momhappy|1426507115|3847939 said:How you choose to respond is situational and depends on your own personal circumstances. Some families of the deceased will have specific instructions for those who care to donate (for example, in lieu of flowers, donations can be made to….. etc.)
Typically, I prefer not to donate flowers unless there seems to be no other options. I prefer to donate to a cause in honor of the deceased - provided that one has been specified. When my father-in-law passed away, the monetary donations that people made to a charity that he had supported throughout his life, seemed so much more meaningful than a plant or a bouquet of flowers.