I took everyone's advice and wrote down a list of all the bad things, to read when I start feeling weak again. I think picking up some extra shifts at work is a good idea, it will keep me busy and keep me from feeling lonely and reaching out to him. I start back to school for my master's degree to be a nurse practitioner in May, so that will keep me busy as well. I just kept thinking that maybe my expectations for appropriate behavior were wrong, but I'm glad to hear that everyone else agrees that he shouldn't be talking to others and putting effort into anyone else besides me. I kept thinking it would change if we got married, because that's what he always told me, but that was just wishful thinking and me being afraid of being alone. I keep re-reading everyones responses when I start feeling sad and lonely again, and it definitely helps. I think volunteering may also be a good idea to get out and meet people while giving back, and there is a free clinic here in town that I am going to check into helping out at. Thanks again for the affirmations that I deserve something better than what he was offering, I knew it all along, but it took me a long time to figure it out. Unfortunately, it doesn't make the hurt any better, but I know it will in time.