packrat
Super_Ideal_Rock
- Joined
- Dec 12, 2008
- Messages
- 10,614
How do you guys deal w/confrontation? Not the internet forum disagreement type. Real life in your face confrontation.
It makes me sick to my stomach. I shake, my hands get sweaty, my voice quivers b/c I get *so* mad. My heart races. If I can get out of it w/out the angry-crying, I'm doing good.
I ask b/c we've been having issues at work, and today someone confronted me, three times, in front of the kids during school. I repeatedly said this was not the time, not in front of the kids, it was neither appropriate nor professional and it kept on and kept on. And then she brought MY kids into it. MINE.
The principal happened to come down to our building so I asked to speak w/her. I explained part of what is going on but didn't go into vast detail--you know you can never remember half of what needs to be talked about when you're in the moment. However--we do have a glad handler principal that when it comes down to the brass tacks administrating part of administration duties, tells you what you want to hear and tells the next person something else. She agreed w/me, said it was unprofessional and completely inappropriate, and that she would find out what is going on.
And it's STUPID stuff related to work. Like the most inconsequential ridiculous things to raise a fuss about-but there I stood (or sat rather, b/c I was trying to do my snack table w/6 preschoolers) having to deal w/it and find a way to nicely explain that there was no point to the argument. In fact, I told the principal when I was talking to her that I felt ridiculous even having to have a conversation w/her about it *because* it is so trivial, but I felt like I was being attacked and I refuse to accept that. And when she brought my kids up, nope, absolutely NOT.
So. Aside from the fact that I need to get back into doing yoga desperately and I *really* want a moo latte swimming in cappuccino...
How do you deal w/it? Once it's been brought to someone else's attention, do you just let it go and if there's no follow up, accept it? I have a hard time not getting along w/someone and then ohhh hiiii yeahhhh how was your weekend? I feel two faced and I don't like to do it. So I ignored her at lunch-we're busy w/the kids anyway but instead of joking between the adults like we usually do, it was quiet on that front. It's been since she was hired right before Christmas that we've been dealing w/this. And some things are skinny rabbits, you don't worry about them..but some things after a while...it's just enough.
JD worries nobody is going to stick up for me and I'm going to just be allowed to take the fall b/c everyone wants to keep their jobs.
I feel there has been so much conflict between last year and this year that we NEED to have a meeting between staff and administration to get thru things rather than let them fester.
It makes me sick to my stomach. I shake, my hands get sweaty, my voice quivers b/c I get *so* mad. My heart races. If I can get out of it w/out the angry-crying, I'm doing good.
I ask b/c we've been having issues at work, and today someone confronted me, three times, in front of the kids during school. I repeatedly said this was not the time, not in front of the kids, it was neither appropriate nor professional and it kept on and kept on. And then she brought MY kids into it. MINE.
The principal happened to come down to our building so I asked to speak w/her. I explained part of what is going on but didn't go into vast detail--you know you can never remember half of what needs to be talked about when you're in the moment. However--we do have a glad handler principal that when it comes down to the brass tacks administrating part of administration duties, tells you what you want to hear and tells the next person something else. She agreed w/me, said it was unprofessional and completely inappropriate, and that she would find out what is going on.
And it's STUPID stuff related to work. Like the most inconsequential ridiculous things to raise a fuss about-but there I stood (or sat rather, b/c I was trying to do my snack table w/6 preschoolers) having to deal w/it and find a way to nicely explain that there was no point to the argument. In fact, I told the principal when I was talking to her that I felt ridiculous even having to have a conversation w/her about it *because* it is so trivial, but I felt like I was being attacked and I refuse to accept that. And when she brought my kids up, nope, absolutely NOT.
So. Aside from the fact that I need to get back into doing yoga desperately and I *really* want a moo latte swimming in cappuccino...
How do you deal w/it? Once it's been brought to someone else's attention, do you just let it go and if there's no follow up, accept it? I have a hard time not getting along w/someone and then ohhh hiiii yeahhhh how was your weekend? I feel two faced and I don't like to do it. So I ignored her at lunch-we're busy w/the kids anyway but instead of joking between the adults like we usually do, it was quiet on that front. It's been since she was hired right before Christmas that we've been dealing w/this. And some things are skinny rabbits, you don't worry about them..but some things after a while...it's just enough.
JD worries nobody is going to stick up for me and I'm going to just be allowed to take the fall b/c everyone wants to keep their jobs.
I feel there has been so much conflict between last year and this year that we NEED to have a meeting between staff and administration to get thru things rather than let them fester.