I know lots of people in my neighborhood as I have lived here 20 years and I see them quite often as I walk my dog a couple of times a day. They re usually walking their dogs as well and I usually chat with them. There is this one guy who walks his white lab and for the past few months he has let his dog play with mine on my lawn ( i have let other dogs in my neighborhood as well play with mine and have watched a few of them while their owners have been away. So nothing strange there) This guy and I converse, but it is usually about our kids and the dogs. My DH has talked to him. Couple of times in the past he has commented on how I look and I was flattered. But other neighbors, male and female, have often given me compliments.
A few months back he made an off comment to me and then said something about how he nd his wife argue all the time. I made it a point to say how well DH and I get along after knowing each other for over 30 years and perhaps marriag counselling would help them. i told DH
what he had said to me and that I felt uncomfortable around him. I could not get rid of him as I was walking back to my house and he was walking the same way. After that I have tried to walk my dog after he has walked his ( he lives around the corner from me) or DH walks with me when he can so I can avoid this guy. If I see him down the block I walk the other way only because I have to take the dog out otherwise I would wait until he is gone before walking the dog. I am afraid that if I am on the lawn or in the backyard he will just let his dog offleash so he can talk to me.
So today, unfortunately, I encountered him. His first comment was "Looking good " and stupid me thought he was talking about my dog since he just got groomed. He asked if my DD was back at school and that his DD just finished grad school and was looking for a job. He tried engaging me in more conversation, but I told him I was in a rush to run some errands. He then said, "you're looking really really good" and I asked him if he was talking about the dog and he said no. I know that I had a really pissed off look on my face and just started to walk away and he ended with that if I was ever alone and wanted company to let him know. I turned and told him that DH is the only company I ever want.
I called my sister immediately after and told her the latest. She said that his comment was only to see if I was interested. But I am mad at myself for not saying more. Should I try to avoid him completely or tell him that he is being totally inappropriate and I do not want to interact with him ever again?
The interesting part is that I a not someone in my 30s, 40s, but in my late 50s. My sister jokingly said that I should be flattered, but I am really unnerved by all of this.
A few months back he made an off comment to me and then said something about how he nd his wife argue all the time. I made it a point to say how well DH and I get along after knowing each other for over 30 years and perhaps marriag counselling would help them. i told DH
what he had said to me and that I felt uncomfortable around him. I could not get rid of him as I was walking back to my house and he was walking the same way. After that I have tried to walk my dog after he has walked his ( he lives around the corner from me) or DH walks with me when he can so I can avoid this guy. If I see him down the block I walk the other way only because I have to take the dog out otherwise I would wait until he is gone before walking the dog. I am afraid that if I am on the lawn or in the backyard he will just let his dog offleash so he can talk to me.
So today, unfortunately, I encountered him. His first comment was "Looking good " and stupid me thought he was talking about my dog since he just got groomed. He asked if my DD was back at school and that his DD just finished grad school and was looking for a job. He tried engaging me in more conversation, but I told him I was in a rush to run some errands. He then said, "you're looking really really good" and I asked him if he was talking about the dog and he said no. I know that I had a really pissed off look on my face and just started to walk away and he ended with that if I was ever alone and wanted company to let him know. I turned and told him that DH is the only company I ever want.
I called my sister immediately after and told her the latest. She said that his comment was only to see if I was interested. But I am mad at myself for not saying more. Should I try to avoid him completely or tell him that he is being totally inappropriate and I do not want to interact with him ever again?
The interesting part is that I a not someone in my 30s, 40s, but in my late 50s. My sister jokingly said that I should be flattered, but I am really unnerved by all of this.