Q for members with childrens.

[charleston1]

We were both 24 when we got married (too young) but waited until we were 30 when the first was born. We were both 34 when our second child was born.

I think we were too young for marriage at 24; however I think we were mentally and financially the right age for us for timing our two kids.

I remember back in 1989 before we went to prenatal classes I thought we would be one of the older couples but when we got there the first night, my husband (at age 30) was the only one with a full head of hair. (Oh I know lots of men got bald young, but the other parents looked quite a bit older. I think it was more that the "younger" parents did not go to prenatal classes).

 

[amc80]

DH and I were 32 when the kiddo was born. We wish we were younger when we started, but that's because we want two more and are now close to 34. But we didn't meet until we were 29 and we started TTC as soon as we were married, so we really couldn't have started earlier...at least not with each other.

 

[ericad]

I was 29, DH was 39 when our only child, DD, was born. We had been married 8 years. It was perfect for us!

 

[random_thought]

I was 25 when DS was born, I turned 26 2 months after. Now I'll be 30 in July and I've been trying for #2 for over 2 years

 

[SandyCheeks]

32 --- DD was born I had lots of energy and enthusiasm

34 --- DS was born still had energy and excitement

40 --- DS #2 came along, I'm exhausted!!! He should've been born first when I had a higher energy level and my DD who is calm and easy going should've been born last.

 

[MrsBettyBoop]

We were 24 with #1 and 25 with #2/#3, I feel like we timed it perfectly for us. We weren't necessarily prepared for that double whammy that hit us the second time around though.

 

[gem_anemone]

I'm 33 and pregnant. I'll probably be 34 by the time DS is born...unless he comes early as his due date is 10 days after my birthday.

This is my first child. There is no way I was responsible/well off enough to have a kid before now without being totally miserable with my life. Also I didn't meet DH until I was 28 and we have spent a lot of time gearing up for having our family. We are happy we did it this way!

 

[NTave]

I was 25 with my first, 28 with my second. I think it was good age for me, I certainly felt like I was ready, career wise, owning a home, etc. I could have picked a better partner, but parenting wise I was thankful to have them.

 

[SB621]

We have acquintances in our neighborhood who are 49 years old. This is their 2nd marriage and they both have children and grandchildren from their previous marriage. But at 49 they decided they wanted to have kids together. They had a set of twin girls and while they love them to pieces I haven't seen them NOT look exhausted in months. I can't picture my children being 27 years apart!!! Sorry just my random thought for the day.

 

[armywife13]

We have acquintances in our neighborhood who are 49 years old. This is their 2nd marriage and they both have children and grandchildren from their previous marriage. But at 49 they decided they wanted to have kids together. They had a set of twin girls and while they love them to pieces I haven't seen them NOT look exhausted in months. I can't picture my children being 27 years apart!!! Sorry just my random thought for the day.

One of the doctors at the clinic I go to is in a similar situation. He is 59, was previously married and his three children are between 28-32. He got remarried two years ago-his second wife is 40, never married before, no kids. They decided to have a child together this past year and, oh my gosh, you can tell it has been rough on him.

 

[Dancing Fire]

We have acquintances in our neighborhood who are 49 years old. This is their 2nd marriage and they both have children and grandchildren from their previous marriage. But at 49 they decided they wanted to have kids together. They had a set of twin girls and while they love them to pieces I haven't seen them NOT look exhausted in months. I can't picture my children being 27 years apart!!! Sorry just my random thought for the day.

One of the doctors at the clinic I go to is in a similar situation. He is 59, was previously married and his three children are between 28-32. He got remarried two years ago-his second wife is 40, never married before, no kids. They decided to have a child together this past year and, oh my gosh, you can tell it has been rough on him.

He will be 77 when this child graduate from HS..

 

[armywife13]

We have acquintances in our neighborhood who are 49 years old. This is their 2nd marriage and they both have children and grandchildren from their previous marriage. But at 49 they decided they wanted to have kids together. They had a set of twin girls and while they love them to pieces I haven't seen them NOT look exhausted in months. I can't picture my children being 27 years apart!!! Sorry just my random thought for the day.

One of the doctors at the clinic I go to is in a similar situation. He is 59, was previously married and his three children are between 28-32. He got remarried two years ago-his second wife is 40, never married before, no kids. They decided to have a child together this past year and, oh my gosh, you can tell it has been rough on him.

He will be 77 when this child graduate from HS..

So much for enjoying retirement!

 

[asscherisme]

I was 27 when my first child. I don't think I was too young, however I think that I had a child way to early into my marriage and without knowing my ex long enough. I think age is only one part of whether you are ready to have a child. Life experience as well as how stable your relationships are and how well you know the person you are planning a child with.

