on inviting 20-25 guests, and I feel like if only 8 people end up going she will be really disappointed.
I am trying not to let my personal feelings get in the way, I am so happy that she is getting married, but honestly, my husband and I are not going to be excited to spend $8,000-$10,000 dollars on a vacation that we don't want. Please tell me your opinions: am I being too harsh--should I just be happy for her, or should I voice my concerns to her???
BREAKDOWN:
Total cost: approx $4,200 per guest for travel expenses, plus incidentals
Total time away from work/home: two weeks
IS THIS TOO MUCH TO ASK OF WEDDING GUESTS???
My sister-in-law (who is soon to be engaged) called me today to let me know that she booked her wedding for May 2016. I am excited for her, but my stomach dropped when she told me that they held rooms for a 12 day long european cruise. I feel like this is a lot to ask of her guests… it's an 11 hour/$1200 flight from Los Angeles (where most guests will be traveling from) to Amsterdam (where the cruise departs from), and her guests will each have to take 2 weeks off work and spend $3000 per person for the cruise, plus incidentals (hotel rooms for shoulder nights, pet sitters, transportation, etc). My husband and I don't care for cruises, and neither does her mother, but we have a hard time telling her so, because we want to support her if this is what she really wants. HOWEVER, I am afraid that it is going to turn out to be a disaster if most of the invited guests can't make it due to the expense and amount of time away from work/home. She told me that her friends think that the cruise sounds awesome and they can be counted in, but I have to question if that will still be the case when the time comes to pay for everything and get time off of work. She is only planning on inviting 20-25 guests, and I feel like if only 8 people end up going she will be really disappointed.
I am trying not to let my personal feelings get in the way, I am so happy that she is getting married, but honestly, my husband and I are not going to be excited to spend $8,000-$10,000 dollars on a vacation that we don't want. Please tell me your opinions: am I being too harsh--should I just be happy for her, or should I voice my concerns to her???
BREAKDOWN:
Total cost: approx $4,200 per guest for travel expenses, plus incidentals
Total time away from work/home: two weeks
IS THIS TOO MUCH TO ASK OF WEDDING GUESTS???