I only knew my ex for 5 months when he proposed and 13 month total when we were married. I got pregnant 5 months into the marriage. Looking back, its crazy how fast it all happened! I don't regret my kids, they are my life. But I would not want my kids to follow in my timeline.

 

[JaneSmith]

I was 25 when DS was born, I turned 26 2 months after. Now I'll be 30 in July and I've been trying for #2 for over 2 years

Sending baby magic your way sweetie.




I was 30, married for 5 years.

 

[Dancing Fire]

We have acquintances in our neighborhood who are 49 years old. This is their 2nd marriage and they both have children and grandchildren from their previous marriage. But at 49 they decided they wanted to have kids together. They had a set of twin girls and while they love them to pieces I haven't seen them NOT look exhausted in months. I can't picture my children being 27 years apart!!! Sorry just my random thought for the day.

One of the doctors at the clinic I go to is in a similar situation. He is 59, was previously married and his three children are between 28-32. He got remarried two years ago-his second wife is 40, never married before, no kids. They decided to have a child together this past year and, oh my gosh, you can tell it has been rough on him.

He will be 77 when this child graduate from HS..

So much for enjoying retirement!

No more Viagra for him!..

 

[FrekeChild]

We're the same age. Met at 23, married at 27, daughter was born at 29.

Two sides to this coin:
1. I wish we had been younger so we had more energy (read: could stay up late and still get up early and be able to function)
2. I wish we had been older so we would have more $$$$$$$.

He was finishing his phd at the time, and I was working my first job out of school, and money was not great, but not terrible either. But again, the sleep and energy thing...

ETA: My brother and SIL have children 18 years apart. The youngest is almost 4, the eldest is 21. There are another three in between. My brother is going to be 52. He's already completely gray...

 

[Dancing Fire]

Freke...I still can't imagine that you are a mommy...

 

[Trekkie]

Deleted emo entry!

 

[autumngems]

I was 30, hubby was 37, married 12 years. Wanted to wait until we came back to the states from being stationed in Japan.

 

[qtiekiki]

DH is 2 years older than me. I was 28 when DD was born, and 30 when DS was born. We had been married for 3 years by then. I think our timing is good. I wanted kids as soon as I got married, but DH was not ready. I am glad we had a few years without kids.

 

[Amber St. Clare]

I was 33, the husband was 31. I considered him my miracle child, I had severe gyno problems in my 20s. {first husband}. I had a miscarriage in my mid-20s and frequently wonder how my life would be so different had this baby lived. In a way I think it all turned out for the best as I would HATE to have to have any kind of interaction with my first husband.

 

[MonkeysInk]

My oldest was born when I was 22 and my then-husband was 25. Oh, the looks and the comments about teen moms, responsibility, etc., were just horrible!

I divorced and remarried, and had two more children. My husband and I were 31 and 42, then 32 and 43 when our boys were born. We're not sure we're finished, but our oldest begs us not to have more because she'll be in college before they're in elementary, which makes her sad. I dunno...we have space in our home and in our hearts, so we'll see...

We got funny comments - at first it was like "they'll be nine years apart?", then it was like "two so close together?" and now people just gape when we tell them ours are 1, 2 and 11.

My husband's family is blended and shaken and stirred and any other way you can mix people up. The stepdad who raised him is divorced from DH's mom, and remarried again. Stepdad missed my husband's first wedding because he was having another baby. My husband and his youngest brother are 27 years apart. It was very confusing to me when we first met and he'd talk about his sister (who's just a few years younger than him) and his brother (who, at the time, was still in elementary school). My daughter calls him her "kunkle" ("kid uncle") because they're just a few years apart.

 

[jaysonsmom]

I just found out through FB that 2 of my high school classmates are having their first babies soon....they will both be moms for the first time at 41! I now a lot of celebrities do it, but most of the 40-something pregnant women I've encountered have had their first babies before 40.

 

[misskittycat]

I was 35, my husband was 48 when our one and only was born. We were married for 3 years before we fell pregnant. It was a long and bumpy road (IVF) but I don't regret a moment of it and wouldn't have changed it. We love her so much. We were both very financially secure before we had her (no mortgage, substantial savings). I had a fairly busy career which I gave up to be a stay at home mum and my husband retired.

We are going to start trying again next month (our little girl is just over two). Wish us luck!

 

[Natylad]

I had my first baby with my ex husband..I had just turned 27 and he was 38.
I had my second baby with my DH when i was 37. He was 31. Now he says he wants another one and i am sooooooooo tired